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Is your GirlFriend Manipulative?

2011-09-14T02:55:00.000-07:00

To be a wuss is to be as a pussy
She’s sexy. She’s hot. She turns you on more than any woman you’ve ever been with. Are you excited yet? Is there any problem that you can see in the foreseeable future?

In the beginning of the relationship, she does everything for you. She’s cool. You go out with your friends, she doesn’t question it at all. No crazy texts. No psychotic e-mails. Nothing. You start falling for her. You think you’ve met the most incredible woman you’ve ever met in your entire life.

And then all of a sudden, she doesn’t get her way with something. And she starts using those female manipulation tactics. She starts questioning things that she was being so cool about at the beginning. All of a sudden now, she thinks you’re flirting on Facebook. Or she thinks those girls you just added as friends are women that you want to have sex with.

She actually is now trying to control your entire life. Control in a way that you don’t want to be controlled. But yet the sex is so great. She is cool most of the time, but all of a sudden you’re in this relationship with her and things are changing on a daily basis. You notice that if she doesn’t get her way, she becomes accusatory and she becomes downright mean at times. She starts using sex as a bargaining chip. She starts holding out for Coffees, great dinners and other things. She starts talking about the future, but in that future you need to change some of the things that she was so excited about in the beginning.

You know what she’s doing guys? She’s a manipulative girlfriend. She’s a girlfriend that basically loved you for whomever you were, but now decided that she really wants you a different way, and she will not quit until she gets her way.

Oh, she’ll make the sex great. You’ll take her to her favorite restaurant and she’ll give you the best blow job and the best sex you’ve ever had. But then she’ll take it away again the next time she doesn’t get her way.

I’m not into manipulative girlfriends. I’m not into girlfriends that try to control you and de-balls you. As far as I’m concerned, if she liked you from the beginning she should love you more where you’re at now.

Don’t be taken in by a manipulative girlfriend. Don’t be suckered in by some great sex. The bottom line is, if you’re with a manipulative woman, a woman that always wants her way, a woman that is devious and accusatory and jealous over things that don’t even exist, my suggestion to you is to run, to hide and get out of there fast.

After The Breakup

2011-06-21T06:51:00.000-07:00

It hurts... time to get over it...
Breakups are never easy. They inevitably mean change, which for some may be easier than others. When you are in a relationship, you become content with the comfort blanket you significant other provides. For those who experience a divorce, it can often seem like “starting fresh” is nearly impossible. No matter how hard one tries, there’s no shortcut to get over the grieving process. The only way to take that first step is to embrace it. At some point or another relationships will experience hardships and to understand that breakups sometimes benefit both parties is to understand that not all “tragedies” are bad. Here are a few tips to help prepare yourself for what is to come.

Release Your Inner Anger

Anger can manifest itself into outrageous things. For some it could be transferred onto those who are closest to them. For others it can be against their past girlfriend for causing pain and hurt. Most however, tend to be angry at themselves. “What could I have done differently?” “What did I do wrong?” and “What could I have done differently?” are all questions that one asks in beginning to rationalize their breakup. The lack of control one experiences during a breakup can cause anger if not more commonly frustration.

Everyone deals with anger differently. The important aspect is to release the anger. If that means joining a gym (which benefits you in more ways than one), screaming as loud as you can, etc you MUST release that lingering anger. This does not mean you call your ex and yell at her. Transferring your anger on anyone (especially your ex) will not help. Even when appropriate (you ex cheats or hurts you) yelling will only highlight the fact that you are in the bitter stage of the break up.

Reframe your mind

It is normal to kick start your brain into thinking how you could have avoided the breakup. It is natural to attempt to make sense of the situation in order to get over the pain. It is even common to play the break up if not the whole relationship in your head until you can “see” where things went wrong. Doing this gives you something to do however it won’t get you anywhere The truth is you may never understand why this happened. The reasons she gave you may not be the actual reasons at all for why the breakup occurred so taking her words literally may not be the best thing.

Whenever you begin to think of her or any situation around her you have to force yourself to STOP and redirect your thoughts into something more productive. Take a deep breathe, notice what is going on around you and focus your energy in proactive situations instead of diving deep in thoughts that are for a lack of better words “DEAD”. There are plenty of girls out there.

I suggest you change the way your brain works. Positive thinking can be very useful. When you get into a habit of positive thinking, positive results will manifest itself in your life. The more positively you push yourself to think the easier it will be to see the positive aspects of any situation (e.g. your breakup).

Listen to Music

According to past and recent research, listening to music is one of the quickest ways to instantly change your mood. Music is very powerful in the sense that it alters parts of your brain that other things can’t. Music is what our emotions sound like so do not underestimate the power it has in getting over a relationship. Singing along will also help due to the release of endorphins.

Change Your Style

Reinvent yourself. Don’t let the breakup consume who you are. Go shopping; get a hair cut, shave, and gear up for the great nights there are to come. Preparing yourself for new women can do wonders for your psyche and it will also assist in helping you build your self-confidence again.

Side Note: Breakups can often rob our self-esteem and confidence, it is important to realize that only you can rebuild this and relying on other women, your friends, etc will result in a temporary fix that will yield bigger issues down the road when the emptiness raises to the surface. You should dictate what builds you up because you are the only person who truly knows how YOU work.

Spend time with different women

Perspective is an amazing concept. Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project stated “both men and women find relationships with women to be more intimate and enjoyable than those with men.” With that said, surround your life with women, of all types and walks of life. DO NOT talk to them about your pains. The past is the past and you must force yourself to move on.

The 3 Letter Principle

Write a letter to your ex, one to the world, and the most important one is to write one to yourself. Keep in mind NONE of these letters will be sent. The idea is to release the emotions that are inside. It doesn’t have to make sense nor be uniform (grammar doesn’t matter either). Write how you feel and explain your emotions of anger, frustration, disappointment, happiness etc

Letter to you ex: Write all the things you wish you could say to her. Say whatever you want and envision you being face to face with her.

Letter to the world: Write a letter to the universe stating all the positive and powerful things you plan on doing from this day forward.

Letter to yourself: Write this letter so that you can get out the person you will become. Write it and describe how you envision yourself being at the best point in your life.

After you are done, throw them out. Avoid reading them, as they will only highlight what you wrote and perhaps even taking what you wrote in. Throw it out and forget it, only after you do this will you see how powerful this is.

Know the Truth

We all take breakups personally. We assume that no one will understand or make us happy like our ex did. The truth is that you will not end up alone. Let me rephrase, you will not end up alone so long as YOU do not want to end up alone. DO not let your age, look, personality blind you of the rich opportunity that lies ahead. These characteristics have no direct correlation to how happy you can be. See yourself happy, visualize it and then seize it knowing that you are ultimately in control of every outcome of your life. Control the situations that you can and forget about the ones that you cannot.

Final Thoughts

Every relationship you experience will undergo a linear phase that will contain a start, middle and an end. Accept this. Even if you never breakup and you spend your entire life with someone, eventually you will see an end (death). Be inspired by this. Know the requirement you have for the next person in your life but also work on becoming a better person. You should push yourself every single day to be better. This with the combination of positive thinking will have you where you want to be very quickly.

Why Sex makes guys healthier.

2011-01-01T03:24:00.000-08:00

OK lemme start by sayin HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!! yea!! alrite here's another gem of advice for guys about sex well not just guys even girls who wanna maybe make thier guys healthy if you know what i mean ;)

No.10 Calorie burn

While sex alone may not be enough to create bulging biceps and washboard abs, intercourse definitely gets the blood pumping by raising the heart rate and burning calories. Estimates show that an average session between the sheets can burn 85 to upwards of 200 calories in 30 minutes. If you spent half an hour having sex daily, that could lead to a weight loss of 10 pounds or more over the course of a year. And it’s hopefully more fun than a run on the treadmill.

No.9 Strength training

In addition to burning calories, sex aids in testosterone production, which can strengthen bones and muscles. Testosterone is also responsible for maintaining healthy energy levels, mood, fertility, and sexual desire. So having sex today could help keep your sex drive up down the road. Decreasing testosterone levels, known as andropause or male menopause, can result in a number of side effects including decreased libido, fatigue and depression, among others.

No.8 Cancer prevention

A number of studies show that men who ejaculate on a regular basis are more than 30% less likely to develop prostate cancer. Regular ejaculation, whether from intercourse or masturbation, help flush out the prostate, which may help curb the development of prostate cancer.

No.7 Improved cardiovascular health

Because sex is a good form of exercise, it makes sense that it would positively impact the health of your heart. A study from Queens University shows that men who have sex more than three times a week cut their risk of heart attack and stroke in half. Sex has also been shown to lower blood pressure, which further accounts for the overall positive impact on cardiovascular health.

No.6 Stress relief

The decreased blood pressure that can result from sex could help lower your stress level. Various study participants have been shown to have a smaller rise in blood pressure during stressful situations after sex, as compared to other test subjects. Moreover, sex releases feel-good endorphins that can help lower anxiety. Who doesn’t want to forget about a tough day at the office with a good roll in the hay?

No.6 Stress relief

The decreased blood pressure that can result from sex could help lower your stress level. Various study participants have been shown to have a smaller rise in blood pressure during stressful situations after sex, as compared to other test subjects. Moreover, sex releases feel-good endorphins that can help lower anxiety. Who doesn’t want to forget about a tough day at the office with a good roll in the hay?

No.5 Boosting your immunity

Everyone is looking for ways to keep their immune system strong during this flu season -- one that could potentially be the worst in years. What men may not realize is that regular intercourse increases levels of immunoglobulin A, an antibody known to boost the immune system. Having sex once or twice a week could help ward off colds or the flu.

No.4 Improved intimacy

Right before orgasm a number of endorphins are released and levels of the hormone oxytocin, sometimes referred to as the “love hormone,” surge to five times their normal level. Oxytocin has also been linked to an increased feeling of generosity, and is known to act as a neurotransmitter in the brain, building trust and helping to strengthen bonds.

No.3 Pain relief

In addition to bonding you with your partner, oxytocin, serotonin and other endorphins released during your sexual peak can help alleviate pain associated with common problems like headache or arthritis. Next time you’re suffering from neck pain or a stress headache, try forgoing the Advil and hopping in the sack instead.

No.2 Improved sleep

Oxytocin may sound like the new wonder drug when you consider that research has also shown that the increased levels of the hormone, along with the antidepressant chemical serotonin (which is also released during orgasm) promote deep sleep. Getting a restful night of sleep has been associated with a number of other health benefits, such as maintaining a healthy weight and lowering blood pressure.

No.1 Long-term reproductive health

Just as men need regular physical activity to stay healthy and fit, exercising the penis, by achieving erections, is key to maintaining a healthy sex life for years to come. Men who don’t regularly engage in sexual activity or masturbation are at a greater risk for penile atrophy down the road. Just as they should aim for a full-body workout three times a week, men should try to exercise the penis at least three times a week as a way to help ward off erectile dysfunction or other sexual health issues later in life.

While regular sexual activity is an important part of overall health and well-being in men, many men with health conditions such as diabetes, hypertension and cancer find erectile dysfunction to be an upsetting side effect of their condition. If you’re one of the millions of men who suffer from ED as a side effect of a health condition, don’t lose hope. There are treatment options available that could help you restore sexual function so you can enjoy all the health benefits mentioned here.

...soo enough said :P....
Darkcasanova

SEX application from. :P

2010-12-23T05:06:00.000-08:00

Behold, the Sexual Resume! It would be similar to a normal job application except you would be hooked up to a polygraph while you filled it out so you would have to tell the truth, unlike regular ones (74 words per minute, my ass). It might look a little somethin' like this...

Last name: _______________

First name: __________
Cell number: (___) ___-_____

Are you of age 18 or older? Y / N (circle one)

Have you ever had sex with me before? Y / N (circle one); if Yes, when? __/__/__

Have you ever had sex with anyone related to me before? Y / N (circle one); if Yes, when? __/__/__

Have you ever been diagnosed with a Sexually Transmitted Disease? Y / N (circle one); the existence of a diagnosed STD will not constitute an automatic disqualification from this encounter.

Please list your last three sexual encounters, starting with the most recent: _______________________________________
_______________________________________
_______________________________________

Number of total partners: With opposite sex: _____; With same sex: _____

Previous partners' approximate orgasm rate: ___ %

Average duration of sexual encounters: ___ minute(s)

Do you expect me to go downtown? Y / N (circle one)

Can I expect you to go downtown? Y / N (circle one)

Do you: Spit / Swallow (circle one)

What position(s) are you applying for? _____________________

Please list any special skills/techniques you think make you a good candidate for this encounter: ____________________________________

Do you have a reliable source of transportation? Y / N (circle one)

Are you available on holidays? Y / N (circle one)

Males: Length: _____ inches

Females: Boobies: ___ A / B / C / D / DD (circle one)
Implants / Natural (circle one)

Would you prefer cuddling afterwards? Y / N (circle one)

Would you prefer to spend the night? Y / N (circle one)

Would you consider future encounters? Y / N (circle one)

I, _______________, hereby consent to engaging in sexual intercourse with ___________ and understand that the act will be mutual. I also understand that this encounter will be confidental unless stated otherwise in writing by both parties.

_________________________
Signature

_____________
Today's Date

Fill them forms out and Start enjoying people!!!
...........DarkCasanova.........

Why looks matters

2010-12-13T06:50:00.000-08:00

Even Stewie looks good... with work

Game and confidence are the two most important factors that come into play... but looks do matter, and they matter a lot.

Now I'm not talking natural looks, because when you really think about it... in what way does your god-given looks tell something about who you are?

They DON'T! They were given to you for free, regardless of if they are good or bad... you didn't do a damn thing to earn them, so they do not display your character in any way. Think about this : What if people were given a challenge by god before their birth, and your performance in this challenge directly affected how you would look once you were born. Scoring high would give you good looks, while scoring low would not. If this was the case... then natural looks would be a display of character, but the world doesn't work this way (because I just made that all up)... so natural looks in the real world do not tell women anything about what they are REALLY attracted to...

Modern society has made it easier for "male model" types to get women, but for the first million or so years of our evolution it did not work this way at all. Throughout our history men have been the only sex that would only be attracted by looks, because in reality it was all women had to offer : Better looking mother = better looking kids... bigger tits = more food for your infants, and so on. Women on the other hand, were automatically programmed to search for mates for very different reasons : Smarter man = better chance of survival, stronger man = he can work harder and protect her and the children better, higher social status man = more perks for her family in the community, etc. etc. etc.

Notice the trend there? None of the traits that women are naturally attracted to have anything to do with looks... up until maybe 100 years ago it didn't matter if a guy looked like sloth from the goonies... if he had all of the above he'd be banging the Jessica Albas(yea love her ) of his time. Now even though our modern cultures have changed in many ways, and nowadays they tend to change faster than ever... evolutionary programming like that does not go away, at least not without another million years of evolution from the point we are at right now. This means that even though TV, music, magazines and movies may disrupt the way that women are attracted to men, it can not pull the "smoke and mirrors" trick on their basic natural instincts. One modern display of this is gold digger women... in my point of view women who do this are doing nothing wrong at all, they are simply following their instinct to find the best possible provider.

Ok, enough of explaining... you should get idea by now, back to the part where I was describing what traits the cave women were looking for in a cave man. When put all together, what do those traits describe...

The man's character... in essence, what type of man he is and who he is. These are things he has earned and were not given to him... so they are displayed to others as a projecting of himself, and clearly outshine anything that is resting on the surface.

Now we come to the only flaw in this theory, and it is the fact that the new world we live in puts so much emphasis on what people look like... at in most cases judge people by it. So what is a guy with not so good natural looks going to do? He can turn his outer appearance into something more powerful than what he was born with... even more powerful than what someone who is better looking than him was born with. How?

I'm glad you asked He can utilize any and everything at his disposal to improve his appearance (lifting, nice clothes, the acne thing, trimmed and near body/facial hair, great hair style, tanned body... and the list goes on). He can do this until he is positive that he looks HIS absolute best... and by doing so he will not only turn his outer appearance into just something that attracts women because it looks good, but he will also be turning his outer appearance into one of those "cave man" traits that I described earlier... because now it is not just something that was given to him, it is something that he earned... and has become a part of his character. Now THAT is attractive.

....DarkCasanova....

The Sex Warm Up

2010-12-04T08:56:00.000-08:00

........Love and Sex........

You guys have heard the old saying that women are like ovens, and you have to warm them up. And I've found that HOW you warm them up is 99% of the battle.

Once the kissing starts, always leave her wanting more. Pull away mid-kiss and smile....Tease her like crazy...Kiss her neck, blow on it, and pull away. Reach behind above her neck, pull her hair back, and bite it lightly...Drive her nuts!

Now, (assuming you have her in your room by now), THROW her back against the bed, and jump on top of her! Start off with soft kisses... Then slowly start to go crazy with animal lust! Pulling, kissing, sucking, breathing, etc. Keep this up for a few minutes (she'll be going nuts by now!), and then...

Sloooowwwwww down. Way down. And switch completely into loving caressing mode. Give her nice soft kisses, stroke her hair, look in her eyes, give compliments, kiss her cheeks, neck, shoulders, put her arms around you...

Keep this up for a few minutes.

And then...

Switch back into crazy ANIMAL FRENZY MODE!

This time you mean in! Grab her arms and hold them above her head with one hand while you kiss her passionately. Bite her neck (not to hard, psycho), pull her hair with BOTH hands while your kissing her, breathe hot and heavy on her neck...

She will probably be flooding her jeans by now!

And just when she least expects it, switch back into soft caressing mode. Sit up and have her straddle you while your on your knees. Look deep in her eyes, keep this up for a few...And then...

It's time for my favorite move of all!

Push her back down on the bed...Resume the ANIMALISTIC kissing, then, PICK HER UP so you are both standing up next to the bed, put one hand behind her head and grab her hair, and put your other hand around her waist. What you are doing is creating a cushion here, because now you are going to...

Slam her up against the wall!

Well, not exactly. Your arms are the only thing that will hit the wall, but it makes a loud sound! (Hint: If any part of her hits the wall, your doing something wrong, AND you're a dumbass! Do this one with care, guys...It's all for the effect).

Keep up the animalistic urges. By this time clothes should be coming off. And she should be more turned on then she has ever been in her ENTIRE LIFE!

Toss her back onto the bed, and if she's not tearing your clothes off, or tearing through your drawers looking for a condom, just keep it up this on/off hard/soft process. She will be soon!

Remember, every girl's fantasy is to be RAVAGED by a sexual BEAST like yourself...But not many guys have the balls to actually do it!

This will separate you from anyone else she's ever been with, and she will have to have you right then and there!

Sometimes this process takes 20 minutes, and sometimes it takes 4 hours. Mix of the lengths of time you spend in each state...Don't be predictable.

Also, if she says or does anything you don't like, say, "ok, fine", and IMMEDIATELY roll over and start snoring loudly.

She will quickly change her mind!

Ok, boys, that's it! Grow some balls and try this out!!

....DarkCasanova....

Shit Tests and How to deal with them.

2010-11-09T01:49:00.000-08:00

WTF is a SHIT TEST????

A Shit Test refers to something a woman does or says to a man in order to engender a response. If the man supplicates, he fails the shit test. If the man responds in a dominant fashion, he passes the shit test.
"How old are you?" : This came from an older girl (only by 2 years!!). I basically fucked this one by just actually saying my age. However, because I was confident and quite alpha it didnt really matter. I should have busted her balls about being older than me maybe. Other option: get her to guess, never tell her (stay mysterious), whether she is older or younger doesnt matter just stay the prize (ie: make her feel inferior for being either older or younger, whichever applies)

I've just split with my ex boyfriend (or something like this): When this happened to me I just tried to divert her away from this as fast as possible. It could start dropping them out of state way to fast so just plowed right back into another topic. I think really do anything could be better than letting her talk about this. My exact response was taking over the frame and saying basically "Yeah I just split up with a girlfriend too.." then I went into a spiel about freedom and independence and not wanting to be tied down and how exciting it was to live spontaneously.

"I dont think we/I should be doing this": I think if your coming in with a strong frame/alpha attitude you can plow this one completely. I plowed through it once with quite a shy girl on a night where I was feeling particularly confident. I just basically ignored she ever said it and continued gaming, resulted in kiss closure. Other option: just agree in a cheeky/cocky funny way and continue as before.

'hey, i saw this blahblah the other day, buy it for me!'- this one is popular around my area, the way i deal with this : 'hahaha, nice try' + pat on the back

"What are we doing here?".

At the time I said "I don´t know.", definitly the wrong answer.

Possible answers:

-nothing, just kiss her again
-"Well, I think we share a unique moment here"
-"Shhh, don´t ruin the moment"

You don't smoke weed, do you? = What kind of stupid question is that? As if that shit even matters.

What do you do for work? = Bee keeper

"My friend is really lonely tonight can she come?"

"Aww damn, I was about to ask you if (insert a guy's name here) could come along, he's a real drag, his ex just ate his heart. How about it?"

"Is that your real name?"

"Jeez, You need proof of ID to get in everywhere these days." *fumble around your pockets*

"You don't drink do you."

"Only when i'm thristy. Oh! Alcohol. That reminds me..."
"Is my water weight shwoing that much" (this one only works with some girls)
"Can't live with out it."
"Please." [with a "give-me-a-break" attidue and expression]

"You're just trying to get into my pants."

"What are, joking? You're like a size 2, my nuts would be turned into crepes."

"Actually, I'm just trying to get them off you." (Works fabulous... I don't get women)

.....DarkCasanova.....

Grow Some Ballls!!!!

2010-09-18T05:11:00.000-07:00

Why do i hear more and more stories of guys crying over a girl?? is it nowadays a must to keep the girl in the relationship??

I personally heard stories of guys calling girls and begging them not to leave them while crying their balls off!!!

I mean seriously guys it's like you have grown but aint got 2 nuts yet!!! it's not that I aint got a heart or am not a guy with emotion but crying just over sumthing stupid is not in my favorite things to do list....

Cryng is normal for everyone, there is a time and place for it. It's not cause your GF is pissed off at you over something and tries to leave you NO it's not even close....

Dont be a Wusssy ( Should call it Pussy)

this also concerns you if you are a "nice guy" who never seems to be able to attract HOT women, or you have attractive female friends who always seem to say, "He's really wonderful, but I just like him as a FRIEND", then this could possibly be the single most important thing you ever read in your entire life.

And I'm not kidding... not even a little.

If I had to sum up the biggest mistake that I see men making with women (and the big mistake that I've made myself too many times to count), it's being a WUSSY.

Being a WUSS comes in two main flavors:

1) Acting like a WUSSY to begin with.

2) Turning INTO a WUSSY as you get to know her.

I would venture to guess that most men either act like WUSSIES with women they're attracted to ALL the time, or they turn into WUSSIES within a few weeks or months of meeting a woman that they REALLY like.

I know, this sounds a little strange, right?

What the heck should being a Wuss have to do with attracting women?

The answer: EVERYTHING.

Have you ever had an attractive female friend who liked to date abusive jerks... and then tell YOU about the abuse she was putting up with... all the while you would have done ANYTHING for a chance to be with her?

Yeah, me too.

That's what I mean it when I say that you can actually make things WORSE by TRYING HARDER when you don't "get" how attraction works.

If I had to sum it all up, and describe the one HUGE mistake that men make with women... the one that causes the most pain and prevents the most success, I'd have to say that it was...

BEING A WUSSY, OR TURNING INTO ONE.

For a lot of reasons, a WUSSY just doesn't make for an interesting, romantic counterpart. Women will SETTLE for a Wuss, or even SETTLE DOWN with one (usually after the Wuss has demonstrated his TOTAL lack of self-respect, and his COMPLETE willingness to put aside all of his own needs for a woman). Unfortunately, this often ends with the woman cheating on the Wuss, leaving him for someone else, taking everything from him (including his self esteem) etc...

I digress...

The point is, a WUSSY doesn't trigger ATTRACTION.

Wussies are BORING. They're needy. They lack ENERGY, act CLINGY, and make women feel TRAPPED and repulsed.

Everything about the WUSS spells "DON'T PICK ME".

Now, the first thing most guys say when they hear this news is, "But I don't want to be a JERK to women" or "I like the idea of being NICE" or "I'm just being MYSELF with women... what's wrong with that?".

I can identify.

I get it.

I spent many years of my life thinking these kinds of things.

Well, the good news is that you don't need to be a "jerk" or treat women badly to attract them. lol...

You just need to:

1) Abandon your Wussy Ways.

2) Learn how ATTRACTION works.

3) Change how you look at relationships.

4) Learn the specific things that you need to do in each situation to meet women and make them feel that wonderful, powerful, magical, elusive emotion called ATTRACTION.

5) Never "slip", or allow yourself to start behaving like a WUSSY as you get to know a woman.

Doesn't sound too hard, right?

Now as an interesting twist am gonna Share a story with you guys whom a female friend described to me

"So I'm dating a nice guy now and it SUCKS. No other way to explain it, it just SUCKS. He's no challenge. He agrees with everything I say. He's got it all though - a decent job, a nice place, no kids, no psycho ex-wives, and he's tall and cute. Anyone ever seen that Friends episode when Alec Baldwin played Phoebe's boyfriend?? YEAH, my boyfriend is THAT nice. He's just too fvcking nice. Nice is boring. I've never heard him raise his voice. He's never aggressive. He has no edge. He won't even drive near speed limit and that fvcking annoys the sh.t out of me, yet I sit at the back and keep my mouth shut… watching everyone whiz by us.

And don't get me started on the sex. Oh, excuse me…making love. After he cums (note I didn't mention anything about ME cumming), he rolls over and says "Oh, that was nice" with a little sigh. I KID YOU NOT, he says it EVERY TIME and then he sighs like he has just woken from a refreshing nap. I finally got so tired of missionary and him looking lovingly into my eyes and smiling as he came, that I threw him down on the couch one night and mounted him. At first he was terrified - yes, TERRIFIED. He thought something had possessed me. And it HAD — it was sheer MADNESS. I fvcked the sh.t out of him that night. And then he sighed and said "Oh, that was nice".

Now that we had the cowgirl position conquered (always with that sigh afterwards), it was time to move on to doggie. His ex-girlfriend never did doggie (hmmm… maybe there's a "nice" ex-girlfriend to blame for his timid niceness?? That bitch…). Anyway, I digress. I tell him I want him to fvck me from behind. Yes, I used the word "fvck" and I didn't care what he thought about it. He gets behind me and enters me, and damned if he didn't say "OH, THIS IS NICE" !!! Are there any 30 y/o men out there that haven't smacked a woman's ass when doing her doggie?? YES, and he's my boyfriend!

its great that you're nice (to an extent),but have some backbone.Don't be a spine donor all your life. When your girl is out of line, say something.Don't let her walk all over you.Occasionally, be a "bad" boy (being bad doesn't translate to abusive or criminal).Say "No" to her sometimes.Raise your voice and be heard. Say something dirty/sexy to her occasionally. Smack her ASS!. Don't ever use the word NICE to describe things, especially sex (okay, that may be a personal pet peeve). Have an interest in at LEAST one sport (or pretend to). Drive 5-10 miles over the speed limit once in awhile.Be aggressive during sex.Grow a goatee for a few weeks. Shave your balls. Stray from your routine and shake things up. Fvck the hell outta her!!!!

BE A MAN FOR GOD'S SAKE… and the women will fall at your feet.

....DarkCasanova....

Happpyyy B DAY!!!

2010-09-05T10:42:00.000-07:00

yes It's the second anniversary of my blog.....gotta admit.... not much posts for such a long period of time but hey i got reasons for that too.... (like the police,family, no internet,etc etc)

would like to thank each and every reader out there who enjoys reading this blog and hope to see more readers visit tooo

and yea got like arounjd 5000+ blog hits!! which is ok compared to the amount of posts...

funny thing is despite how most articles are about guys stuff around 80% of the readers are FEMALE!!!! I LOVE U GIRLS !!!!

.....DarkCasanova.....

Fuck Buddy Guidelines (long yet intresting)

2010-08-26T00:25:00.000-07:00

Friends with Benifits(FwB) or Fuck buddys as some call it....

everyone got friends with benefits at least at one point of their lives right??? here's a guide for it (yes every things got a "how to do it guide/plan" )

1. Be HONEST about the relationship - to both HER and YOURSELF

The biggest trap that guys fall into with their FwBs is that they do not clearly delineate the relationship... as a result, they either trick the girl or even themselves into eventually believing that the relationship is something "more."

A FwB is someone you have access to and enjoy FUCKING regularly. She is not your girlfriend. She is not your soulmate. She is not even really your friend. She is your FwB... your FUCKbuddy. FUCK her... don't LOVE her.

Now, I'm not saying you can't fall in love with your FwB. Far from it. However, KNOW what you're getting yourself into. If you want this girl to be a GF, then she is NOT your FwB, she is your GIRLFRIEND. But if you just want the girl for SEX, then fully EMBRACE the FwB situation.

2. Don't see her too often.

When I have a FwB, I generally like to see her about once or twice a week. Why you ask? Shouldn't I be fucking her nonstop, getting as much as possible?

Well, that's nice. But it's dangerous. If you want this girl to be your GIRLFRIEND, then yes... hang out with her, spend lots of quality time with her, go on a date with her, sleep over every night, whatever. BUT, if she is your FwB, then you should be seeing her pretty much ONLY for sex. This goes back to being honest with yourself. The more OFTEN you see her, the FASTER she will develop FEELINGS for you... so that is the tradeoff: do you want a consistent once/twice-a-week lay for a longer period of time? Or are you so horny for this ONE girl that you will fuck her and hang out with her and treat her like a true-blue GF, causing her to fall for you FAST?

* Don't sleep over. - I'm serious. Don't sleep over. It's okay to cuddle for a while, but DON'T sleep over. She is not your GF. The only exception is when she is has nowhere else to stay except your place.

3. Bring your A-game at ALL TIMES. Don't "bond." - Once again, if you want her to be your GF, that is another matter. But if she is your true-blue FwB, you must ALWAYS be fucking on your A-game. Be FUN. Be PLAYFUL. Tease her, be cocky, CONSTANTLY ATTRACT HER. The whole REASON she wants you as her FwB is for the SEX and the EXCITEMENT you bring. Don't disappoint. Don't reveal some gay IW side. STAY SHARP.

4. Don't brag about other girls.

So you are popular with the ladies.... So what? Most probably, she can STILL pull just as much dick (if not more) than you can on the same night... BUT she's with you. She's seeing you just for sex, because you are THAT good. Show some respect.

Although she is not your GF, if you want this FwB arrangement to last, then you MUST maintain a relationship of equal respect and power. A FwB relationship INHERENTLY denotes an agreement between individuals of equal power and stature (well, until she develops feelings... in which case, you have much more power/influence) - you are trading sex for sex. Why compare cocks? Just enjoy yourself. Don't pull childish stunts or brag just for the hell of it. Just straight-up enjoy the sex.

If she brags or tries to make you jealous, just LAUGH IT OFF and FUCK HER HARD. Don't brag back. It's just gay.

5. Fuck her WELL. Period!

No excuses for this one. Like I said, you guys have a SEXUAL AGREEMENT. If she is not delivering, DITCH HER. But inversely, you must ALSO deliver. If you suck at sex, GET BETTER. FwBs are there so you guys can go WILD. Experiment with new positions, play out fantasies, try some kinky shit - the POINT of the arrangement is SEX after all.

ALWAYS make sure she's satisfied, even if it means cutting back on your own needs a bit. PLAY with the relationship. DON'T get BORING and PREDICTABLE. Sometimes, when I'm with a FwB, I will be like "Hey... wanna do something cool for 5 min?" Then fuck her for 5 min...... then pull out. Tease her. Have FUN.

6. The clock is TICKING!

It is the cardinal rule that if you keep fucking a girl consistently over a long period of time, she WILL start to develop feelings for you. The only way she won't develop feelings for you is if she falls for some other guy. In the case of the latter, she will probably stop fucking you because she wants to be with this other guy (if he is BF material). In the case of the former, where she starts to fall for YOU.... well, you must make a decision: do you want her as a GF or not?

Understand that either way, your FwB relationship is pretty much OVER. If you reject her feelings, she will not want to fuck you anymore, because she will feel you are a lost cause. It is very possible to drag a few more lays out of her, BUT this usually leads to mad drama and pain for everyone. If she falls in love with you and you DON'T want her as a GF, just tell her "Let's stay friends" and END it smoothly.

FwBs are not super long-term commitments at all. Due to the very nature of women, they are arrangements that CANNOT last over long long periods of time. So ENJOY yourself while you can and make sure SHE doesn't regret the time she was your FwB.

Conclusion:

The ultimate lesson from these guidelines can be applied to any situation, any girl, any relationship: Be HONEST with yourself, KNOW what you want, and GO after it.

Women are not goddesses. They are not magical deities. They are human. They are fragile. They are wonderful. By all means, let them enjoy pleasure... but NOT AT YOUR EXPENSE. Sex should be a MUTUALLY-PLEASURABLE thing.

If what she wants is not what YOU want, then there is no need to proceed further. It will only lead to pain and drama. Just NEXT and move ON. DON'T compromise your desires because you "feel bad." That's not love. That's PITY or SYMPATHY.

Being a man means being confident enough to protect and appreciate the ones you care about. HOWEVER, it also means RESPECTING others enough and having WISDOM enough to WALK AWAY when you foresee a clash of desires/needs.

Be honest. Be strong. Enjoy yourselves
.....DarkCasanova....

Mindset of Seduction

2010-08-08T00:57:00.000-07:00

XD

I make no excuses for my desires as a man.
I move through this world without apology.
I like to satisfy women.
I don't need any particular woman, I am not needy. Women are abundant.
I do not supplicate to women because they find it unattractive. Rejection is a good thing. The more I get rejected, the more I will get laid.
I learn something every time. Every rejection becomes a brick in my palace.
I do not dwell in the past. The past can not be relived, good or bad.
I have a wide range of options in how I choose to react to other people. The choice is mine.

Attitude – Part 1

Desire

You have to want this more than ANYTHING. If you don't, there's no point in going on.

Confidence/Cockiness/Arrogance

Confidence says – Hey, I'm something pretty special that's worth a close look. I know this based on my preparation, skills, and past successes.

Cockiness says – And I'm so confident, I can walk right up to you and have a good chance at winning you over. Oh, and while I'm a nice guy, I'm not worried about what I say to you or messing up. If you thought the ball was in your court, think again.

Arrogance says – You are inferior, if you don't give in to me, you are an idiot.

Confidence is great. A little cockiness is sometimes attractive. Arrogance is not.

If you present her with a dozen roses and she slams the door in your face, then move on. Guess what? You still have the dozen roses in your hands! Give it to some other fine woman who appreciates it!

Confidence is not something you think about, it is the way you are. It is a state of mind, a character trait. Ideally you feel so good and natural about it that the word "confidence" never pops up in your mind. The only way to develop confidence is to talk to as many HBs as possible, without any intention of trying to "hook up with her". Talk to them, say ‘hi', say ‘are you having fun?', say ‘Hi, are you the sort of person I should get to know better? Yes? Why?'. Then walk away. That WILL build CONFIDENCE.

Alpha Male

The alpha male is dominant. He's not an asshole. He's the guy who chooses women. He's having fun and he's confident. The alpha male isn't a condescending jerk.

Model the alpha male. What are his qualities? To me, an alpha male is:

Qualities of the Alpha Male

Is "The Man"
Hard to please
Unemotional, slightly serious. Gives smiles and laughs as rewards.
Talks slowly, deliberately. Enunciates.
Doesn't ask for things.
Is not afraid that others might not like him. Yet, is likable.
Is busy …
… and ends conversations, dates, etc. They are not ended for him.
Is comfortable hanging with hot women.
outgoing
uninhibited
forward
risk-taking
Motivated to seduce

The alpha male doesn't ask permission. And he doesn't give options.

Persistence

Keep trying. If you give up easy, this isn't for you.

You are moving forward on the path to Fulfillment. The only reason you are moving forward is because you are trying. Mistakes mean nothing in the end! If she rejects you, she has taught you something. There is no failure, only learning.

Try multiple girls, you will get blown out unless you can manage them all while being honest.

persistence = desire = strength
Stalking = neediness = weakness.

Work every day at this!

Patience

Keep trying. There will be plenty of failures. You are pushing past the edge of your comfort zone. You are living 100%, unlike most guys out there who have learned "their place".

Your one n only
......DarkCasanova.....

Posts that u guys might wanna check out!!!

2010-08-02T04:46:00.000-07:00

The picture in the post "Magic Love Spells"

Ok since am kinda busy a bit these days here are some posts that u alll might not have read but sure worth reading... here is the best posts of this blog uptodate!!!

A post about my passion in life: magic... "http://darkcasanova.blogspot.com/2010/07/magicmy-dark-art.html"

My Rules of life!!
"http://darkcasanova.blogspot.com/2010/03/25-rules-of-wisdom-mafia-style.html"

Magic LoveSpell!!!- A true story!!!
"http://darkcasanova.blogspot.com/2009/03/magic-love-spells.html"

How to get though Life Guide!!- Very funny one :D
"http://darkcasanova.blogspot.com/2009/04/how-to-get-through-life-list-for-guys.html"

A Rape story!!!
"http://darkcasanova.blogspot.com/2009/02/rape-oowarningdo-not-read-this-if-u.html"

Reasons Why kissing is good for you!!!
"http://darkcasanova.blogspot.com/2009/02/reasons-why-kissing-is-good-for-you.html"

Rules for the GIRLFRIEND!!!
"http://darkcasanova.blogspot.com/2008/11/rules-for-girlfriend.html"

Chocolate:one of the keys to a girls heart!!!
"http://darkcasanova.blogspot.com/2008/10/here-eat-this-for-guys.html"

Hope you Enjoy
.....DarkCasanova....

Magic....My Dark Art

2010-07-29T03:41:00.000-07:00

....My Obsession, My Gift, My Dark Art....

Walking....fast...denim shorts, Ripcurl Maldivian T-Shirt...Adias sneakers... Got heads turning to see me everywhere as I rushed past them quickly... Music blasting full volume on my earphones connected to my pink Samsung phone... Limp Bikit was the music I was feeling, as I walked in the heavy rain, soaking wet... Damn it... I was late...

2 days ago I had Promised my friend that I'l give a magic show cause her lil bro's got circumcised...as I entered the house people shifted their attention from the apparent gay wanna be cross dresser guy who was dancing to the "Waka Waka" song by shakira.. It was pretty hilarious :p... as I watched I noticed a girl enter the house with a guy...

She looked familier... she glancedaround the room and met my gaze... fuck.. it was my ex.. she started to leave but her 'guy-friend" stopped her and made her sit down on one of the chairs... It was pretty awkward... cause the magic show was up next... and man was I flipping out.. yea I know I shounlt have.. but counlt help myself...with a heart going fast as a double bass drum on a cradle of filth live concert, I got up and intro'd myself and started....

Started with a something I knew my ex would hate.. I made some fireballs and tossed them carelessly around in my hands.. onlookers were astonished.. wasent much a big deal to me though... did some scary shit like making stuff float.. and I asked if anyone would care to volunteer for my next trick... the "guy-friend" of my ex steped forward.. by now I guessed he would have known who I was now...

I asked him to keep in his mind a name... and he said ok... and I asked him to hold my left hand.... and to keep thinking about the name.... and I asked him to let go of my hand.... suddenly all was quiet... my ex ran out of the house... the "guy-friend" wet after her with blood on his hand.. and there I stood smiling like a Idiot as everyone gathered around me to look at my hand...

The guy-friend had thought of the one name i knew he was think of...

On the palm of my hand as I looked down at it written in blood was the name of my ex...

and hour latter after i enjoyed my self with the food and the festivities, i left again with my earphones in my ears blasting Eminem's "Superman" on full volume... with my bloody hand bandaged, again in the rain, same as before except this time I was feeling great and happy...

This post is for anyone who got heartbroken...

ps: Never intended to do this for any form of revenge or anything... It was all in the momment.. :)

....DarkCasanova...

Something about me: The person behind the name....

2010-07-23T04:00:00.000-07:00

Nice pic dho...

When I nearly died it made me think-

This can happen any moment

I better hurry and do what I want

I started to live like I never lived before

When the fear of death is gone, nothing can bother you and nothing can stop you..

quote:50 cent

Continuation...

as I finished school.. things turned way different..I was a 17 years old guy ready to make the world mine.. at least that was what I thought...

My mother started staying more in touch.. to which seemed fake to me...I could be wrong but When a person not just a person my own mother who just visits once an year suddenly starts being loving and caring, it just wasn't enough for me...I felt that I dint need her now after i had grown up...

My father still the same old routine..sometimes think that someone is making him atleast say a word to me...

Rest of the family? well caught up in their own things...even though they take sometime of to talk a lively discussion making fake stories about me.. yea if any of u are reading yes u can go shove your head up your arse :)

What about me then?
as I finished school.. things turned way different..I was a 17 years old guy ready to make the world mine.. at least that was what I thought... 1 year of vacation gave enough time to socialize with different people... most of them girls.. practicing what I studied aint wrong right? :P

after that I went abroad to study IT... Srilanka a cool place if one got enough money... well I dint have money...but I did have one thing..MAGIC.. yea that's right.. i used magic to keep my self at the top of the social circle.. yea i know it sounds corny but it works :)

and 2 years latter i came back.. i was different...

I moved to my mothers house where i had 2 little brothers and one little sister..it was ok..I decided that my mother's ok.. she was cool at first..and i was happy there..

my father meanwhile decided that I was one of the most notorious Gangster/Drug Adict guys who keeps killing people with swords just with no reason..all cause i choose not to go to CHSE and cause i was keeping contact with my mother... few months passed and I started noticing things..

my mother was a fun person happy most of the times.. but she had this side to her.. she takes what others say quite seriously and keeps thinking about it until goes into this pycho mode where she might even beat up my little brothers and shouts all the time.. I know it's not cool to write about my own mother like this soo ill leave it to this point....

I was having mulple relationships which the girls all know about each other.. and if they dint like it it's cool they can go..plenty of fish in the sea...I was doing shit i wouldn't ever dream of, goin to over 46 resorts, performing magic on the street, having soo many friends that most of them I dont even remember thier names..yes i was having the time of my life....

All of that gave me freakin high self esteem soo much that man i cant even describe it... some call me an asshole even but hey am being me so IT DOSENT MATTER..

then I met Her...that special girl...Guys Be honest. It has happened to all of us. There was this girl... A girl you might have never even talked to... But still... You couldn't help but think about her all day...

For the first time in my life I was hesitant.. man I dint know what to do funny part is I met her in a dream.. yea it all sounds ridiculous but man I know for a fact that girl's the one.. unlucky for me I dint see her face... All i could remember is.. me and he walking slowly on a beach while it was raining...Hopefully will meet her soon...

Again... this post too seems to be missing something..

Thanx for reading
....DarkCasanova....

Something about me:The Rise of DarkCasanova,Inspired by Ishee

2010-07-20T10:16:00.000-07:00

Me... :)

ok... i dont normally do this... it's wierd writing about me in a post but hey...the people have a right to know? yea right :p ok here goes...

My mother was cryin... I looked at her.. confused...she kept dressing me up... I asked her.. "mummy keehve roany?" yea i know it's corny but hey i was 3 years old back then... bam suddenly everything went black.. all i could remember is me looking out of the car window... to see my mother cryin and running towards the car... bam.. another blackout or what? I dont remember..next thing I know I woke up...i mean i was awake but it was like my brain was shut down and all of a sudden it started again... again to see my mother cryin and beggin my father to give me to her...

after that I dint remeber.. all i heard was stories about me being soo sick that i had to be taken to india to get treated...from there I started to regain consciousness by this I mean i started to understand things again...

School came... I was THE GUY at the class...and things started going worse and worse..
There was no one to give me love nor care or support let alone give me the confidence to carry on and grow up... yes there i was, a depressed 3 year old dude who just had too much to think about...

As i grew up I became the black sheep of the family.. y cause i dint have parents... Dad juz only botherd to drop by every 3 days and ask the same questions "Shaman kaafin tha? kaafin dho hmm ok" thats it... and to even this day people who read my blog are even closer to me than my father.. who had left me in his relatives house..by relatives i mean his sisters and brothers.. and they juz dint like my energy , outspokenness it was too much a taboo for them.. and there was no one to take care of me exept my grandmother...who am thankful for each and everyday..But she wasent my mother... what was important to her was the oldschool way of raising children like for example a child is only there to study ,eat and sleep nothing else... no fun, nothin...still am gratefull

Now you all may think where my mother was all this time... frankly I too dint know except she comes by every b day of mine.. thats it..nothing else..

Years went by.. teachers began complaining about me.. how I had the potential but never uses it...They were right... studying had became my enemy ...by the time i got to grade 8 I was by nature a nerdy looking guy with no guys who secretly hated everyone....

Grade 8 Rise and fall of me
The turning point of my life...I got picked to the class with the most repeaters and "gaddaa guys" in majeedhiya school... lucky for me the leader took a liking for me and made me his right arm... transformation happen soo quickly I dint even recognise myself... From running with a chair to hit a teacher all over the school to trowing a desk from upstairs down at the principal... I was King, the Alhpa Male, felt good, no one dared to mess with me...and then disaster struck... I got transferd to another class.. little did I know they all hated me...got beaten up mentally and physically (wrong spelling i think lol)...still I dint give up and fought even had ambulances come to school 3 days a row to take people who messed with me...

Promotion to MES
Yea sucks....lost all my friends n everyone... cause my dad found out bout all the fights and stuff... at MES it was a different experience for me...was like my usual self but turned out people at MES dint like it...and i was forced to change... into... what? what the hell was i supposed to be... and while all these was happening things at home was getting worse and worse.. whenever I was doing somthin otherthan studying was wrong.. and then comes the ultimate blackmail tactic they had... to threaten to trow me out of the house so that i have to go back to my mother... and me as I was growing up was led to believe that my mother threw me away and I hated her then...

School went on and on.. got repeated in grade 9... and transfered to grade 10.. grade 10 I dint even study for 2 whole terms... and then.. fortunately It occoured to me that if I had a good O level result I can atleast get a job and fend for myself.. and there I studied this time for my own self...and got gr8 results...
ok up to this point u all may be wondering about y I was not sayin anything bout girls or anything up to this pint well i had gfs but non was serious and ended always like before 3 months...anyways school was coming to an end.. and our class decided to go on a farewell trip... most people dint like the idea since it was soo close to o levels soo we ended up looking for more people even outside of school...

anyways trip got arranged 15 guys and 40 girls yes people 40 girls

anyways we went.. it was fun.. but I stayed away from the girls as much as i could...cause i was a shy dude then...anyways I went to take a shower afternoon after swimming.. and i enterd the showerroom.. dint close it fully cause i wasent naked... suddenly the door closed behind me very hard...

as i turned around i saw 4 of the hottest girls who came on the trip lookin at me in a strange way.. the tune of the robin hood cartoon which i was wisteling died.. and I asked" y er what r u gals doin here??" and then what happend to me changed my life.. it could be described as group rape.. except the fact i was midway though "should I shout for help or just enjoy it???".... 2 hours 13 minutes latter (yes i kept track of time) I emerged as a new guy.. 2 girls on each my arm... DarkCasanova was born then and there...

ok I admit I wasn't as good with the ladies back then as am now.. even got heartbroken which led me to study the female mind and everything about girls for like 3 freakin years...lot happened during that period..and then i met a girl..man it changed everything...I fell in love..even we both had got ready to get married.. when disaster struck again... she broke it off... sayin I wasn't rich enough,dint had the right job and that i wasent decent enough for her family to accept me...

It wasent fair.. not fair when a guy risks everything for that one girl, not fair when she breaks it up at the very last minute... but hey u know it led me to another aproach in life... that life is sumthin small and evil that u have to take it by the hand when it says no and prove it wrong... ahh i know still got loads to write about but i think this will do for the time being :) il end this with a few lines from emine's 8 mile song

But I've learned, it's time for me to U-turn
Yo it only takes one time for me to get burned
Ain't no fallin no next time I meet a new girl
I can no longer play stupid or be immature
I got every ingredient, all I need is the courage
Like I already got the beat, all I need is the words
Got the urge, suddenly it's a surge
Suddenly a new burst of energy is occured
Time to show these free world leaders the three and a third
I am no longer scared now, I'm free as a bird...

Thanx....for reading..love u all
....DarkCasanova.....

Get over Ex-Girlfriend... PART 1

2010-07-19T01:42:00.000-07:00

Make her jealous...

First of all, you need to learn when and how to take a break. You need a recuperation period after any romantic entanglement. I call this the recharge period, and it's vitally necessary for many reasons:

- Your self-esteem is in the crapper. That's why you feel the urgency to hurry up and get back out there and meet new girls. You're running a dialog in your head (below your conscious awareness) that makes you believe that since you lost this relationship, you might not get another woman again EVER. It's not true, man. You did it once; you can do it again.

- You really miss her, and that's all the more reason not to rush out into another relationship. You're right, if you had another girl, you wouldn't think of her. Sure, you tell yourself you'd like to just go out and get laid, but the reality is that you will probably end up dating whoever you DO wind up sleeping with and thus turning her into rebound girl. You'll realize you probably settled, and you'll start to feel smothered, and then you'll realize your mistake and wind up hurting some other poor girl.(which in my view is very bad!!!)

Stop the mistake before it's made. This need is created by your falsely lowered self-esteem telling you that you need a replacement girl. What you need is DISTRACTION, not a substitute.

- You can't be a whole man until you learn how to live and be happy without a woman in your life. Period.

Your recuperation starts here and now. Engage your self-discipline and do the following:

- Stop calling her. Yeah, I know you're probably falling victim to that compulsive voice in the back of your head that wants to know 'Is she seeing other people? Do we still have a chance?'

If you stay in contact with her you'll only wind up begging for her to reconsider, then tearful mementos at her doorstep, and further supplication on your part. You'll wind up like one of the guys on "Scrubs," trading your balls for sex. Every time you get the urge to call her, have a substitute activity that gives you an equal amount of pleasure, such as turning on the X-box (I call this X-therapy) or going out for a bike-ride. Turn your pain into your gain.

- Take a few weeks off from women - COMPLETELY. Don't give them a second thought. Don't pressure yourself into picking up or throwing out lines or anything. If you approach a girl now, you'll probably blow it because of all this anxiety you've created for yourself. Take a little while and get your game together.

When you ARE ready for a girl you need to approach her as if she were any other woman. If you build her up to be some kind of Greek Goddess, you'll just be intimidated and spooked on your attempts to talk with her, and you'll also be very unattractive.

Dont be a Desparado-wanna-get-GF

ps:Part 2 is next...

.....DarkCasanova.....

Get Girls to Check YOU Out!!!

2010-07-16T03:56:00.000-07:00

Warning: THIS DOSENTMAKE SENSE TO MOST WOMEN.. soo girls This is STRICTLY for GUYS ONLY!!!!

Every man dreams of being the MAN that women try to pick up.

Well, it ain't just a dream. It's real. I've found the key, and now I'm going to unlock it for you. My friend, an expert in Loving Tantra, taught this to men who, well, the kind of men who hear the word "Tantra" and immediately tune out, thinking there's some wacky hippy-dippy sensitive-pony-tailed guy stuff at work. But as soon as they finished this exercise, they went from average guys to MEN who were drawing women's eyes everywhere they went.

What women look for in a man is very simple. They need to see your Power, and Your Vulerability. They need to see your Strength, and your Love. They want to feel, to be blunt, your Hard **** in them(ok this may not be the case f, and your Open Heart on them. And there's an easy way for every women but thinking like this helps) you to start doing it right now.

This exercise is very powerful, and has a magnetic effect on women, so please don't share this with anyone that you suspect is still angry, or bitter, or somehow unable to really Love women. I'm giving this to you because I trust you. Please respect that.

Now. Here is your exercise. Here is your practice. Here is the work that will transform you right now.

Stand up. Close your eyes. Quiet your mind, and focus on your breath. Now, start to feel your body. Don't move, but simple pay attention to every part of your body, one at a time, as if a giant MRI machine was scanning you. Feel it all.

Now move that attention to your crotchatal region. You know the area I'm talking about. Bring your focus... all the way down where your focus usually is when you see a picture of a gorgeous girl. Just feel your body there, and keep breathing. Breathe deep, and breathe slow.

Now inhale. Inhale deep and slow, and as you draw your breath in, let your attention rise up from down low all the way up to the center of your chest. There's a spot just above the zygomatic process, a space right above the center of your chest, where the energy of your heart lives.

Put your attention there, and exhale. Now move your attention back down, and breathe in again, and move your attention back up to your heart.

Imagine you are pulling the very real electricity that keeps your body alive from the very bottom of your spine, up that electrical highway to the center of your chest. Feel how the center of your chest begins to warm. Feel how the muscles between your ribs start to stretch, and even ache. Feel how that spot on your chest start to feel like a space, an opening, a portal from your Heart out into the world.

Keep doing this for just 5 minutes.

Now, open your eyes. You will find that all the annoying thoughts that have been plauging you like busy bees are suddenly just whispers. You will feel IN your body, and out of your head. You will feel that your Hard **** is strong, and your Open Heart is free.

THIS is how you walk through the world. Just go find a place where the kind of girls you like will be. Make yourself comfortable. Stand still, lean against a wall, or just grab a seat. Now with your eyes open or closed, do this exercise again. Every time you see a beautiful girl walk by, breathe in her beauty and let that energy fill you from **** to Heart. Let the feeling of pleasure fill you up. Let it grow and be.

When you do this, you will find that women's eyes start to turn to you. They may stare, they may just look for a second. But they cannot help but look because the electricity you are moving and building is quite literally, scientifically, a magnetic force.

Women will be DRAWN TO YOU.

Women will be ATTRACTED.

Literally. Attracted. Like iron filings to a magnet.

I know you are probably thinking what I thought when I first heard this. It's crazy, and silly, and goofy, and does nothing. I mean, you have to be good-looking and rich and flashy for girls to look, right?

Here's the real-deal.I spent days walking around this city, admiring the variety of sexxxy women here. I was dressed well, I was smiling, I was looking good and feeling confident.

But not a single girl looked my way.

Today I sat at lunch and watched people walk by, and I counted 43 girls, all ages, all races, all sexxxy in their way, looking at ME.

I looked just the same as I did on Thursday. Well, actually, I looked a little worse, cos I'm wearing a ratty shirt and have been sleep-deprived and hungover for days.

But it's not what I looked like that drew them. It's the FEELING I have. It's the power in my body radiating out of my heart.

It's the magnet of my masculine presence.

Do this now, and track your results. Then be sure to let me know what you find.

I already know what's gonna happen, but I can't wait for you to find out. :)

reminder: THIS DOSENTMAKE SENSE TO MOST WOMEN.. soo girls This is STRICTLY for GUYS ONLY!!!! ;)

Be Love and Be Free,
....DarkCasanova....

The Diamond between her legs...

2010-07-12T03:28:00.000-07:00

Diamonds for sex? dosent work always...

Whenever a woman gives me a problem about sleeping together I simply tell her:

“The diamond between your legs is not something I want to steal from you… It’s just something I want to get through before we move on more interesting things.”

Girls are afraid to sleep with a guy too fast or too soon, as they will look easy, like sluts. They also grow up in a society that tells them, when they give their pussy to a guy, there is nothing else they can give to him. Society unconsciously puts all value on their sex organs and beauty. Once you cross that point, they feel they have nothing to offer. No more value. She is afraid that, once she gives sex to a man, he won’t come back, as that’s everything she could give him.

Its sad, that whenever you talk with girl, she assumes (thanks to society) you want to sleep with her. I mean, the morning after, you still need to talk, to have fun in your life and you can still enjoy and learn about each other… Its not just about sex.

So think about the sentence above. Take a moment, and think about it.

What you are actually saying to a girl, is exactly what she wants to hear. It’s not about sex, its about you being together, having fun in the long run and sex is just a step along the way that people make a big deal out of…

A big percentage of sexual resistance is exactly this — she’s afraid that’s all you want and there won’t be anything else. So it’s smart to address the issue directly before it becomes a big problem. I prefer to say it directly than to bullshit around it and play games…

“The diamond between your legs is not something I want to steal from you. It’s just something I want to get through before we move on to more interesting things.”

I dare you to use it.

....DarkCasanova....

Straight outa My mind...

2010-07-10T05:28:00.000-07:00

feeling emo... shit...

Listening to Eminem's "Not Afraid" track from his latest album.... made me think...

thinking about how my life needs a drastic change... need a new facebook name (current one is creating chaos)

plus need a job...(i quit recently).... which led me to really identify who my real friends are... some were just hanging out with me cause of girls, others for juz coffees, others just cause their miserable lives dint have anything...

I feel Used....

But I cant quit now...

I need to prove myself to myself... and to everyone else.. I know I can go all the way... i just need a push...

need to brush up on my magic performance so that i can have my own show..

need to doo ETC ETC

ill end this with the last lines of the song...

Cause I'm raising the bar, I shoot for the moon
But I'm too busy gazing at stars, I feel amazing and
I'm not afraid to take a stand
Everybody come take my hand
We'll walk this road together, through the storm
Whatever weather, cold or warm
Just let you know that, you're not alone
Holla if you feel that you've been down the same road....

.....DarkCasanova....

Newton's 1st Law... applied to Seduction....

2010-07-03T04:41:00.000-07:00

Cute girl: Stand staring at her or do something about it??

Your Dating Guru wanted to see if there was some circumstance where he simply COULDN'T meet a girl, so he kept his eyes open while driving through town, hoping to catch a cutie in her car. A lovely girl suddenly merged in front of him and turned left. He immediately snapped into "Starsky and Hutch" mode and took off after her, away from his destination.

She went two more streets, then stopped at the next red. He hit the ffront brake of the moter cyke,nearly fell over, jumped off of his ride and ran up to her window. He motioned for her to roll it down, and when she did, he said,

"Excuse me, I just had to tell you that you are the prettiest girl I've seen all day, and there's a law that says I have to tell you that."

She smiled, and he continued,

"Really, I have no choice. It's a federal law."

She introduced herself. He smiled back, and they kept talking and flirting, right there in the street, as the red light turned green.

===

Now comes your turn.

Here's your step-by-step how-to for stopping and dating girls on the move.

Get your pencils out. Ready?

If you're unsure how to stop her, just imagine the following. Imagine you have a car and was on fire, and you needed to stop someone to get help, how would you do it?

Your BODY knows this already. There's no trick to it. Just follow those instincts and experience.

You will have all sorts of questions and doubts and conditions running through your mind, and all sorts of reasons not to do it.

My personal favorite is "I don't have the time right now." So make it simple for yourself. You are taking 30 seconds out of your day to see if this cutie is a good fit for you, no more, no less. You can always afford 30 seconds, right?

And you never know when the best opportunities are going to pass by, so you need to be ready all the time.

If you detect a little more agitation and fear rising up in your gullet than you can handle, try this little trick to get it done.

Let her move away from you. Wait just a second. If it's a store, let her go. If it's a street, let her keep walking.

Wait just long enough that you think you may have lost her, and then…

Chase.

Her.

Down.

Get it in your head that you are on a mission to find and meet this girl. Make her your Girl of the Day, the one you just have to meet no matter what the situation.

This is the kind of sh*t superheros do.

That's you. You should hear crazy theme music pumping as you pursue, knowing that no Dr. Doom, Lex Luthor or Loch Ness Monster can stop you.

The more you have to pursue, the more real it will feel when you finally catch up to her, and the more sincere and confident you will be when you catch up to her and say,

"I know this is a bit random, but I had to meet you."

Now get out there, chase 'er down, and put a smile on some womens face. You may just put a big fat grin on your face in the process.

Still dont get it?

What happened???

Guy see girl. Girl be moving. Guy want stop girl.

Guy stop girl.

Ugh. Words make head hurt.

Yes, it is that caveman simple. But only once you know the approach that gets her stopped, gets her interested, and gets her there with you.

You've heard of Newton's 1st Law. A body in motion tends to stay in motion.

What Newton didn't say was that's even more true when the body in question is a smokin' HOT body!

But there's more to this law. I know. I Googled it to be sure.

A body in motion tends to stay in motion unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.

Guess what? You, mi compadre, are the "unbalanced force."

Isn't that a great frickin' phrase? Just think that to yourself the next time you are just having a blast and someone asks why you're having so much fun.

"I'm just an unbalanced force of nature, babe'!"

OK, back to our physics lesson.

So you now know you can stop her. But how?

When you see a girl that attracts you, make meeting her the the priority of your day. Don't worry about how you are going to stop her, what your body language is like, or any details like that.

Don't be thrown by any excuses (she's on a cell phone, wearing an iPod, walking away down the street). Just make this real — stopping and talking to you for 30 seconds is the most important thing in her day.

You giving her a chance to meet a confident, sexy man is the most important thing in her day. And in yours.

All across the universe, women respond to decisiveness and confidence more than anything else — more than money, looks, fame, or nice cars.

Your Dating Guru
.....DarkCasanova....

2010-06-21T06:10:00.000-07:00

The Awkward Momment: Cute girl...what do I say to her...
Once again i apologise fr the delay in updating.. certain problems like no internet, aprob with de police,etc etc have kept my mind of writing... anyways here's a brand new one hope u enjoy....

Hook a woman in with, “I’ve noticed something
interesting about you.” Stop talking and wait for
her to respond with curiosity

Look at a woman’s palm and say, “Hmm, that’s
really interesting.” Put her hand down & don’t tell
her what you see- let her beg you with curiosity
When a woman asks you, “What you do?” have
her try to guess- then tell her that you model
men’s underwear( now we all know how to use humor right?)

Play on a woman’s curiosity- “You know what
they say about women who are blond/brunette/short/tall (just make something up)?
– No? Oh, I can’t tell you here, maybe later”
Use curiosity to make sure a woman shows up
for the next date- promise you’ll tell her a secret
next time you see her

Talk about relationships & rumors with women-
“Did you know Pamela and Tommy are back
together? Do you think J-Lo will stay married
this time?”

Tell stories with moments of intrigue and
surprise to take women on an emotional
journey- and end on a note of laughter

Relationships are what make stories interesting not
what you did. Talk about the people you met
and how you interacted with them

Separate yourself from the other guys- have
three laugh-evoking, interesting stories
memorized and ready to tell women

Don’t quiz a girl by asking her 20 questions(this aint an interview you know).
Share your own experiences and then have her
share hers

Don’t sound monotone & bored in a
conversation- if you talk about something
exciting, sound excited- if something shocking,
sound shocked

Women love to talk about torrid love affairs- read
the tabloids to know what the celebrities are up
to

If you don’t know what to say, ask a woman how
she would spend her holiday if she were filthy
rich without any limitations- let her fantasize

In conversation talk about what you like to eat
and drink. Food talk is like sexual foreplay to
women

If you bring up sexual topics and you feel
awkward or nervous, the girl will too- relax and
the sex talk will flow on its own

Ask a woman you’re dating what makes her feel
sexy. She’ll reveal valuable information on how
to further seduce her

If a woman seems put-off by a sexual question
or story, do not apologize- just make her
comfortable with more light, playful conversation

Don’t agree with everything the woman says just
to agree with her. Women like strong men who
express their own opinions

Good conversation needs relaxed playfulnessthen,
there’s no such thing as a blunder

Drop the fact casually that you read palms in
conversation and the woman will ask YOU to
read her palm

Buy a small digital camera for your back pocket.
Take pics with your dates doing fun things and
show the pics to future girls you meet

Women love animals- make up some funny,
loving stories about your real or imaginary pets

Challenge her to a game of thumb wrestling or
‘rock, scissors, paper’. Yes it’s silly, and girls
love it

Women like the supernatural and unknown- talk
about reiki, reflexology, palm reading, spirits or
ghosts and have a few stories to tell

Don’t ask yes/no questions like “Can I have your
number?” or “Do you like me?” Never put the
power of “no” into a woman’s hands

Avoid the usual boring questions like “What do
you do?”, “How many sisters do you have?”
Think outside the box

Women like stories because stories entertain.
Notice how as a child, you were read STORIES?
Notice how as an adult, you watch TV for
STORIES?

“The Apprentice”, “The Bachelor”, and
“Desperate Housewives” are all about people
interactions- be your own television show

Like a professional comedian, recycle 90% of
your conversational material with every girl,
testing new bits as you go

Engage a woman’s imagination - talk about
travel, the beach, your road trip, spelunking,
skydiving, anyplace outside of her boring reality

Learn to read women’s palms- it’s good for 5
minutes of discussion time and a great way to
touch her hands

Present women with a false choice- “So would
you like to meet me for coffee tomorrow or meet
me at my place on Saturday?”

Don’t talk about what you “do”- that’s boring.
Talk about what you’ve accomplished

Double commands like “Give me your number
and meet me for lunch tomorrow,” can’t be
refused- after all, which would she be refusing?

Fractionate your conversation- one moment be
playful and lighthearted, another show deep
insight, the next a brat. Keep the girl on her toes

Give the girl a self-image to live up to: “Wow,
you’re really fun, creative and spontaneous.”
She’ll want to live up to the good image you
gave her

Ask a group, “So how do you all know each
other?” It gets the girls talking and you find out
which ones are single

When girls are sitting say “I need a female
opinion, but have just a minute” Sit down with
them and they’ll be cool- then just anyway

When a girl says something you like, say “That’s
so cool!” then high-five her. She’ll bond with you
right on the spot

If you’re talking to a girl and a second girl enters
the set, tell the first “Introduce me to your friend”
so that you don’t become the third wheel

Ask a girl whether you should floss before you
brush or brush before you floss and have a
playful debate about it

Never ask a girl “Do you like me?” That’s just
lame. Assume she likes you and she will
because of your confidence

Conversation is as much about the vibe you
project as the words themselves- relax, be
playful, and have fun no matter what happens

Talk about clothes and fashion- tell the girl what
you find stylish and point out what you like about
her clothes

As a brain teaser, have a girl tell you how many
9s are in 100 (by the way, the answer is 20-
figure it out!)

Covertly build yourself into the girl’s future- “Just
imagine six months from now when we’re
walking along the beach…”

To tell a story effectively, involve your entire
body in expressing the emotion- wave your
hands and gesture your arms to emphasize words

If the girl is insulting to you, don’t get angry,
defend your ego, or call the girl names. Have the
power to walk away relaxed and leave her dry

If you hit an awkward silence, playfully tell the
girl with a smile, “I hate you” Watch how the
silence vanishes

When you see a group of girls tell them, “So
which one of you is the coolest?” The girl who
responds first, read her palm as a reward

simple yet effective

....DarkCasanova....

THE CUBE...(powerful stuff here...note: girls it may not make sense to you but it works!!)

2010-04-30T23:37:00.000-07:00

The Cube is a game. Recently, I asked my friends what results they’ve had with the cube. The stories are all different, but they all agree: Women will thank you for it. Women will remember it. Women will feel that you really understand them. And, women will want more. Those who use the cube know its power, and it has been their secret weapon.

So, what is it? Well, the cube is a game of questions and symbols. It is five
simple questions of imagination that will allow you to lead a woman deeper and deeper into a seduction. For the origins of the Cube a person could read through The Secrets of the Cube, by Annie Gottlieb. But, the guy will find that he doesn’t need to understand the traditional use of the cube. He only needs to know how to use this secret seduction weapon.

Now, the Cube can be used at anytime in a seduction…

It can be used as a playful game to build attraction (by teasing a girl for her
answers and making your interpretations funny and unrealistic.) And, it can also be used in the deepest phases of seduction to lead a woman’s mind into her sexual desires (by making your interpretations sexual and erotic). However, what we are going to focus on here is using the cube to build trust and comfort. Most pick up artists will agree that the cube serves the greatest purpose for developing this kind of real connection with a woman you just met. It starts fun and playful as a game, and it ends by leading the conversation into deeper and deeper levels of rapport. Building this type of rapport is the real strength of the Cube.

The Seven Powers of the Cube
So, what is the purpose of the Cube? And why do women consistently react so well to it? Basically, what can the cube do for you? Well, the Cube will have many effects on your seduction…

1) Avoid Boredom - One of the most common mistakes that guys make is to fall into a boring conversation. To find out about the woman, all they can think of are the same old questions… “Where do you live? What do you do? What else do you do? Etc, etc…” The Cube offers a unique piece of conversation that will move away from facts and information, and into more emotional topics. It will lead to a discussion of things that are more meaningful and important to her.

2) Hook Her - Women LOVE these kinds of games. You might think it is cheesy, or too New-Age. But, trust me… Women get hooked. Look through any women’s magazine, and I guarantee you will see little personality tests and games. The magazines know what women like, and we should too. The cube will help you hook her into your conversation, and can even be an excuse to isolate her: “Come with me, I’m going to show you something cool…”

3) Demonstrate Value and Personality - You will demonstrate a lot of value to the girl when you use the cube. Most simply, you are a man who leads the conversation, and already this is attractive. But, on an even deeper level, you can demonstrate that you understand women and what they want. You show that you are not like all the other guys. And, through your own personal interpretation of the cube you reveal your own personality and who you are.

4) Build a Connection - The Cube will help build a connection and a feeling of rapport. A woman who shares her cube with you is giving you a gift. It’s a gift of insight into who she really is. She will be in a vulnerable state. As you learn about her and reveal things about yourself, she will see that you understand her. And, as she sees how you accept her gift and accept her, she will begin to trust you more. Sharing this vulnerability with her will create a bond that most guys would probably never get.

5) Qualify Her - The woman will assume that you must be qualifying her. Women often say that they were worried if they gave “the right answer.” She knows that you are paying close attention to her answers, and she will really feel like you are choosing and selecting her. This is so valuable in conveying that you are a guy who has options and who has standards. In addition, you will really get a chance to listen to her and find out what you like about her.

6) Learn About Her - You will elicit what is important to her. All of the information that she gives you can be used later on in the seduction. The more you know about her, the more you will know how to seduce her.

7) Leave Her Wanting More – Once a woman experiences the Cube, she will associate the experience with YOU. And, she will want more of you and the experiences you bring. In fact, if you get interrupted in the middle of the cube, don’t sweat it. She will come back to you, asking to finish. She will want more. Keep these effects in mind as you learn and practice the Cube. Everything you say when using the Cube should be directed toward invoking these 7 powers.

The Design of the Cube
By now, it should be obvious that the details of the game are not nearly as
important as how you play. The structure will have many variations, and
everyone will play it differently. And that’s fine. Notice, the power of the Cube isn’t to “be correct” or to give “the right interpretation.” - There are no right or wrong Cubes.

So, this is how I do the Cube. You can structure it how you like, and find what works best for you.

“Have you ever done the cube?... Ok… I'll ask you a set of questions, and when I'm done I'll know everything about you. Are you ready? Do you have a good imagination? …Good.” (The idea here is not to explain it, but just to get her hooked.)

“Now, imagine in front of you a landscape” (I’ll usually gesture with my hand for them to imagine it in front of them). “And in the landscape there is a cube. Notice what size is it, what color is it? What is it made of? Where is it?”

“Ok, next you see a ladder. Notice, where is it in relation to the cube? What is it made of? What size is it?”

“Next there are flowers. Where are they? How many? What do they look like? What color are they?”

“Next, there is a horse. What does it look like? Where is it? What is it doing?”

“And, last there is a storm. Where is it? What is it doing? What does it look like?”

When she has visualized the entire image, then you can tell her the meanings.

They are:
Cube = Your Self
Ladder = Your Aspirations
Flowers = Your Friends
Horse = Your Ideal Lover
Storm = Your Challenges and Problems
Now, the routine I use doesn’t follow the original book, and you shouldn’t either. Do what feels best for you. You can use a desert or a movie theater instead of a landscape. You can introduce it by saying “I’ll know more about you than even your best friends know.” Or “have you ever been cubed?”

You can have her close her eyes, or draw it out.

Some people may also use different meanings. (Ladder = family, or coworkers, etc…) It’s all fine. Just remember, you want to talk about things that will invoke the proper emotions in her, so avoid talking about things like children or enemies, etc…

Unraveling the Cube
So, it is one thing to know the rules of the Cube. It’s one thing to know the meanings, and the images. But, the question remains: “What do I do? Just make stuff up?”

Well, what DO you say?

There are plenty of resources that will offer you exact interpretations. But, these really shouldn’t be necessary. Remember, the point isn’t to “do it right.” The key is in giving your own interpretation, and this interpretation can be developed from your own mind, not from what a book tells you. However, if you are curious about suggested meanings, you can read the original book or check out this link:

www.stoneclave.com/tavern/cube/cube1.asp

Ok, since you’re not going to follow the memorized meanings what do you say?

Well, here are some suggestions.

* You can be vague and use generalities – Just talk about women in general, and this will still have a powerful effect because she will relate to it. And, she will realize that you understand people, you understand women, and you understand her.
Example:
You’re cube is xxxxxx. You are a very sensitive person. Probably you are a very good judge of character and you can tune into those times when people just want something from you. While other times you can really feel when a person is being sincere with you. (This describes any socially aware woman.)

* You can ask clarifying questions. Ask her, and she might tell you exactly what something means, doing your job for you. Ask her how she feels about the objects, or ask how they relate to each other.
Example:
Her: “My horse is leaning against the cube.”
You: “Really? Why is it leaning against the cube?”
Her: “Well, it’s just not strong enough.”
You: “Oh, I see. It seems like the men in your life haven’t been strong enough. You need a man who you can just look into his eyes and listen to him talk, and you know that he is strong… Etc… etc...”

* When you find aspects of the interpretation that really fit her, go into greater detail. Tell stories from your life that relate to her, or give her examples of how she might experience it in her life.
Example:
“You are a very creative person, but you’re not at a point in your life right now where you are really using your creative abilities. It reminds me of how I felt a couple of years ago. I was working in this job that just wasn’t creative, and I…. Etc…”

* Use things that you already know about her.
Example:
I met a girl last night whom I liked Later, I ran the cube on her, and she said that her cube was blue. I said “A blue cube means that you are often calm and relaxed. And, sometimes your friends even come to you just to absorb your calm energy when their lives are more hectic.” Of course, she loved it.

* And… you can…. use your… intuition. Yep. Go for it. Be like the enlightened master who has become one with his weapon and allow the force to flow through you. You might not only surprise her, but yourself too.

* Keep your statements positive. In general, you want to phrase everything as a positive statement. If you really want to tell a woman that she has low sel festeem and that her life is out of control and hopeless, go ahead. But don’t come asking me why she was suddenly turned off and depressed! It may take some creativity to keep things positive, but it can be done.

I’ll give you an example. If she says she doesn’t like the cube and she doesn’t think it belongs in the scene, you might be thinking “oh crap, she hates herself?” No. You can tell her “well, when people see you they often want you to fit you into a category with defined boundaries and hard edges, but that’s not who you are. You are independent and when you find yourself being put into a box, you know that it’s not where you belong.”

* One trick for keeping the interpretation positive is to interpret her ideal as being the opposite of what she describes.

For example: a weak and sickly horse means that she has had too many weak men in her life, and she really needs one that is strong and healthy.

* Add lots of Kino and strong Eye Contact. When you are bonding with a woman on this level, it is important to keep enhancing this experience by getting physically intimate with her.

(Note f - when she answers a question that you feel you could qualify her on, kino escalate. They have to notice the 'slight' change in your body language towards her. DO this each time she tells you something you like to hear or commonalities you both share. This is really powerful as it shows they are also slowly winning you over. It sets the meta frame of the interaction that you are screening her and she is qualifying herself to you)

* Take advantage of the horse. It is a great time to demonstrate that you know what women want. If her horse isn’t ideal, then tell her it is an image of what she has attracted to her in the past, and what she really wants is actually the opposite. As you describe her ideal man, and get her thinking about it. Look into her eyes and take on that character as yourself. She will naturally start to see you as that man.

* Burst the tension now and then with a little cocky and playful comment. By making a joke or teasing her, you will keep it fun and keep her interested. Just be careful because she may be in a very vulnerable state to be sharing with you, so don’t over do it. An example: “The Cube means that…. (pause) …. You want my body. (smile)”

* Start the interpretation with a bold (but irrefutable) statement about who she is and where she is in her life. This can be powerful and will demonstrate your authority and understanding.

* Use all of the little parts to get a bigger picture of her. Try to get a broad sense of who she is as a person, and then you can use that understanding to lead your interpretation.

* Lead her into emotional states. Using descriptive languaging, you can get her thinking and feeling on a deeper level. One way to do this is to take a general statement like “you are adventurous.” And then go on to describe what it’s like to be adventurous and how it feels. “You are adventurous. You know, like when you are in the middle of an adventure you really feel alive. As the excitement builds, you become focused on what you’re doing, and you get totally wrapped up in what is happening…etc.”

* Share with her, and get into the state yourself. If you get into a vulnerable state and reveal things to her, she will follow your lead. As part of this you may want to relate stories that are meaningful to you.

* Share your own Cube. Do the cube on yourself and be ready to share your answers with her if she asks.

* When getting started, it may help to memorize a few ideas that you can use every time. For example, you can always talk about women’s intuition, or how she wants a strong confident man. As you do the cube more and more, you will begin to develop your own interpretations that always get good responses, and you can have these in store for every time you use the cube.

* Work with her, and go with what she says. You can use everything that she gives you, no matter what she says. If she says that the horse has a great cock, tell her that her ideal lover will be a great fuck. Go with it.

* Set the mood so that she feels good sharing. There is no need to rush the cube or feel awkward in anyway. Use your calm trust building tonality, and keep her feeling comfortable.

* Find commonalities and develop your connection with her. Since you are learning about each other, this is a great time to find out what you have in common.

* Don’t fall into the trap of being the entertainer. Don’t proceed to cube all of her friends, and her little sister. You’re not her novelty psychic friend.

* Practice to get better. The more you do it, the better you will get, because you will find that many responses are very common. Cube your friends, your mom, your mailman, whoever…

* Tell her that her cube is unique, and you can even say “well, usually, that would mean this… but with you, I think it’s a little different.” or… “Wow, that’s such an interesting image.” Then, she will really feel special, and she will think that you are giving her a very special gift.

* Don’t reveal everything. Leave parts out, or hint that there is something more. Always leave her wanting more. Do all this, and you will know why the Cube is our secret weapon. You will discover its power and find yourself using it on every girl you meet.I feel guilty about this... sometimes I wonder if this is like giving dynamite to a baby...

Enjoy! and play safe

....Darkcasanova...

Having Guy trouble? here's one for de Girls XD

2010-04-21T23:43:00.001-07:00

My Cartoon!!
This is a long yet good story (For girls only!!!) :P
Tons of women do it!

And it must leave them feeling awful... I wonder if you do it too?

I'm talking about women who hide their true feelings from a man and fear sharing their desire for a closer relationship and for love. Ever felt this way?

It's happens when you won't communicate directly with a man about your feelings because you think you'll"scare him away". Unfortunately, you're right.... it could scare him away. The way you talk to a man about a relationship turns out to be THE BIGGEST MISTAKE ANY WOMAN CAN MAKE WITH A MAN.

I'll come back to this giant mistake in just a quick second...

First, I'd like to talk about what I've seen in the dating world as a guy and share a story with you. I've had women communicate their feelings with mein all sorts of different ways from joy to anger to frustration, and I know what each one does to a man. There's a pattern to the dating experiences that I'd like to share.

THE STORY GOES SOMETHING LIKE THIS...

(let's pretend I'm the man in this story and you're the woman) You and I meet. We both like each other.(lucky me!) Feelings develop for us both on several levels. (physically, emotionally, socially)

You try to be "patient" and not express too many feelings and what you want to play it cool. We have a great "connection", but we never talk about what we want in our future around dating, a relationship or marriage. Time goes by and things are great for us.

Eventually, you begin to see that you're not getting what you want from me in the relationship. You want more, but you're scared of talking to me about it because you don't know where I'm at. You're scared because I've talked to you about all the bad experiences I've had with women in the past. You don't want to ruin the good things we have going and rock the boat. And I use my past issues to tell you that I'm not looking for much more than what we have right now.

So you don't say anything to me directly to communicate what's going on for you and your feelings. I don't say anything either. (of course, I'm a man!!) You become frustrated and confused that I'm not acting how I used to act. Things begin to change with the way I treat you. I don't pay as much attention to you anymore. I don't surprise you or bring you flowers anymore. I'm tired everyday after work and just want to watch tv when I get home. I call you less frequently. I don't initiate sex as much anymore.

You even consider that I could be seeing someone else. And after a few months - I've become distant. So what happens next? You decide you're not happy with where things are and it's time to have a talk about where we're at.

But you're SCARED of expressing your feelings about what you want, so you let things build up inside you until you begin to let your frustrations with me show. And to wrap the story up... You make THE BIGGEST MISTAKE YOU CAN MAKE WITH A MAN...

You start a conversation about the relationship and then you let me have it! (you get upset and lose your cool with me)

All your desires, fears, frustrations and dreamspour out in one big emotional explosion... This "Big Mistake" can take the form of arguing and yelling, but not exclusively. Sometimes it's just extreme intensity, perhaps tears.

It might include:

Complaining about the current state of the relationship

Talking about the things he does wrong with you

Showing your frustrations about what you feel is missing

Becoming upset that he doesn't feel how you'd like him to feel

Bringing up past issues, arguments or disappointments

But it always creates a lot of emotional tension and "drama". Especially in the guys mind. This is THE LAST THING you want to do with a man. That tension that's created stays with him, and he NEVER forgets it. In his mind, he now thinks of you as "hysterical" and full of issues. His mind defines you by what he saw in your behavior, and it scares him.

Yep, I know it's not fair, but it's the man's weird and twisted reality... I've heard hundreds, maybe thousands, of men talk about this exact perception of a woman and how they fear being with a woman who they think will make this giant mistake. Yeah, I know... it's inmature, selfish and not fair of the man, but it's the truth of the situation.

So, how do you avoid this....? I'll tell you how in THREE EASY STEPS.

Step 1) You Need To Understand What's Going On Inside The Mind Of Your Man....

Let me tell it to you straight, as a man...

Women secretly believe that their connection with a man will "naturally" turn into something deeper without any communication taking place. Honestly, this isn't how it works for us men.

If you're "assuming" you have a relationship, and that he feels like you do, you're wrong. Men don't assume that a connection, being together, spending quality time and all the rest means they're in a committed relationship. Some men do, but not most.

For a man to know he's in a committed relationship,and understand the things YOU want in that relationship, you have to communicate EVERYTHING to him in CLEAR AND DIRECT words. Yeah, that's right... You have to put yourself out there and be vulnerable. Scary!

And it's not luck that women in great relationships have used to communicate with men about their feelings. That's right, they've taken time to find the right information and to learn to integrate it into their thinking and behavior. It's not easy, but there's help.

Step 2) You Need To Understand What Causes You To Make The "Big Mistake"

EVERYONE wants to have THEIR needs met first. It's basic human nature. But being able to delay your gratification is an AMAZING thing to develop in your life. (in every part of your life!)

Most people (men and women) want to talk, talk, talk about what THEY think and what THEY want.

What can cause YOU to make "The Big Mistake" is focusing on what you want the relationship to be, without honestly andcritically considering your man's perspective at the same time. When you do this with a man, you are subconsciously telling him that you're more interested in your feelings and what YOU want than his feelings and what he wants. And men can read and pick up on women who do this instantly.

I see this all the time at work. when someone calls me who wants something from me I can pick it up instantly and it puts me slightly on the defensive. But if they've done their "homework" on me and what I'm looking for, it changes the whole situation the second they show me they've thought about what I want.

You've got to learn to listen and understand where's he'sat and where's he's coming from. It might sound cliche', but the cliche' is a around for a reason. It works! Patience, empathy and understanding are the first steps towards creating the relationship you dream about.

But you've got to be careful to not become the woman who gives him everything he wants and gets walked on. Use your common sense and intuition to safeguard yourself - a woman's perceptive abilities aren't used enough, so put these strong tools to good use!

Step 3) How To Avoid Making This Mistake

Let me give you a vital piece of information when dealing with men....

Men are CLUELESS when it comes to identifying the things that are "obvious" to women in dating and relationships. I would know. It's taken me ten years to begin to understand these things for myself - and I spend a LOT of time thinking about it.

So we know men are AWFUL at initiating and participating in conversations about relationships. Sorry to break the bad news, but it's almost always up to you to make this communication happen.

It's important to remember to approach the entire conversation from the perspective of talking about what you want AND what HE wants. If you can make a guy feel like you put his feelings and needs first in this conversation, and always consider what he wants, I promise he will LOVE YOU for it!

There's no rule that says you can't consider another persons opinions and feelings first in order to get what you want. In fact, a key goal in negotiating is to let the other person talk first.

When you get to listen first, you ALWAYS have the advantage. You know exactly what the other person wants - and knowledge is power. I'm not saying you are necessarily negotiating here with a man, but some of the same rules and principles about people and psychology apply. When you talk to a man from a positive place of listening first, he will be 10,000 times more receptive to what you have to say and want once you bring it up than if you approach him from a place of hurt, neediness and fear.

Ask a positive question or give a positive statement such as, "Honey, I was thinking today that I was happy to be with you." It might sound submissive, corny or difficult to say to someone you're having a tough time with, but think about it... If you're going through all the trouble to worry so much about the future with this person, this is already what you're thinking.

Good luck ladies... more post for the girls coming soon :D

To Play The Game, You have To be A Player..

2010-04-17T23:50:00.000-07:00

“Faint heart never won fair lady.”

Now, this timeless proverb could be construed in a variety of ways. The most common interpretation of the adage is that we must be bold at times; bravery and courage are virtues, while cowardice is a vice. However, it’s not simply about taking a chance, it’s about enforcing your will or taking a firm hold on the reigns, thereby giving you the edge in a typical flirting encounter. Nobody likes a jerk, but a classy jerk is a very different animal because he’s an individual who doesn’t follow classic social mores in the realm of courtesy, but still maintains his Player image as a gentleman. But how does one walk the fine line between offensive and irresistible? What is the key to coming across as slightly abrasive while keeping your reputation as a class act? And, of course, how can this translate to Player success?

To break it down to the simplest terms, being a classy jerk is just about being a little different. We always use a variety of techniques when courting women, but most of them revolve around similar requirements, such as politeness, cordial banter, compliments, and so on. Therefore, you can shake things up by tickling a woman’s heartstrings in a different way. The traditional way plucks the visible and obvious strings, but the underhanded or opposite way strikes a chord with the strings in the rear -- and that could lead to a whole new experience. The following are several approaches to use when approaching a target, and all of them border on dangerously offensive, so be sure to follow the guidelines to the letter.

Be the modern bad boy
This is a new day and age, so abandon the theory that women will immediately respond to the played-out rebel role; instead, take on a more modernized version of the quintessential James Dean character. You may also want to assume the role of the uncaring, freewheeling, independent soul. Nothing really bothers you, and all you really live for is the ladies and an occasional thrill, be it legal or otherwise. Silly little rules don’t get in your way; you simply ignore them every once in a while. Life is often too predictable -- you like to be spontaneous and unscheduled. It’s a Player persona that works wonders more often than you might think, primarily because it appeals to her underlying desire to just cut loose every once in a while. This can lead to our next tip, which centers entirely on a classy form of selfishness (no, really).

You care about one person
Before we leap into an operational definition, let’s clarify one thing right off the bat: Caring about yourself doesn’t mean you are hostile or overtly offensive, it simply means you’re hedonistic to the max. Essentially, you’re not out to make people miserable, you’re out to make yourself happy. Make sure you understand the distinction before embarking on the “classy-selfishness” endeavor. Without any doubt, women tend to despise men who are self-involved and egotistical, but if you’re careful, you can pull this off with appropriate behavior. You’re attempting to prove that you’re just out to enjoy life, and you don’t have the time to quibble about trivialities. Life is short, and it only makes sense to seize every day by the horns and make yourself happy, so to hell with what anyone else thinks.

Ultimately, it’s your schedule that matters, it’s your time that matters and it’s your life you focus on. As far as you’re concerned, she can either accept that or hit the road. This is a timeless Player attitude.

Nice guys finish last
It’s not the bad boy act and it’s not a chain of negative hits with a twist -- this is all about enforcing your will and being so obvious that it borders on offensive or scandalous. You want her, and you’re not interested in small talk or making a pithy comment about the weather. You don’t care what she’s wearing, nor do you care what color her eyes are. If she’s fishing for compliments, she’s with the wrong person. For you, the standard flirting ritual has been reduced to a very simple philosophy: Dating and commitment aren’t in your vocabulary. One night of hot sex is all you want, and she’s gonna know it.

In short, if you want to be a classy jerk, you don’t waste your time with niceties, you’re an arrow to the target and there’s no deviating from the path. She might appreciate your honesty and candor, and above all else, she will be immensely flattered by your overpowering interest. You’re not heaping praise on her, but your very attitude is one big, fat compliment -- regardless of how close it comes to breaking those invisible courting rules.

The over-the-top approach
I’m not suggesting you go crazy and start taking unnecessary risks (that’s a bit extreme), but risk-taking may be part of the equation. You’re going for a style that fits between raging party animal and passionate yet tender suitor. This is all about exuding confidence in everything that you do, and while the classic style is humble and sweet, this is more of an old-fashioned “man” approach. You are the man. You work hard, party hard and love hard. Some may view this as being a “jerk,” but it’s simply confidence and self-assurance on a grand scale. You take everything one step further than any normal individual, and that goes for everything, be it work or leisure activities. If she likes hiking, you talk about your rock-climbing endeavors. If she’s playing hard to get, you play hard to get her. If she mentions her love of Mexican food, you drive her across the damn border. Get the picture?

Play the role of the “I-hate-everything" artist
Let’s say you’re a musician or an aspiring actor. You should take advantage of that chosen profession to toss a little “Colin Farrell” at her. For whatever reason, throughout history, women have been attracted to the kind of man who rarely smiles, has a chip on his shoulder the size of Montana, and always adopts a bored visage while in public. You’re adopting the “artsy” persona, where you’re critical of just about everything, but aren’t loud or visibly annoyed. The world sucks, and there isn’t anything you can do about it, so why not have a little fun before you die? Just don’t step over the line into a sort of paranoid psychosis -- keep this little act reigned in lest you frighten her away. You want her to be intrigued by your withdrawn, frowning demeanor, not freaked out.

For the most part, women view men in an artistic field as sensitive, thus, regardless of whether or not that’s the case, why stomp all over her assumption? Reinforce that belief, and you’ll reap the rewards of your efforts.

You’re a Player, and she’s going to know it
So you’ve successfully lined up the aircraft for your Player approach, and now you simply have to land it. In order to close the deal, I suggest taking things a step further; this one goes beyond confidence because you’re actually crowing about your recent successes. Normally, bragging about previous conquests to a potential conquest is a cardinal sin of the pickup specialist, but we’re all about breaking new ground here. You’ve bagged a lot of women, and you expect her to be appropriately impressed. Think about it: There must be something at least mildly appealing about you if so many women have allowed you into their… good graces. Don’t you think she’d be somewhat curious about your God-given abilities? So, don’t hide it -- flaunt it.

Now, there is the possibility that this won’t fly at all, so you can test the waters with a more subtle comment, such as, “I’ve had my fair share of women, but none have made me laugh like you.” It’s a compliment, with an added implication, an implication she may immediately address with a shy smile.

JERK HER INTEREST
“Classy jerk” may sound like an oxymoron, but if you’re looking to score, it’s good to switch tactics here and there. Besides, this won’t damage your Player reputation -- provided you don’t overuse these tips -- and if you’re successful, you’ll know there’s more than one way to skin a cat. It’s all about adding more techniques to your already-expansive arsenal, so don’t discount the effectiveness of the bad boy, the brooding artist or the various “alpha-male” approaches. No, they won’t work on all women, but not all women are the same.

the one and only,but yours truly,the undispiuted dating dated guru of the Maldives
.....DarkCasanova....

She got A BF??

2010-04-14T01:47:00.000-07:00

First I want to say that I am sorry for not posting anything in such a long time. I was long thinking about publishing this post because it is somehow evil.

It gives you an overview over the tools to attract a person that is in a relationship and to somehow manipulate her to be turned her away from her boyfriend.

I am actually writing this post because I want you to see what other people might try to destroy your relationship by getting your girl. This post is therefore designed to make you realise that especially a long relationship is not a guarantee for an everlasting relationship. I don’t want to encourage you to actually use this strategy as I said I it is evil in my eyes. I have done it and it worked over and over again but after a couple years I have realised that it is more important to know about this kind of strategy and to prevent it from happening once you have the girl that you really love.

This strategy is for boyfriends who don’t want their women to get slowly seduced by another guy out of their own arms. However I am writing it as if you would be the guy how wants to seduce another girl, because that is the position that I know best.

If you for example already know the woman for a while or you know that you would not be able to pick her up in just one night and you know that you want her as your girlfriend. If you just want to have fun for a couple nights, then U SHOULD READ MORE HERE!!! ehem...err nvm that

I always found that girls that are in a relationship are actually easier to get then girls that are not. The longer the relationship has been the easier it is. Most guys probably think the opposite. Thus I will explain you why that is.

A girl that has been in a relationship for let’s say two years is definitely missing something. If she is not then we need to demonstrate her that she is. Especially girls between 17 and 26 have a intuitive drive to experience something, some more some less, but everybody has this drive build in by genetics. It is also a fact that most guys don’t care about their girl after two years as much anymore as at the beginning. They might argue a bit more, sex is almost a routine(atleast nowadays it is), kisses get shorter and less after a couple months and the attention they give her is not as high as it used to be.

But we all know that girls need attention. Guys are kind of retiring after a couple years and think that they have the girl for sure because she is constantly bagging him for more kisses, love and attention. Thus this is exactly our chance. This is where we attack. This is where we win her over!(ohh aint u juz feeling great even thinking about it!!!)

Once you got the girl to go out with you, to spend a day with you or something else the first step is to:

1. Study her boyfriend
What does he do? How old is he? How long has their relationship been going on for? Ask her simple superficial questions first, later on try to get her to tell you about their relationship. The goal is to find out if there are any weaknesses. Do they go out a lot? Is he taking her on vacations? Is he just lying on the sofa when he gets home? Are they doing a lot with their friends? Is he creative? Those questions need to come out naturally though, don’t bomb her with exactly those questions; these are just the questions that you want to have answered for yourself. By asking her a couple questions she might even tell you her complains and that is exactly where we want to have her.

2. Demonstrate value
From now on his weaknesses needs to be your strength. If she tells you that they are usually at home watching movies, then that is exactly what you will not do! You will take her out, take her to a lake rent a canoe or take her to nice places that you know. Just make sure that she hasn’t been there with him yet. Otherwise it will just remind her of good old times with her boyfriend. She will feel like betraying him by coming there with you and she will block. Hence it has to be a place where she hasn’t been. It also always looks good if you make it look like it is spontaneous, like you just had a great idea. Maybe don’t even tell her yet were you will go. If you think about it, in a long relationship everything is usually planed, she knows how much time he has, she knows the places that he knows and there are no real surprises anymore. Therefore surprise her! Make her laugh! Make her enjoy the day like no other day! If he is more the quite guy, then be crazy! Be the opposite. Make her realise that she is missing out. Be a gentleman, be all the things that he has forgotten, fight for her! Her boyfriend is not fighting for her anymore, he is probably not opening every door for her, because he thinks he is on the save site.

Show her that there is a lot more to do in the world then watching movies. She needs to have the feeling that she is missing out when she is spending time with him and not with you. Make her realise that live can be so much more exiting, funny and spontaneous and interesting with you.

3. Don’t talk about him unless she brings it up
After you have studied her boyfriend in the first part, don’t ever mention him again. You don’t want her to think about him, in fact you want her to forget him, to just enjoy her time. If she brings him up, listen to her, but don’t let it turn into a big discussion. Just listen and agree with her. She will project all the things that he is not into you by complaining to you about him and by you agreeing with her. Just say every once in awhile things like: “Hmm, I can’t understand that”, “That is wired”, “Why would he do that?”

4. Spend time with her
This is actually the most difficult and crucial part because here you have to take care that you don’t turn into her best friend that she can do nice things with and then she goes home and gets the sex from her boyfriend. The goal is to make her as comfortable around you as possible and to make her fall in love with you. The trick is to do that without her even recognising it. I mean, if you think about it, what is the difference between a good friend and a boyfriend? It pretty much just comes down to the physical part. Hence, touch her gently every once in a while. If you walk next to her make your hand touch hers for half a second, when you sit in front of her, put her hair back, make her gentle compliments like: “Your hair is beautiful”, “I love you fingers.” – make her attracted to you.

This case is a bit different from a seduction in a bar though in a bar you need to win her attention here you already have it, you are already somewhat between a friend and a boyfriend hence compliments from you are like from some random guy .

When you drop her off tell her nice things like: “It was wonderful with you, as always”- big smile- If she tells you this then reply “Well it was you who made it wonderful, I was just the driver.” Or tell her when she just gets of the moterbike: “Hey! You can call me … anytime you want.”

Again, this might sound a bit cheesy and some other guys might disagree with me here because you could say that you are running after her a bit, well in this case you are not. You want to win her over by being at the right time in the right place.

5. Wait for the right time
Don’t make a move when she is happy with her boyfriend right now, wait for a day when she is annoyed by him, they had an argument or she is just pissed because of something he did. This will lower the chance to be rejected dramatically. She will not run off with you when she just got fifty roses from him that day. If you have done the fourth step right she might even call you when she wants to talk to you or when she is annoyed by him.

Your "evil" Dating guy
DarkCasanova

Random thoughts

2010-04-05T23:30:00.000-07:00

1*Joined twitter yes its true.. but am still a bit confused on how to use it....

2*Have hit the dreaded writers block...I have NO IDEA WHAT TO WRITE....HELP!!!!

3*Started going to gym..again...

4*Desperately needs a coffee to get my mind right... or left...

5*Y does everyone keep telling me that i need a GF???? seriously people if i wanted one, i will have..but then again its not right just having a GF for the sake of it....

6*I need a change in ma life

7*Fort Minor, Eminem, Elvis, 50 Cent and Muse.... thanks guys for all the support you gave me...

8*Fellow bloggers... we need to meet up for a coffee or sumthin ...

9*Juz realised how horrible my writing is in this post..then again who cares...

10*Realised just seconds before that i need to write a book or sumthing...

11*would need a title for the book too...

12*"Behind every great man is a great woman."... hmm maybe i do need a GF....

13*Need to trust my instinct more

14*I still havent got the hang of twitter( seriously its been 2 hours since i started writing thios article and am playing with twitter which tortally seems to suck...or maybe am wrong? anyone care to prove me wrong?) :P

15*Just realised I dont write much about ma self in this blog....

16*Once there lived a boy... a boy who never got much love... boy who was the blend in-quiet "bas ahaa" type of boy..., he never had anyone to inspire him nor give him hope...life sucked... fastforward 10 years... "Hold out your hand" Said the boy... he had grown up now.. the girl smiled and lent him her hand..."close your eyes" and the boy put the ring on the girls finger...

Bam... "Hey WAKE UP IDIOT" the boy's cousin had hit him on the head with her purse...
The boy opend his eys.... and infront of him beyond the glass of the waiting room was an airplane.... The boy now grown.. and ready for the world...goin back to his country...

16*Y the hell have I written what I have written above....

Texting Her......

2010-04-03T23:58:00.000-07:00

My (Ex)GF cried hysterically for an hour and swore to never talk to me again because I jokingly texted I was more attractive then her.... seriously what just happend there???

Text game is a crucial part of your seduction toolbox. (ok people this might get a lil complicated but bear with me and ask if any doubt)

Almost all of the psychological tools that are used in real life seduction can be used in Phone and Text Game (besides sex of course!). For example, attraction, comfort and even sexual escalation can be achieved by using your phone effectively.

The objective of phone and text game should be (1) to arrange a meeting (a date) and (2) to create the requisite amount of attraction / comfort / sexual tension so that the date goes well (i.e. hopefully leads to something more!).
This article will cover some of the basic principles of text game – in particular:
(1) the things that you can and should do once you get her phone number; and (2) some guidance on your first texts to her.
Seeding The Text

This is a technique that I refer to as ‘seeding the text’. Basically what it means is that you prepare her for the first text somehow. So for example, immediately after getting her phone number, you could say something to her like:
“Text me when you get home” or
“I’ll text you my first impression of you”

A good technique is also to call her the minute you get her phone number and create a fun role-play. For example, you could say something like, “Hi, this is [your name]. I met this really cute girl at the "coffee" tonight but then I started talking to her and found out that she is kind of weird and stalkerish. I’m calling because I need advice as to how to get rid of girl stalkers.” Another example is to say something like “I’ll get my secretary to call your secretary” and then to send a follow up text saying something like “Hey this is Candy, [your name]’s hot, busty assistant. Is 7:30 tomorrow OK? ;)”.

Finally, an interesting gambit that I have heard about is to use a pen and paper and to say something like “draw a picture of yourself so I can remember what you look like“ while you get her number . You can then tease her about her diagram.

Immediate Follow Up Texts

A follow up text is when you text her within 0-10 minutes of meeting her. Follow up texts (or phone calls, as above) are an ideal way to (1) get her used to the idea of texting you (2) contact her later that night for the same night lay.

Ideally, a follow-up text shouldn’t include a question so it doesn’t require much compliance from her. These types of low compliance texts are most useful when the girl doesn’t have your number yet.

As a side note, it is generally a GOLDEN RULE that she should have your number in her phone too. Don’t just take her number, put yours into her phone. Often, you can put your name as something funny like, ‘Cute Guy With Nice Ass’ or something more specific to you. That way, she laughs and is in a better emotional state as soon as she gets a text from you.

The best types of follow up text are those which involve callback humor (i.e. relate to something that was said in the actual interaction between you and her). Here are examples of some follow-up texts that tend to work well:
“How’s my favorite little brat doing?”
“It’s me, your phone. I wanted to get out of your pocket. The smell in there is unbearable. Take care.”

When is the best time to text?

Selecting a good time to text is key for two reasons. The first reason is what it says about YOU! Cool, high value guys have busy lives. You go out often and you have a fun and exciting life. So the time that you text is crucial as it should indicate that you have an awesome busy life and you’re not just thinking about the girl you met in the bar the other day. You should generally avoid texting a girl on a Thursday night unless there was some indication earlier during the day (or through the course of your interaction, whenever it was) that you may meet up during the night.

Consider it this way. Hot girls ALWAYS have something going on. If they’re hot then guys and girls are going to be calling them out all the time. Thus if you don’t catch them at the right time they may not respond to your text. For example, they may have received a text and just not replied in that moment because they are busy doing something else. They would then likely forget to reply altogether.

Therefore the best time to text is when she’s alone in her room or relaxing. The most likely times that this will be happening are:

1. 7pm Friday. There is a good chance she’ll be alone on a Friday evening.
2. 10 to 12pm any other day. Usually this is the period just after dinner but before she goes to sleep.
3. If you have to text during the day, then 12 pm – 2 pm is ideal (lunchtime!).

Texting at 11pm and 12am also has an added advantage.(please note that times vary) These times lead to bedtime. If you are the last person that she thinks about before she goes to sleep and thus, likely the first person she thinks about when she wakes up, you will resonate in her subconscious mind (beware, she may also resonate in yours!).

How long should you wait before you text? If it was a direct day approach then text that same day or the day after at the latest. Alternatively – if you met her during the night time, a text the next day may be more appropriate (unless you want to employ the immediate follow up text or phone call as described above).

This needs to be calibrated depending on your interaction.
Opening texts

Your opening text should be congruent with your interaction and the image you portrayed. In general, it’s good to have a fun playful tone with your texts.
Here are examples of easy going and fun texts that you can use:
“What’s up poster girl?”
“Hey goober/shrimp/whatever fits, I just saw the cutest little X and thought of you.
“You wouldn’t believe the dream I had last night.”
“I just met your twin”

Remember that the point of the opening text is to either bring her good emotions, make her smile, laugh or be intrigued and then compel her to write back. Most guys are too serious with their opening text and get to the invite to the date WAY too fast. The emphasis should be on being playful and fun and building or rebuilding the levels of comfort and attraction.

Situational Opening Texts – A Good Strategy For Subsequent Text Exchanges

Situational opening texts are a good strategy for the second to third times that you initiate text contact with her. They can work well to get a conversation going but you eventually need to transition them into your desired objective (which should generally be a date or meet up).
Here are examples of situational opening texts:
“If nose hairs were a sign of masculinity, the guy opposite me would be the hulk.”
“Maybe it’s the booze talking, but I want you to know that I love booze.”

These are best used when you have something fun lined up with friends already and then you can invite her out as part of the conversation.

The Structure of Messages For Setting Up a Date

If the interaction between you and her went particularly well, you may want to go directly for a date on your first text message. If this is the case, you can employ a certain structure :

1. Open with the Nickname – The purpose of the nickname is to set a fun and playful tonality to the text message.
2. Reason for text/response to their text – This is to ‘ground’ the text. You’re not just texting her out of the blue.
3. Suggested course of action/genuine question – this is what most guys text. They simply text stuff like “We should hang out”. This will cause her to react because she will basically be saying ‘yes’ to you asking her out. It will cause her to feel some small level of discomfort and she will feel like she’s on the spot.
4. Random statement to disguise weight of previous sentence – This is the key to disarming her. Put in something that is random that distracts her so she can have fun with her reply whilst still saying yes.

As an example:
NICKNAME
Hey cutie / shorty / rabbit / whatever name you called her

REASON FOR TEXT/ RESPONSE TO THEIR TEXT
I was thinking / What you doing?

SUGGESTED COURSE OF ACTION/GENUINE QUESTION
You know we should really hit [that place you spoke about in your interaction] / Have you ever been to Cafe Casanova?(lol ) / I’m busy Thursday and Friday but we should grab a drink on Wednesday.

RANDOM STATEMENT TO DISGUISE WEIGHT OF PREVIOUS SENTENCE
P.s. Do you like (a certain band)? / P.s. what’s your view on Marshmallows? / Ever wondered who would win in a contest between a rabbit and a smurf? / More importantly, do you have a geeky side?

The principle is that by reading the last line of your text (the random/funny/intriguing statement) she’ll smile, laugh or at the least be interested in your text and then reply your text.

Your Text loving Dating guru
.....DarkCasanova....

The SOI Technique

2010-03-24T23:59:00.000-07:00

The Wedding Cake : Just how many girls want to be there up with you? The Prize...

The power of this technique is not the words themselves, it's that you're making it explicitly clear from the moment you say it, that you find her attractive and are into her.

The whole purpose of "game" is to reach that point. Some guys do it through humor, some guys do it through sexuality. Some guys do it as the nice polite guy offering romantic gestures.

Whichever route is taken, the destination is to get to the point where it's clear that YOU DIG HER. Not in a supplicating way, but in a lustful, intimate, desirable way.

Failures and rejections happen when guys beat around the bush, over-game instead of mirroring her interest-levels, or don't have the confidence to finally reach THAT POINT where you make it UNMISTAKABLY CLEAR that the reason you're interacting with her is because YOU'RE INTO HER.

Somewhere in your interaction with the girl, you'll get to a point where the natural progression is to verbalize this to the girl. The name for this is something you already know... One of the most common, and under-rated social dynamic events: the SOI.

When you SOI a girl, don't do it as a way to seek rapport. Don't do it as a way to seek approval. Don't even do it as a way to make her attracted to you. Simply do it because YOU DIG HER, and you are communicating this openly and confidently. Once you lay it out there, you have immediately dictated the TONE of the dynamic between you and her.

You can SOI her in the opening phase. You can SOI her in the closing phase. You can do it anywhere in between. There's no rule to it. It works organically, based on the rhythm of the interaction. Whenever she really has you fired up for her, that's when you verbalize it.

She's not a fucking mind-reader(nor are guys). Don't drop hints either, this isn't a game of "Clue". It's natural for the girl to drop hints. It's not natural for males to behave that way. Express yourself. Show your passion. Demonstrate your strength of character by not hesitating to show your cards.

When you SOI a girl, don't expect any kind of response, because that will create anxiety or even disappointment. Don't expect any kind of "magic" to happen because of your words, either. In fact, don't expect anything.

Just say whatever you feel.

SOI her. And when you do it, don't tiptoe it in. Say it confidently, and matter-of-factly. Like pulling a shiny golden-egg out of your pocket and setting it down in front of her. You just put it out there and watch how she responds, knowing full-well how powerfully valuable it is.

Then just GO WITH THE FLOW of whatever happens next.

When you do this genuinely and without expectation, you pull the girl into a reality where she sees the possibility of passion and romance with you.

This immediately seperates you from all the other guys in her life. You suddenly place yourself into a completely new category.

Like putting rose-colored glasses on her, she'll immediately look at you in a new way.

How she responds can be one of a million ways. Whatever you do, don't RETRACT or try to COVER UP your SOI. Don't make excuses for how you feel. Don't hide how you feel. And especially don't qualify yourself to her afterwards. Don't try to "sell yourself" to her.

Your SOI's should be delivered in a "this is how I feel, take it or leave it" manner. You put the ball in HER court.

Then: you move on. Change the subject, if you like. Or tease her on her response, if it's funny or cute. Whatever you do, don't let the momentum sit there and die.

Treat it like a bump in the road, one that you INTENTIONALLY drive over. You bounce over it, then you KEEP DRIVING. You LET HER be the one to ask "..did you feel that?"

In other words, in most cases she'll respond with "..wait, what did you just say?"

Remember, don't over-game. This isn't about "what do I say if she says this? How do I respond if she does that?". Forget about that.

What's the whole point of the SOI? Do you remember?

It's to bring the dynamic to THAT POINT, where it's clear that you DIG HER, that you are ATTRACTED TO HER.

She KNOWS what you just said. She heard it. Her question is not there because she wants you to explain it to her. She's asking it because you took her by surprise. Now her mind is going through a huge shift where her whole perspective of you is instantly changing.

You've brought her to THAT POINT.

Once you've brought the interaction to that point, you shouldn't be worrying out how to continue gaming from this point.

You've put the ball in her court. Now all you have to do is behave as if this was the way it was supposed to happen all along. As if there were no other direction that things were going to go.

And continue as before. You can behave the same way as earlier, only now all your behavior and statements will be processed through a new, more positive, more attraction-fueled perspective in her mind.

Your confidence, combined with the non-chalant, carefree, fearless and expectation-less delivery of your SOI gives the opposite of a sense of finality.. It creates a sense of BEGINNING.

Like, the beginning of a steamy relationship. Or a night of passion and ecstasy.

You have to understand that girls really WANT to be brought to THAT POINT with a guy. Nothing is more thrilling for her.

Most guys never get to THAT POINT. They hint at it, or try to find that point through the friendzone.

Girls go on dates with guys specifically to find a guy who knows how to bring the dynamic between him, and her, to THAT POINT.

Make THAT POINT something that RADIATES FROM YOU when you interact with a girl. Everything about you, your body-language, your voice-tone, your eye-contact, your words.. Everything should vibrate in a harmonious tone that creates a bubble around you and the girl, where she is engulfed in the reality of THAT POINT.

Where she knows that with you, it's not about this, or that, or whatever. With you, it's all about YOU AND HER simmering at THAT POINT of mutual interest and attraction.

This is the purpose of game, to get there, and to play there. Everything else is just moving sideways.

Your Dating Guru
.....DarkCasanova....

25 rules of Wisdom : Mafia Style....

2010-03-19T23:51:00.000-07:00

The Lone Piece: To win, sometimes you have to step in the darkness yourself/blend in and adapt..

The other day, I was sitting down with some younger members of my crew dispensing advice (as I always do) on the ways of the world and how to last longer in my business and maintain smart habits. One of the young stunads in the crew was so captivated by what I was saying that he suggested I write a book to teach others my "rules of wisdom."

Now, you'll never see a published book with my name attached to it (this blog is already too much), but it got me thinking about a good topic for an article. Why not teach my readers the same rules of wisdom I teach my Family?

So, I wrote down the 25 most important rules you need to remember. Now, I can't take credit for many of these; my mentor Salvatore (Sal) taught me most of them, and Sal probably had someone teach them to him. Obviously, some of these rules go back 100 or even 1,000 years, but if you think I'm going to do the research to find out who said what, you've got another thing coming, cafone. So here goes.

1- Even the boss must get his fingernails dirty.
Don't make the people under you do things you haven't done or aren't willing to do. Once in a while, I'll go out into the field with a trusted capo of mine to send a message to my crew. If you're a leader, then lead by example. How can anyone argue with you then?

2- A handful of luck is better than a mountain of wisdom.
OK, this one isn't Sal's or mine for that matter, but it's still an important rule. As smart as you can be, there are always things in life you have to be prepared for. Even a wise man can slip on ice. Don't underestimate the power of being at the right place at the right time.

3- For every one word you say, let your enemies say 10.
Sort of like Rule 8 (you'll see it soon, shut up), but I like to emphasize this point by saying that the more you reveal to your enemy, the more weapons he has to hurt you with. Let your enemy talk because information is power, and information can destroy.

4- Cash is cash, even if it comes from an elephant's stomach.
When you have greenbacks in your hands, there are no maybes, no ifs, no credit checks, no anything. A check can always bounce, a credit card is for suckers, cash is always cash (which is why my establishments only accept hard currency).

5- Never reveal 100% of anything to anyone.
If you have a great idea on how to become a millionaire, or another great idea never tell anyone all the details of your plan. Always hold something back, reveal only 75% or 90% of the plan if you have to. It protects you and ensures that your great idea stays yours.

6- Never make a decision when you're angry.
Smart, careful men realize they must have a clear head to think. When you're angry, it's your boiling bloodlines that speak for you, not your logic. Control your emotions. This is one of the most important rules there is. When you're angry, you make threats you often can't deliver on, or decisions you come to regret. Don't say I didn't warn you.

7- A man is nothing without his word.
One of the few things even a poor man has is his word. Your word should never be broken. Always keep your promises (you should never make promises, but I know how some of you clowns can't stop yourselves). The minute someone doesn't trust you is the minute you lose them.

8- Keep your mouth shut. If you have to lie, keep it short and simple.
If you don't have anything smart to say, don't say anything at all. Even if you have something to say, don't say it, you just end up revealing something to the other person, giving them more ammo to shoot you with. If your mouth stays shut, mistakes go the way of the dinosaurs.
If you lie, there's no use in you coming up with some conspiracy theory. A short and sweet lie is easier to defend (and remember) than some elaborate story about how some transvestite got lipstick on your tie.

9- The best way to dodge an enemy's bullet is by never being in a position where he can hit you.
Don't put yourself in a position where you can get in trouble. Avoid being put between a rock and a hard place. Never be in the same room with your enemy and he'll never have a clear shot at your head.

10- When you can't win a war by playing fair, bend the rules. Better yet, break them.
Unless you're some salami who's as motivated as a slug, you always want to win. Winning doesn't mean you have to play by the rules. It means winning. If you want to get ahead in life, you have to learn the rules of the side-game. Those who run this country learned this rule a long time ago.

11- Never forgive betrayal.
Never.

12- Whenever you're in doubt about whether an enemy should respect or fear you, always choose fear.
Respect is great, fear is better. Machiavelli made this one famous. Fear is a better deterrent than respect; fear will stop an enemy in his tracks more than respect will.

13- A woman's anger can always be subdued with a diamond ring (and a man's with sex).
Is this a sexist rule? Who gives a damn? If a woman gets a diamond, she should shut up and be happy (it worked for Americanos, it should work for us). As long as my wife doesn't change, this rule will always apply with me. For men, I always tell my crew: A good night with a mistress will clear your head.

14- Behind every great man is a great woman.
Just because I tell you to follow Rule 13, doesn't mean that you should disrespect your wife. You need the stability of a great woman to be great. A man without a family can never be a complete man. A mediocre wife will always stop you from fulfilling your potential.

15- Nothing lasts forever.
Whether it's love, good fortune, success in business, your looks, or your hair, nothing lasts forever. This one is self-explanatory.

16- Never give a tip to someone who isn't looking.
Whether you're in a bar being served by a hot waitress don't give a big tip if; A) The waitress isn't even looking at you or going to know it's from you.

17- If you go to war, always strike first. Strike hard, and hope it's the only strike you need.
When a conflict or fight is inevitable, always strike the first blow. You will knock your enemy off balance, and if your blow was strong enough, you could knock your enemy out completely.

18- Peace is only a prelude to war.
Never be complacent. Just because everything is going great in your life now, doesn't mean it always will. Always be ready for the worst, even if you don't live as though the worst is actually happening to you.

19- Have a priest on call if you choose to be a careless man.
If you're not careful, or at least cautious in your actions or words, you're doomed to make your wife a widow or torpedo your career.

20- When in doubt, follow your gut.
Instincts were given to us so that we can make a decision when all the elements in a decision-making process aren't obvious. Listen to your gut, it'll save you more often than it'll hurt you.

21- Man appoints, God disappoints.
I never quite understood what this meant. Sal used to say it all the time, and I would just nod my head even if I didn't know what he was trying to say. I don't even think Sal knew what it meant. Still, it sounds good.

22- Keep your friends close, your enemies closer.
People always misunderstand this saying. It doesn't mean you have to be best friends with your enemy, it just means you should do everything in your power to keep tabs on your enemy. Have someone you trust in his organization. Know his moves, predict his thoughts, and capitalize on his weaknesses.

23- Overestimate the time something takes, and underestimate its rewards.
Even the best plans sometimes don't come to fruition (yeah, big word, I know). Most of the time, we have to work to get something, and that means being patient. Overestimating the work and underestimating the reward will never leave you disappointed.

To make money, you have to spend money.
I hate greasing all these corrupt politicians, but most of the time, I makes me 10 times more money as a result. Don't be afraid to spend money if it will bring you more. Take a loan at the bank if you have a great idea for a business. Pay a good employee a decent salary. Pay for expert advice. If you are a smart businessman, you will always come out on top.

25- Lucky is the man who suffers humiliation in front of others, for his revenge will be sweeter.
If someone ever embarrasses you, make sure he gets a good laugh; make sure people see this embarrassment because the memory will eat at you until you get your revenge. Too often, people don't retaliate when they're humiliated. Raise the stakes, and you'll have no choice but to return with a vengeance.

That's enough advice already.

Watch your backs and keep your noses clean.

......DOn DarkCasanova.....

Seduction : A Game...

2010-03-14T00:13:00.000-08:00

It's all just a GAME.

o The more you play, the better you get.

o If you fail, you simply start again.

o You are the main character, the Sonic, the Mario, the Megaman.

o As you progress, you upgrade. Better clothes, better physique, better weapons to beat any girl that you come across.

o There will be obstacles, just like any other game.

o If you win, you get rewarded. The rewards are limitless.

o Its the greatest game you will ever play.

......DarkCasanova......

That Look!!!

2010-03-13T23:43:00.000-08:00

Ever get a disgusted look from a girl? Did it just CRUSH your confidence and make you wither like a delicate flower being cooked in a microwave?

Some guys call this "the look". Alot of guys say "just push past it! She's testing your confidence!"

Other guys say "that means you blew it. just eject and find another girl."

My advice? Stop thinking. By CARING about "the look", you're reacting to HER reality. Don't. Why should you? How does her expression have any importance to you? She's just another girl that's going to be making out with you later in the evening. <-- A solid history of closes(good experiances) will hammer this mindset into you.

Pull her into YOUR reality, where you are the king of the world and every girl worships you. Supersize your confidence.

note to any girl reading:Its just a mindset :p

Just keep going. A year from now you'll be like "why the fuck did I care about "the look"? LOL. I was such an insecure bitch back then. Now I see that the stronger MY reality is, the more girls succumb to me."

Inner Reality DICTATES Outer Reality.

You LITERALLY decide HOW she responds to you, based on how YOU react to YOURSELF.

To be honest, I don't even get "the look" anymore. All I get are bedroom eyes. That just comes from internal confidence.. and exuding value, instead of seeking it. I'm the same person. I just feel, and think, differently.. and that makes girls act differently.

This will fix itself for you the more congruent your actions become with your beliefs. If you're acting like SuperPimp but you're feeling like KindaPimp, the disconnect is what's making girls give you negative responses. They can sense a Sheep in Wolf's clothing from a mile away.

Feel like SuperPimp all the time! This is purely a mindset, so it's entirely in your control. You just need to give yourself permission to be awesome.

What's stopping you? No excuses!!!

Note to girls: Above are mindsets just mindsets.... some guys have it some dont... am just helping those who dont :P

Your Dating Coach
.....DarkCasanova....

Broken Hearts...

2010-02-06T22:35:00.000-08:00

First let me take u back like umm about 8 years...

There was me... a compleate wuss with women.... was freaking scared to even talked to them....

and then i got introduced to an awesome thing called MSN!!! yea!!! no HELL YEA!!!!

It was the perfect thing for me.. i can be myself and talk with much confidence since am not directly talking with a girl....

ok fast forward this into 4 months and i got a gf yea!!!! actually it was pretty intense with all the love emotes & all...

one month later she broke up via EMAIL!!! shit...

ok again fast forward 8 years to this year February...

I met her again... she was changed, looked more cuter & hotter...

well so had I... I knew this was the momment.. I had to prove to my self that the past is way behind me... so guess what i did...

I used every freaking trick and thing i know about seduction to seduce her...

Anyways.. 4 hours later lets juz say we ended up more than juz "fooling around" :p

And here comes the twist in the tale!! one of my buddies called me to go to cofy.. so i dropped the girl at her place & went...

as we started taling i norticed my buddy was in a v happy mood.. i was kinda curious and asked him y he was being a bit too high..

So he took out his iphone and showed me his gf & told me he was madly in love with her..

And there i was dumbstuck...shocked.... WTF.... no i wasent shocked because he was in love or that he had met a girl after being trainned under my supervision about the art of sedcution NO!! i was shocked cause the girls he showed was none other than my "ex-online gf"!!!!

YEA the very same.... shit i felt bad... i knew i had to tell him..after all he was like a bro to me and so i did...

At first he thought i was kidding... and then it was well um embarrassing to see him cry out loud as a chick in an indian drama!!

and it wasent over yet.. He then called the girl and made her come....

after she came he aksed her about us and to make matters worse she lied... yep.... she lied... I knew that this was ime to step in and clear the mess up...

so i calmly asked her to tell the truth... she said F U to me and I asked her wheather she wanted to she the clip of me and her "fooling around" ofcause there was no clip...

a min later after much thought she started crying which made my buddy get emo again and starting cryin again!!! most embarrassing cofy i ever went to in my life!!!

Moral of the story: Always let your friends know who u are dating!!

To Give A Hickey Or Not Give A Hickey.....

2009-12-28T05:28:00.000-08:00

Alrite...phew after I had to spend over an hour getting my ex to stop being mad at me over something I had done in a dream she had,I decided to block her for all of eternity...I knew its time... time to update again..so here goes

Once upon a time there lived darkey and..ahh forget it hehe lets get to the topic shall we?

Angel:hey i saw a red mark on my neck near the collorbone…did u give that

Darkey:yea hehe maybe soo ;)

Angel:lol

thats a small part of a phone call i got from my gf Angel.. now i knew about the red marks and stuff..but dint know how to exactly give it..anyways latter about 2 days latter today to be exact..lol i counlt give her a red mark…it was a bit frustrating at first..soo angel showed me how… and by the ned of the day there were many marks given to her from me…it was like my own signature on my gf..hehe what better way to say that she is mine ….anyways i did a lil research and found out a bit more about them… here are the details below

What Is a Hickey?
A hickey is actually broken blood vessels beneath the skin. It’s sort of like a bruise, if you got hit with a baseball and the impact broke the blood vessels. But instead of being caused by a foul ball, it’s caused by the other person’s mouth.

How Do You Give a Hickey?
What you do is put your mouth against the side of their neck, in a kissing shape. You leave your mouth slightly open in the middle, like you’re saying the letter “O”. Now you suck in! You suck the skin into your mouth, in essence hurting it, and causing the blood vessels to break. This turns that circular area bright red. It doesn’t take long, maybe 30 seconds.

If you really aren’t good at suction, you can nibble with your teeth. But that is really a last resort, because now you’re not giving them a hickey. Now you’re just gnawing their skin to make it red.

Yes, giving a hickey hurts the person you’re doing it to. You’re breaking their blood vessels! But to some, a hickey is a temporary mark of love. Sort of like a red tattoo that fades naturally after a few days. It says “This girl (or guy) trusted me enough to let me damage their throat, one of the most sensitive parts of the human body”.

Who Gives a hickey, the Boy or the Girl?
That’s like asking who kisses who! Hickeys aren’t a male or female thing. They’re an “I was Here!” thing, sort of like a mark of pride. So either the girl or the guy can give it to each other. It’s sort of a primitive way of saying “This boy is mine!” or “This girl belongs to me!”

Where does the Hickey Go?
Hickeys are marks of possession, so most people put them on the neck where they’re nice and visible. Also, a hickey is caused by lips breaking blood vessels and that’s easy to do on the sensitive neck. It’s less easy to do, say, on the sole of someone’s foot. Plus, nobody would see it there. Sure, you could put a hickey on someone’s upper inner thigh, but unless they were wearing a swimsuit, nobody would see it. You might as well draw a smily face with magic marker :)

How Long does a Hickey Last?
A hickey is a bruise. Just like any other bruise you get on your body, it will fade when your body heals. There’s no set rate. Some people heal quickly, some people heal slowly. It all depends on your own body. You must have been bruised before in your life! So you know how long bruises tend to last …

How do I Hide my Hickey?
A hickey is put there to show up! It’s a mark of I-Was-Here. Why else did you get a hickey on your neck? But let’s assume that some wild hickey attacker got to you and now you have to hide the evidence. Again, it’s a bruise. It won’t just vanish with warm water or cold water or lukewarm water. You can get make-up concealer and try that, to cover it while it fades away naturally. Wear turtlenecks or scarves. If you tend to be a really slow healer, take vitamins and eat healthy food so your body has half a chance of healing up well. Stand in dark corners :)

more to come

Your loyal Dating Coach
...DarkCasanova...

Random thoughts...and Eye techniqe (not naruto stuff guys,,,hehe)

2009-05-12T05:26:00.000-07:00

here i am listening to de "five star collection" as my cuz says..been a while since ihv updated this...

hmm life's busy these days...ingae ehnu dho job kanthakuga sometimes busy vaane dho... anyways fun stuff are there too like nutty people from both DRP and MDP "ehvanings"..

It's quite entertaining actully.. like an encore from this parlimentary race which juz finished exept we still aint sure who finished first or last... ahh what am i saying? this aint like me... ehme ehem *shifts to date guru mode* :P

Ok dear pupils..now is the time for u to request for an article since am knda haviung that allinment called "writer's block" or sumthing like that... so if u have any bright ideas for an aricle (dating relatd ofcause..) juz let me know by de comments here...

ok here's a lil "Usefull for anywhere" thing u can doo

but first da Requirments:

1*U have balls

2*U are not blind

3*Ur not gay

Anywhere, keep your flirting eyes out for the woman that comes in alone. She is usually the easiest to meet and pick up. She is there for a reason and you can be the lucky guy to fulfill that reason.

Also while walking, keep that sexy looking gleam in your eye. Literally try to melt women with your eyes. If you make eye contact with a woman, make sure you give her a friendly smile and if she is close enough to you, simply say, “Hi.” That is all it takes and with practice it will come easy.

If you make eye contact with some woman across the way from you and she turns away, don’t give up on her. Try to make eye contact again and smile at her. If she smiles back, approach her immediately. This is an opportunity that must not be passed up because it’s an open invitation for you to come over and introduce yourself .

Whatever you do, don’t stare at a woman. This is impolite and nobody likes to be stared at. Just look at her long enough to make it quite clear that you see her and then immediately look away. What you are saying with your eyes when you look at her this way is, “I know you are there and I would not dream of invading your privacy.” Just keep looking at her off and on until you establish some meaningful eye contact and exchange smiles.

What really amazes me is these guys sumtimes don’t even flirt with women. They just stare into space or look down at the floor. If they do accidentally catch the eye of a woman, they look away as quickly as possible and let it go at that. They just don’t know what they are missing and what they are missing out on is picking up women.

So my friend, if you’re like this, make it a point to stop staring into space and start flirting with women. Flirt with every woman in sight. It’s a lot of fun and you will be attracting more women than ever before.

and yea I'll end this with a lil quote from a kwl song by MChammer/Crazy froG

"U CANT TOUCH THIS!!!!!"
...........DarkCasanova........

How to Get Through Life" list (for guys [mostly])

2009-04-22T23:52:00.000-07:00

ok here goes!!

Stage 1: Sperm

Swim like hell.

Stage 2: Pregnancy

Eat like a sonofabitch. Kick like hell and start tugging on shit like gangbusters if you hear about abortion.

Stage 3: Childbirth

Get out alive. Keep your eyes and nose closed so you don't remember what your mother's vagina looks or smells like.

Stage 4: Infant

Look cute. Eat. Shit. Repeat.

Stage 5: Toddler

Things have been pretty chill up ‘til now. Outside of the sprint towards your mother's ovaries, you've mostly been maxing and relaxing, having your every need attended to hand and foot. Unfortunately, people now expect you to start doing shit. The first thing you need to learn is to behave. This can most easily be achieved by doing whatever your mother or father tells you to do, which on a side note, tends to totally suck.

On top of that, the ‘rents are going to count on you to at some point learn to use the toilet. Daunting I know, but for the better in the long run for all of us, trust me. Also, we're getting to the point where you have to learn to walk. It kinda sucks because once you start, you'll be expected to use this newfound skill basically all of the time, for the rest of your life. Revel in your lack of responsibility by watching copious amounts of cartoons and learning to mess with your sisters,mum or any female(sure helps to understand the female mind at this stage).

Stage 6: Childhood

Learn to cope with others and continue with your finding newskills quest.

Stage 7: Adolescence

Unless you're the girl who got her boobs early or your parents are really fucking rich and you have every video game on earth, this is no doubt going to be a pretty tough time for you. Simply put, it's an awkward stage in life, what with puberty setting in and all that. One of the things you have to keep in mind during this period is that it sucks for everyone. I don't know if that really helps you, but it sure makes me feel better!

On top of this, the one-time homogenous structure of your social circle will begin to cleave off. Allegiances will be made, trysts formed, and cliques initiated. Choose your alliances carefully. You should also try and carve out a niche for yourself--jock, Goth, Da gahdaa. It doesn't even really matter what you choose because in a couple of years you'll regret it anyway. On top of this I would suggest using what little newfound freedom you have to accrue some porn to fuel your masturbation habit.

Stage 8: Teenager

Don't die.

The best way for me to sum up being a teenager is to that you're going to think you know everything, but in reality you are a fucking idiot and you know nothing. What's funny is that everyone from parents to guidance counselors to just about anyone else are going to attempt to relate this to you in a much subtler fashion over and over and over again.

You can trust me when I tell you it will fall on deaf ears, because like I said earlier, to be a teenager is to be a fucking idiot. So with that in mind, your one and only goal during this time should be to not fuck up to the point that you die or seriously debilitate yourself. Cheers!

Stage 9:OUTTA SCHOOL!!

Yay your headaches are now over...NOT!!! Now comes the part where u have to get a reputaion for yourself in the community in either a good way , cool way or a bad way..here are somepoints which i would recomend for all u out there

1. Seduce as much as possible.I mean comeon it's the prime of your youth dont waste it... Even if you're not in the mood, don't like the girl, or are too fucked up to make rational decisions, this is THE TIME to get this sort of thing out of your system, so please, for gawd's sake, have at it.

Eventually, many years from now hopefully, you're going to find a girl you love and maybe, just maybe if you're looking for "true love" or a complete fucking idiot (same thing) you will want to settle down and be with her and her alone for the rest of your life (read: insane). The last thing you want is to be stuck with one woman forEVER whitout having your fair amount of fun time,and u being her BIATCH!!!!

2.Have fun, i mean seriously this is the time of your life..have fun,dont do drugs and drive safe..

Stage 10: Adulthood

Holy. Fucking. Shit. The party is over. You thought things were rough when I told you that you had to learn to poop? This is where the going really gets tough. In essence what you have to figure out at this point is just YOUR WHOLE FUCKING LIFE. You see, they lied when they told you that you had important decisions to make about your future when you were in school. Then they lied to you again about it when you got to higher education. None of that shit matters now for the most part.

What the fuck do you want to be when you grow up? That question in itself used to contain such boundless opportunity that it was an adventure just thinking about the possibilities. The problem is, there are only a few answers you can actually give to this question, and they all suck.

On top of that, let me add that you'll now be responsible for yourself. This means two things: pay your bills and don't get arrested. If you can mange those two items, you're pretty much straight until you hit middle age.

whats next? ahh i dont know u tell me!!!!!!!

....DarkCasanova........

25 Things NOT to do....

2009-04-20T01:29:00.000-07:00

It's a bit long but highly recomended.....

1) FIDGETY MOVEMENTS AND TIGHT SHOULDERS AND TAKING YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY OR BEING TOO BUSINESSLIKE OR "SOPHISTICATED" (not laughing or being relaxed) = very visible subconsious (or conscious) self-doubt, overcompensating through non-relaxed state, where you're prepared to deal with anything that could happen. Ever met someone who doesn't blink when you talk to them?

2) TALKING TOO FAST = worried that people will stop listening to you unless you get out something that will interest them before they leave

3) LAUGHING AT YOUR OWN JOKES = covering up that you aren't affected that others didn't laugh, and social nervousness

4) SAYING "RIGHT" OR "YOU KNOW" AFTER STATEMENTS = seeking validation that what you said was true, or saying it because others aren't

5) STANDING WITH LEGS NOT HALF A METER APART AT LEAST = worried that you'll infringe on other people's personal space

6) TALKING TOO SOFTLY OR LOUD = fear that you'll impose yourself on people and their personal space(ie: beta).. alpha males aren't afraid to project their voice.. YET, talking obviously too LOUD can also be seen as OVERCOMPENSATING. Just like guys who wear GENERIC clothes are trying to fit in, or guys who wear OUTRAGEOUS clothes are trying too hard to overcompensate. (hint: be careful with peacocking(dressing to impress), find a style that doesn't come off this way, which can be tricky but is still very doable).. Some guys don't talk, some talk too much, etc etc.. Find appropriate balance through trial and error, which is determined through social observation,

7) MOVING YOUR HANDS AROUND WHILE YOU TALK = trying to keep the attention of the group (sometimes can be cool, but most often a form of qualifying yourself)

8) LEANING IN *or* 'PECKING' = too eager to talk.. NEVER lean in no matter how loud the environment is MAKE HER LEAN IN or just leave but NEVER lean in or "peck" as its also called.

9) FACING BODY/FEET TOWARDS HER BEFORE SHE EARNED IT = trying to gain rapport with her too eagerly.

10) CHASING WHEN SHE WALKS AWAY = hoping she'll listen. If a chick moves away from you, move your bodylanguage MORE away from her, so she'll be drawn back.. don't CHASE her... WTF?!@?!?

11) NOT WITHDRAWING (backturns, etc) WHEN SHE DOES SOMETHING THAT YOU WOULDN'T TOLERATE FROM AN UGLY GIRL OR A GUY = trying too hard to pick her up

12) ANSWERING QUESTIONS TOO QUICKLY/EARLY = too much interest in the conversation

13) TURNING YOUR HEAD (OR "SNAPPING") WHEN YOU'RE ADDRESSED = too eager to be in convo.. so if your head is facing the other direction, and a girl says something to you, turn it SLOWLY to her, don't snap it out of eagerness to hear her

14) GOING BACK TO A PRIOR THREAD THAT WAS INTERUPTED AT THE FIRST CHANCE/BREAK-IN-CONVO THAT YOU GET = trying too hard to impress them.. (ie: when a thread gets broken off in the convo, and you go back to it FIRST chance you get when the other topic ends, you look like you were WAITING to get back to it.. WHY are you so eager to get back on it, unless you don't feel comfortable around the person and you need to qualify yourself to them?) WAIT until THEY say "what was that you were saying before?", and THEN go back to it.. if it doesn't happen, *DROP IT* even if it was good.

15) NOT APPEARING MORE INTO YOUR WINGMAN THEN THE CHICK = trying too hard to pick her up.. you've known your wingman longer than her.. why do you pay more attention to her than your wing???

16) TOO EAGER TO PAY ATTENTION - SAYING "what?" IF YOU CAN'T HEAR HER, PRIOR TO BEING IN RAPPORT = too much interest in what she's saying.. if she mumbles, just STACK OPENERS into an entirely DIFFERENT topic, RATHER than saying "what?" This is fucking KEY KEY KEY. If you say "what?" you'll lose her unless you're already past attraction and into rapport. If this happens, just run a new opener and change the topic. 1- you don't look too eager, 2- you look alpha for being disinterested in what she's talking about which helps anyway

17) REPLYING WITH OVERLY THOUGHT-OUT OF LOGICAL ANSWERS OR WITH OVERLY CLEAR/FORMAL PRONUNCIATION = being concerned that you won't be accepted unless you convince really well (eg. HB: why did you ask me that... RIGHT = I'm talking. (sit and stare) WRONG = because I really need to know since I've been thinking about this for a while.. the FIRST one conveys that you won't qualify yourself to her)

18) TAKING TOO MANY SENTENCES TO STATE AN IDEA THAT COULD BE STATED IN LESS SPACE = qualifying yourself. "Remember Guys, don't write what you can say, don't say what you can wink, don't wink what you can smile" TIGHT. The shorter you can explain something in, the more PROFOUND you'll appear. Why? You're not qualifying yourself. (ironically I'm massively guilty of this, due to the fact that I post when I'm really tired - see #21 to spot what was wrong with this last sentence)

19) BEING BOLD INSTEAD OF CONFIDENT = that you know that you can't pick her up, so you compensate with self-defeating actions so that the snub can be on "your terms". Saying "I'm sexy right?" or "baby I want some of that" or even just approaching when the logistics are totally unrealistic is too eager, because a CONFIDENT person wouldn't feel the NEED to say these kinds of things.. these things are symptoms of OVERCOMPENSATION for INSECURITIES.. which leads to..........

20) OVERCOMPENSATING INSECURITIES = fear of not being accepted. Have you ever met a janitor who the first thing he says is "money is over-rated.. I would never get caught up in the corporate world" blah blah.. if they'd have just said "I'm a janitor" and LEFT IT AT THAT we wouldn't have even THOUGHT that anything was wrong with it.. but because they INSTANTLY start overcompensating, it comes off as overcompensating or qualifying. Same with if they BRING IT UP TOO EARLY. Like "hey, I'm Steve.. I'm a janitor and I love it".. They're TRYING to be cocky but it comes off as COMPENSATING. BE COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF. If you're BALD, don't say "would you love a bald man?" as a joke. It's not COCKY.... its BOLD. If you're bad looking, don't say "don't you think I'm sexy". Just be comfortable with yourself, and don't bring up the issue at all.

21) OVERCOMPENSATING FAILURE OR SHORTCOMINGS = fear of being judged.. if you do poorly on a presentation, or on a sarge in front of a wingman, or on a test, DO NOT SAY DUMB SHIT LIKE "I'm really tired". EVEN IF you're ACTUALLY really tired, the mere act of saying "I'm tired" comes off as QUALIFYING yourself to the person. Just don't bring it up. If you have shitty clothes on, don't say "I have nicer clothes at home." Just don't bring it up. If you meet a girl when you're dressed bad, don't say "I have the coolest clothes at home" Just don't bring it up.

22) GOING BACKWARDS IN THE PICKUP ON HER SCHEDULE = too eager to lay her.. if you've already GONE THROUGH the whole "let's ballbust(sayin funny shit about each other) and shit test eachother" attraction phase of the pickup, and you're now in RAPPORT -> if she tries to ballbust you at this point then just WITHDRAW ATTENTION. DO NOT BALLBUST BACK. It seems COUNTER INTUITIVE, but once you've gone through that whole little attract phase, and you're now being nice to eachother in rapport, DO NOT let her rewind the sarge(interaction,pickup,"bitun kaairee jehsun",etc" by answering her ballbusting with ballbusts of your own. Just withdraw attention, to show that you're not interested in going BACKWARDS in a sarge.(holy shit....i cant explain all this..try using a dictonary people..)

23) WAITING FOR HER IF SHE LEAVES FOR ANY REASON (LIKE SAYS "I'M GOING TO THE WASHROOM, WAIT HERE) = too eager and into the convo.. if she goes to the washroom, make sure you're into another set by the time she gets back.

24) OVERLY REMEMBERING DETAILS ABOUT PAST CONVOS = convo means too much to you, because the person has unusual value to you (ie: a hot chick). Of course, I'm not advocating to be a total dick, but the general rule of thumb is that if you wouldn't have remembered a not so attractive chick or a GUY saying it, then don't remember the hot chick saying it. If some random dude said it and you would have remembered, then FINE. If you were in an unusually intimate convo that's also fine. But otherwise FAKE forgetting, even if she's a model and you remember every word. Even forget her name. If you see a random chick from your class or work, but you never talked to her, OPEN LIKE YOU DON'T KNOW HER. Don't give into the temptation to say "we work together". Just open like a random chick, and maybe if you get snubbed then pull out that card to save face, but only as a LAST RESORT.

25) OFFERING TOO MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF TOO *EARLY* = Being mysterious helps... hehe thats all for this one...

ahh whew..this is too much ..even for me.... i know some terms which i used are un familier... if u have trouble understanding do comment about it...
......DarkCasanova......

The GirlFriend Test!!!!!!

2009-04-11T22:34:00.000-07:00

"To be my girlfriend (or lover) is a prestigious and exclusive thing. There's a test."

Curiosity being what it is, she will want to take the test. There are three multiple-choice questions. Take out a pen and write the correct answers on paper and place in her palm.

1. Which do you enjoy more? A shower or a warm bath?
2. What is the sexiest food? Whipped crème, chocolate syrup or strawberries?
3. What feels better? Kisses on your neck or nibbling on your ear?

The correct answers are bath, strawberries and kisses on the neck.

If she gets the last question wrong: "I can't be with you if you really believe this (nibble ear) feels better than this (kiss neck)."

If she gets it right: "I'm glad you like this (nibble or kiss). It is so much better than this (kiss or nibble)."

Whether she gets them right may or may not matter to you. I usually don't care but I have been known to walk away from a hot girl when she got a question wrong. She will also respect you for putting the interaction at risk. You are further demonstrating you are not just accepting any girl.

Willingness to walk away..makes u the prize and damn attractive to women.

PS:u guys can also use and make this test to your own likings.. :)

Have fun!!
.......DarkCasanova.....

Art of Listening....

2009-04-06T04:07:00.000-07:00

How would you like to be better with conversations and have friends and girls enjoy talking with you more?

How many times does someone tell you their name and a second later you forget it?

How many times does someone tell you something then shortly after they have to tell you the same thing?

Well you've heard it time and time again: Listen!

You may think you are listening to them and holding on a good conversation but odds are you really aren't processing what the person is saying unless you ACTIVELY LISTEN AND PROCESS what they are saying.

It is so rare that people do this that when you actually do it, it makes a difference and people can tell.

99.9% of the time we are thinking about what WE are going to say, rather than what the other person is saying.

One of the biggest things I've learned that has led to my success socially is that people love talking about things they are passionate about or have a view on. This could be a favorite sports team, a hobby, a current event, or any number of things.

After enough practice actively listening you will be able to easily identify topics that you should cherry-pick and will be able to easily thread conversations.

Even the shyest person opens up when they are talking about something they enjoy. From then on, YOU'RE IN!

Whether you actively listen when talking to friends, girls, or new people you meet, people will enjoy talking to you and having someone actually listen and be interested in what they are saying.

Magic Love Spells?

2009-03-25T03:10:00.000-07:00

It's a lil long ,funny and a true story..

It all began that night...

3 guys..late night coffee with the usual talk about stuff..me,Hornyguy(goes nuts over gals) and Niceguy(typical afc dude)..

Hornyguy:hey gimme the number of a chick dude!!
Me:Y dont u juz ask for it directly?
Niceguy:lol he cant..to chicken for that..
Me:listen..what if i told u of something which will definitely work..

ok at this point of the convo..i decided to mess with hornyguy..teach him a nice lil lesson..

Hornyguy:u sure it will work..
Me:Dude..i showed u what i can do last night(did a couple of spooky magictricks and he went harewire lol)
Hornyguy:Oooo...but it must work...
Me:ofcause it will..ok listen up..first of all get some white sand..i need it for the spell..
Niceguy:*silently laughing his sorry ass off..*hey umm guys i gotta go pick my gal up..c ya latters..
Me:ok..hey Hornyguy better get goin.. i need the whitesand before sunrise..u got about 4 hours left..
Hornyguy:ok..

20 minutes latter hornyguy returns with da sand..

there i preformed the fake ritual of reciting sumthing which really actually sounded like"bitun,bitun ,hes kiyaafa bitun,bitun nei bitun,bitun huri bitun,bitun naahedhiulhey bitun,sambalm,mirinda,sprite,coke,fanta,redbullpower gold,masdalhu..."(cant remeber the rest)

..lol good thign i was wispering to the sand..and after the "kiyevun" i spit on the sand and told him to go and pour the sand on the doorstep of the girl who he wanted to "setkuranings"..

And he went..poured the sand on the doorstep.. and waited,waited and waited..and there stepped out the girl who he apparently fell in love with..she looked right at Hornyguy and gave him a loving smile..which made his heart skip about a couple of beats..

lil that he know that she was looking at her boyfriend(ohh the twist in the tale)..alas he came running and told me the whole story(his version that is..)

hornyguy:ey varah salhi..setvehje..hama ma fenuneema hot smile ehves dhin huvaa varah obi..ey dhen set vee dho ..."
Me:nah 2 more tasks yet to go...
Hornyguy:TELL ME!!!!!!!!!!(practically screaming)
Me:ok u take this bilai gandhu on which i have writen the rest of the spell..also sum nuts..now all u have to do is chew it up till it all becames red..no..i dont think u can do this...
Hornyguy:no..tell me plz...
Me:oh..u chew it up until its red and u have to walk right up toher and spit it on her face..think u can do that(at this point i was sure he wounlt do that until..)
Hornyguy:no i can!!gimme that*snachs the "bilai gandhu" and walks away..leaving me laughing...

Ok at this point i know it's mean goin up to a wall and spitting on her face with a colourful "rai kulhugandhu"..but hey he gotta be taught a lesson..hmm so where were i ohh yea the fun part...

lets hear the next part right from Hornyguy..a couple rounds for him chicks and dudes!!
"As i walked towards the house,my heart was beating like a doublebass drum on a cradle of filth concert.there she was talking with 2 of her cute friends..but she was like a rose among grass such was here beauty outbeauting her friends(ok here i was a bit confused about the "outbeauting" part and had to look in a dictionary).As i walked up to her i started to chew the bilai gandhu faster and faster to make the colour became bright red..as iwalked the last steps towards her..she turned as if she knew and lokked into my eyes and smiled...in my head random thoughts were goin on like"holy cramaba shitthundering baboons holy fuck Yea Baby i Like it!!!muhahahha"
With a deep breath i "karukahaalanings" and collected all the magic bilai mixture and spit with all my might..and i swear to God almighty..she and red were a perfect combination!! we both would have a red wedding with a red theame..with red roses..and suddenly a bight light and BAMM!!..
i blinked my eyes a bit and realised i was lying on the ground..she was therelokking down at me..angry..no...Y?? how..imediatly i remeber the line from "friends" :who the,what the,how the, who the,what the. quote Ross..
I got up and asked her.."dint anything happen..dint u feel anythinmg special.." She looked at me and smiled..this time is was a evil smile..And then She said "here feel this" and kicked me in the nuts..."

There u go.. I wouldn't have believed it..if i havent seen it yes.. me and Niceguy was standing in the distance laughing out asses off..i mean like u all should have seen the look on that guy's face when the girl punched him after he spit on her..lol..hope he learned his lesson..Dude if u ever read this u know ehnu..no way to a girl's heart is by taking "shortcuts"

Hope u all enjoyed the story

Oh yea morale is:"Never make a girl who is wearing a cast angry or u might get knocked out!!"

........DarkCasanova.......

Trip to Kuda Bandos for Bloggers and Friends

2009-03-23T03:40:00.000-07:00

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Woulnt it be fun to meet up in reality for a change...know some people wanna stay hidden under the name..but it sure would be fun if we all(those who could atleast)meet up...

So i call out/invite to all bloggers out there..to come have sum fun..(girls u can always bring sunblock..lol) juz an idea people..

what i propose is this friday(27th march) to kuda bandos..those intrested and not..juz let me know with ur comments or juz contact me at 7529456..chandha is around 80 per head..and yes u can bring friends..:)

PS:20 PEOPLE ALREADY CONFIRMED!!!!...n yea no calling me at midnight

........DarkCasanova........

Antidote for the "Too Old/Young for her?" syndrome

2009-03-16T23:18:00.000-07:00

Whether a woman thinks I'm too young or too old for her doesn't matter to me one bit because...

Years ago a friend of mine taught me a few short words that not only circumvent the objection but also... generate massive attraction inside women.

He was in his mid thirties yet had a penchant(liking) for really young girls: We're talkin' late teens to early twenties.

But as soon as he started flirting with a girl she'd chirp, "Dude, how old are you? You must be my dad's age."

So he racked his brain and came up with something that's not only pure genius but also... fall-on-the-floor hilarious.

If a twenty-one year old girl objected to his age, he'd say...

"Did you know girls age faster than guys? Take models, for example. They peak at like seventeen. By the time they're nineteen they've passed their prime. They're middle aged. You're twenty-one, making you sixty-three in girl years"

When a woman told me that I was too young for her, I'd say this exact line but add...

"You're practically a senior citizen... Don't take this the wrong way but I'm an active guy and don't think you could handle me with your cane and all... I should introduce you to my grandmother, I think she's more your speed."

Do you know why this generates attraction in 90.2% of women?

Stay tuned for my next post to find out
........DarkCasanova.........

2009-03-11T23:05:00.000-07:00

hey people got sumthin for ya...Guess what the cookie jar is.. :P

I like girls
They like me
They look so good
In their Seven jeans
Told you to be the one
And my only
I wanna be faithful
But I can't keep my hands out the cookie jar.

My hands, my hands, my uh my hands
Can't keep my hands, my hands, my, uh, my
Can't keep my hands, my hands, my, uh, my
Can't keep my hands, my hands my hands out the cookie jar.

You see I got this problem
I need help tryna solve it
Cos meeting after meeting and I'm still a cookie holic
You can hide them, Imma find them, on the counter, in the closet
And I'll say I ain't do it with my face covered in chocolate
My girl be setting booby traps
To catch me eating Scooby snacks
I left crumbs in the bed once
But I told her I was through with that
She still don't be believing me
And I guess that I'm cool with that
But I got a sweet tooth, that'll never come loose
And the truth of the matter is.

I like girls,
They like me
They look so good
In their Seven jeans
Told you to be the one
And my only
I want to be faithful
But I can't keep my hands out the cookie jar

My hands, my hands, my ha uh my hands
Can't keep my hands, my hands, my, uh, my
Can't keep my hands, my hands, my, uh, my
Can't keep my hands, my hands my hands out the cookie jar.

I got a thing for Milano, Biscotti Italianos
And I never turn down some Oreos if you got those
Butter Pecan Puerto Rican,
Or them Oatmeal Raisin Asians.
Hazelnut Brazilians,
Macadamia Caucasians,
Double stuffed or thin mint
It don't matter you gettin' it
Cos I got a sweet tooth that'll never come loose
And the fact of the matter is.

I like girls,
They like me
They look so good
In their Seven jeans
Told you to be the one
And my only
I want to be faithful
But I can't keep my hands out the cookie jar
(Travis)
My hands, my hands, my ha uh my hands
Can't keep my hands, my hands, my, uh, my
Can't keep my hands, my hands, my, uh, my
Can't keep my hands, my hands my hands out the cookie jar.

I'm a monster for these cookies
I'm a beast for they're treats
An animal for they're crackers
Head to feet they so damn sweet
Can't keep my hands, my hands, my ha uh my
Can't keep my hands, my hands, my hands out the cookie jar.

And then you have it haha
I tried my best
I went to cookie anonymous
I guess I'm a failure
I can't seem to keep my damn hands out the cookie jar but,
It is what it is

Thanks to gym class heroes for the song, Google for getting me the lyrics & Naxal for showing it to me ^.^
...........DarkCasanova...........

Coffe with DarkCasanova..

2009-03-04T07:30:00.000-08:00

Hey Guys n Gals..me back but only for a day people.. am heading toward addu tommorow nite which is thusday nite,march 5th... So what i am proposing is a Coffee Hangout tommorow..i know it's a short nortice n all but those intrested juz let me know okies.. really miss blogging..i know it's not even one since i went but since am gonna be again away for a while i say we should hangout... not juz cause am goin but i think it woulda be fun for all of us to meet up(shadowrunner u can like wear a disguise to protect ur identity...)... anywax this my last post for about a week..

PS:Contact me at 7529456 if no picking de fone then juz msg me people!!! ^^(no calling me from 2 am to 8 am cause i might be a bit "busy" or juz sleeping like baby)

Your peeps aclaimed social dynamic/dating guru
...........DarkCasanova...............

Away for a while...

2009-02-25T21:15:00.000-08:00

hey everyone..wanted to say that i wont be here for a while will miss u guys and ofcause my lovly female fans..(u gals know i love u all v much :P)

ps:shadowrunner coffee ah daan vaane after i come back!! anyone else intrested juz let me know!! bye tc all ..bas ahaathi ingae huri haa kudhin..

....DarkCasanova....

How I deal with Rejection!!!

2009-02-21T00:09:00.000-08:00

ps:above pic have nothin to do with the article :P
I never used to be able to deal well with rejection. Now that I think about it, the possibility of rejection used to control my actions. I’d be lying if I said that I still don’t have a fear of rejection to some degree, but I think it’s now within a manageable level.

Here’s what I do:

If I ever get rejected, which rarely is as bad as you picture it, reframe it.

You’ll notice naturals doing this. If a girl doesn’t respond well to you, ignore it and move on. I noticed my friend, who is extremely good with women, doing this the other night. He did his little dance move that he always does at this house party (hitaanakurun)and the girl didn’t respond. Instead of it effecting his state of mind, he moved on and ended up dancing with his now girlfriend.

It’s all about how you frame the situation. He could have easily said, “That girl didn’t like my dancing, and therefore me.” But he instead just wrote it off, didn’t dwell on it, and moved to the next girl for success.

Heard this before?

“I’ve got a boyfriend.”

This could be a form of rejection. Instead, why not reframe it?

“Are you happy with it?”
“Looking to upgrade?”
“Would he care if we started hanging out?”
“I’ll tell you what, how about we go out once, and if you have more fun with me, you can break the bad news to him.”

And a personal favorite:“I got a pet cat(or watever u can add here),u dont see ME BRAGGING about it!!!”

see how fun it can be right?? :p

Licence to Seduce!!!

2009-02-17T00:30:00.000-08:00

I bet you don't even think about all the skills you are using when you drive your byke/car. "It's simple" you say. You hop on ur byke or car, and ride/drive to your destination.

Big deal, right?

But think back for a second:

Your first driving lesson.
The first time on the road/highway.
First time parallel parking.
Your driving test.

Every time you drive on the road, you are using multiple skills, simultaneously, to not only reach your destination, but also to avoid horrendous accidents. Your eyes check the mirror, the speedometer, the gauges, you make sure to stay in the correct lane, you are watching the other traffic, both in your direction and the opposing.

Well, let me tell you something- when an "average" looking guy goes up to an attractive woman who is a complete stranger, and he walks away with her phone number, or with her herself, you can be sure he's got a license...to drive, if you will.

He can ride right into the territory of a beautiful woman, without causing an accident, a crash, or a breakdown, and then travel into her mind, conveying who he is, so that she will want to join him as he drives away.

It looks like nothing, because his skills have been so integrated to the point of it being instinct- he doesn't even think about what he's doing, it just happens. The first thing that you must realize is that YOU are driving here, NOT HER. So she's not going to do your job.

If you are wearing stinking clothes, or out of fashion clothes, if you need a lesson in basic hygiene, if you don't ensure you have fresh breath, trust me, SHE IS NOT GOING TO TAKE CARE OF THIS FOR YOU.

This is like putting SLUDGE into your gas tank and expecting your byke/car to move. Nobody cares if your byke/car doesn't work. They're not going to fix it for you unless you bring your byke/car in and pay for it.

It's YOUR cyke/car, your responsibility.

YOU are on/in the driver's seat.

And when you approach a woman, no matter what happens, no matter what her reaction, it is up to YOU to take her mentally where you want to go. Let me tell you something, if you go up to a woman in a public place where she is NOT expecting it, you can't expect her to just say "HERE I AM, TAKE ME!".

If it was THAT pathetically easy, EVERY GUY would do it!

Let's face it- it's not typical social convention to do this. To just "go up to a woman". AND THAT IS A GOOD, GOOD THING. Because by NOT following social convention, it shows you have GUTS.

Women LIKE that.

It ALSO is more romantic for a woman to have a man SPONTANEOUSLY approach her than for her to have a formal introduction. It's far more impulsive and thrilling when a man sees a woman and just goes right up to her. So even though a woman may give you at first a slightly defensive reaction, like her eyes widening a bit, RELAX.

DON'T ABANDON SHIP.
STAY ON COURSE.

This is to be expected many times.

STAY COOL.

She is looking to YOU, the MAN, to show her that you are NOT PSYCHO, and ALSO that you are A SEXY, COOL, CONFIDENT MAN who does NOT give up at her natural defensive reaction. One of the things you can do to lessen her fear, is to approach her with a funny TEASE. It's hard to be scared and laughing at the same time. One of my favorite lines to ask a woman who is walking somewhere, "Hey where do you think you're going?" and no matter what she responds, tease her on it.

Remember, it's not the line, you can come up with thousands of your own lines, it's the attitude you convey. TEASING also prevents you from looking like a desperate man trying to kiss up to her. Your BODY LANGUAGE conveys much of your message as well- if you are SMILING the ENTIRE time you are talking to her, she will feel that she already has you hook line and sinker, and so there is nothing left for her to work for - you've ROBBED her of THE JOY of trying to IMPRESS YOU.

After all, she doesn't HAVE to try anymore, since you've indicated with your constant smiling that she ALREADY HAS you. Instead of giving a woman ALL THE POWER in the interaction, I recommend you HOLD ON to some of it yourself, and let a woman EARN the rest.

For example, who says you have to FACE A WOMAN COMPLETELY when you talk to her? Even though usually, you SHOULD look at her, and you should NOT have darting eyes, the principle of holding on to your power can even bend this rule if you understand how it works. But certainly, you DON'T HAVE TO ACTUALLY FACE HER WITH THE REST OF YOUR BODY.

Although here it was a perfectly natural thing to do, most guys would behave as if "Well, it's a pretty girl, I want to show her my respect and interest so of course I'm going to look at her- I don't want to lose her by not looking at her'".

Women WANT men, but they DON'T WANT what they ALREADY HAVE. When you give all your power away to women, they KNOW that they
already have you. This is why it is so crucial to be more cavalier with women, especially when you first meet them. Any nervous gestures, erratic or rapid body movements all show her that you think she is the greatest thing on earth and that you value yourself as being below her.

Usually, after a bit of a tease, she will be more relaxed, if not, continue to be calm and cool, and DO NOT TURN INTO AN APOLOGETIC SCARED CHILD.

Instead, tease her again with some humor. You don't HAVE to tease her, you could just make small talk- if you use the RIGHT VOICE TONE, the RIGHT BODY LANGUAGE, the RIGHT FACIAL EXPRESSIONS. I could say the word "Hi" in at least 50 different ways, to convey anything from total insecurity, to total confidence, to a combination of a mischievous sly smile with a tone of naughtiness.

Do you see how this can work?

Once you have a woman warmed up, to the fact that you are NOT a psycho, and that YOU ARE a masculine, cool guy, I recommend that you have a bit of small talk to help make a connection between the two of you- i.e. what she's getting in the mall, or where she's coming from, or where did she get that interesting hat, or button, etc, etc, etc. If the conversation is really going great, you can arrange an INSTANT DATE right then and there- tell her you both should discuss some more over a coffee.

After your little instant date, at the bare minimum give her a hug and if she holds on, give her a kiss. AGAIN, your voice tone, your body language, all must convey that you are totally relaxed and calm and IN CONTROL....WOMEN NEED TO BE LED BY A MAN, they are REPULSED by the idea of THEM leading YOU.

You don’t have to go for the "Instant Date", you could instead just tell her to give you her email, (or number- I believe email is practical and easier for everyone to reach each other these days at their convenience- plus she doesn't have to worry if you are psycho).

And no matter what, don't worry about the consequences of your approach- if she digs you, great, if she doesn't, big deal, there are thousands of other women waiting and wanting for a cool guy like you to approach them. And as your skills get better, you'll notice that the real question becomes who do YOU select to go out with.Wont that be good for a change?? :P

RAPE!!! O.o(Warning:do not read this if u were a victim of rape or if u are a extreame beardie)

2009-02-07T23:40:00.000-08:00

OK I GAVE U A GOOD ENOUGH WARNING.....READ AT UR OWN RISK!!

Okay I was dating this girl. Long story short she invited me over to her place to show me the new "tv" that she had just purchased (it was a 50 inch plasma). She put on her all time favorite, "Heart Breakers." Anyways the movie was soooooo boring (no offense to the ppl who like it) I was just soo bored out of my mind.

I decided to mess around with her.(now now dont judge me ok...) I started kissing her neck/ears/pretty much everywhere. It got to the point where she was just so excited that she started writhing and breathing heavily. Then I had the brilliant idea of just getting up and leaving. That's right, I got up and left (or tried to anyways).

She looked at me really confused and was like

Her: wtf?! wtf do you mean you have to go?
Me: I just remembered, I have to go a friend's place..haha sorry, maybe another time..
Her: ..... *frown on her face*

As I was walking about, she grabbed me by the arms and literally tackled me down.

Her: Fuck that, your stupid friend can wait, you're not going anywhere!

Holly crap, it could have totally been considered rape if it was the other way around. hahaha she was good though, so I let it go..

and couple of hours latter..as i walked out of that house with my shirt buttoned up in the wrong holes (lol only knew after I got home..no wonder people were starting at me in a funny way)..

Has anyone had something similar happen to them? :P

Thank u Star

2009-02-04T23:58:00.000-08:00

thanx start for the sweet picky thing card like poto u sent me ..and as i told before am gonna put it here on my blog.. so here it above..

then shukuru ahda kuran beynumee DarkCasanova ah lavakiyan daas visaakaa mis ashaa,wjeeh sir ashaa,dhon madam ashaa, dhen chickun ge kanthah thah das koh dhin hurihaa chickun nashaa..

then mi blog read kuraa hurihaa kudhin like example Shootingstar,mini,cute kat princess,angelica,shadowrunner,n amnay more..

kuriah oi thaneh gaa ves dating world ge stuff nerey ne kamuge unmeedhu dheefa vahsalaam...

Reasons Why Kissing is Good for You

2009-02-02T00:47:00.001-08:00

Is kissing good?
It helps prevent tooth decay (better than brushing your teeth?) Dr. Peter Gorden, Dental Advisor at the British Dental Association, explains. “After eating, your mouth is full of sugar solution and acidic saliva, which cause plaque build up. Kissing is nature’s own cleaning process”, he adds. “It stimulates saliva flow and brings plaque levels down to normal.” I asked my dentist and after he blushed, he agreed.

It relieves tension. A passionate kiss is a great relaxation technique, says stress consultant, Michelle Kay Mcnabb. ” When your mouth is in a kissing position, you are almost smiling and as our emotions and body language are so closely linked, it’s almost impossible to smile and feel tense at the same time,” she explains. “Also, your breathing becomes deeper and your eyes close when you kiss; that’s what you do when you relax. It’s a perfect way to shut out the world.”

It helps you lose weight.– just how long can you do that? You need use 3000 calories to lose one pound, i.e., 30,000 minutes, 500 hours… “A long kiss makes the metabolism burn up sugar faster than usual,” says Claire Potter. “The calories burned depend on the intensity, but you can rely on 10 calories for every 10 minutes.”

It slows the aging process. (That’s important! ) “Kissing helps to tone your cheek and jaw muscles, so they’re less likely to sag,” says Cosmo’s Fitness Consultant, Claire Potter.

It increases fitness levels. (Okay, now there is really no reason why you can’t start some exercise now). “Your heart is pumping, your pulse is racing…”If kissing is exciting, you release adrenaline into the bloodstream and your heart pumps more blood around your body,” says Dr. Susan Hotchkies. “It’s a great cardiovascular workout.”

It’s a good indication of what’s to come. (Make sure he or she is not married, please ). Kissing a new guy gives you the perfect opportunity to check out his pheromones - the chemical messengers that signal sexual attraction. ” The first kiss is always a good way to work out if there’s any chemistry between you, “says Paul Brown, a sexual and marital therapist. ” In humans, it’s thought that smells plays a vital part in subconscious attraction, and if your pheromones aren’t ‘in tune’, you’re unlikely to hit off!

It boosts self-esteem. (Just make sure you have a good dental insurance and be careful with braces on your teeth!) There’s nothing better than a passionate kiss for a major dose of feel good factor. “In theory, when you’re kissing, you’re happy. And when you’re happy, you feel good about yourself,” says psychotherapist Paul Zeal.

Now don’t just go around kissing anybody!

Sick...../home work for de girls :)

2009-01-29T03:07:00.000-08:00

yes people... am sick..your loyal dating advice giving guy is sick...this is tortally not like me..i am like dont ever get sick..maybe one a year or sumthin...eyes are red with water coming outa them non stop..looks like i am crying..which is wierd cause i cant remebr the last time i cried...very confusing...to top it all that i got tons of stuff to do and meetings to attend wiht me being a vice prez of an ngo and ith the work on the magazine which me gonna relase with a couple of friends... life's busy...but this stupid cold like sickness have no place in my schedule...anyways..GOT SUM HOMEWORK for u gals....(damn my writing also.."ACHOOOOOOS" sux...)

Homework:cheer DarkCasanova outta his sicknes..

LOL well it's not that hard really...to cheer me up anything would doo..like for example send a e card or sumthin..i know u gals are very creative in stuff liek that...
And i'll be posting the best "cheer me up" thingy here on my blog..i'll give a couple of tips..

1*If u wanna send sumthin juz send it to my personal mail addy: karallica@hotmail.com

2*i love bright colours..

3*sweet n simple means a lot...

4*dont send a love note plz..

5*love yummy food(this one's not nessasary but who knows..:P )

ps:wish i had a shweet gf to take care of me "snif snif...AHCHOOOS"...excuse me...

with lotsa love n hugs
........DarkCasanova.......

Nice Guys or Bad Boys..u decide...part 1

2009-01-26T22:39:00.000-08:00

First, I'm going to ask you to consider something, then I'm going to give you some homework.(yes sum freakin homework if u ever wanna get good with women).before i go on.. I'm here thinking..y do i even bother with this?I mean most readers of this blog are female and here I am giving advice to guys on them LOL..(girls do comment on this point ok)...:D

OK!!!

This time is all about ACTION!

Here's the thing I want you to consider first:

I was reading an article on AOL titled "What's Wrong With Nice Guys?"... here's a little quote from the article:

"...Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice Ones? This notion sounds an awful lot like the irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men continue to make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense. Since women truly are conditioned to be "good girls," sometimes we feel uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure burning "I must have him!" feeling. That's why we sometimes seek out a bad boy to serve as the object of these desires, says Cleveland psychotherapist Belleruth Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys series of guided imagery tapes. "In order for the deliciousness of pure lust to be 'okay,' it has to be for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to do with the rest of your life. With him, you can crank up your animal impulses, worry-free," she says...."

Interesting, isn't it?

Now, I personally disagree with the idea that women "seek out" Bad Boys because they need somewhere to "project their guilty lust"... and I disagree with the idea that there's something "wrong" with the fact that women are attracted to Bad Boys...

But the point is that the "mainstream" psychology and behavior world is starting to accept the idea that women are ATTRACTED to "Bad Boys".

It will probably be another ten years before anyone with a degree puts two and two together and says, "Hey, maybe women feel ATTRACTION towards Bad Boys for natural, evolutionary reasons, and that's why Bad Boys are considered "sexy"...

Hell, maybe I should say it... Oh wait, I already did..

Whatever.

Point is, there's something to the idea that woman don't feel that powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for "nice" guys who chase after them and kiss up to them

Women do, on the other hand, feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for BAD BOYS.

Of course, I don't believe that you MUST be a jerk, or abuse women in order to make them feel attracted to you. There's a much better way...

OK...now for THE HOMEWORK...

I want you to do the following with the next 5 women that you talk to over the next few days... (these should be women that you would be interested in dating!!!):

1) Smile all the time.

2) Be very nice, cordial, and friendly. Use no sarcasm, and don't tease.

3) Act as if you really "like" the woman you're talking to... and as if you're "interested" in her.

4) Give her lots of compliments.

5) Optional: Politely say, "You probably have a boyfriend, right? Can I take you out sometime?"

Pay careful attention, and notice how the women respond to you.

Now, I want you to try something different with the NEXT 5 women you talk to...

1) Don't smile very often.

2) Pretend that you've known her for 20 years, and that you're TOO comfortable around her. Tease her for something that no one teases her about... like the way she dresses, etc.(like Kindergarden hehe)

3) Pretend that she's interested in YOU, and has been pursuing YOU, and that you're resisting her. Make jokes about it and say things like, "I just don't think things are going to work out between us".

4) Give her NO compliments of any kind. If she gives you any say, "That's a cheesy pick up line. Can't you think of something more original?"

5) Optional: Say, "Hey, do you have email? Good. Write it down here..."

...and pay attention to the difference.

If you really "play it up", you'll notice a HUGE difference between the first five women you talk to and the next five.

During the first set of five, when you're being a "Nice Wuss", you'll see the looks on the women's faces that say, "Oh no. Another guy who "likes" me. How can I get rid of him politely?..."

During the SECOND set of five, you'll see the women opening their mouths with the "half smile, half oh-no-you-didn't-just-say-that" look. You'll feel a TENSION in the air. You'll notice that some of the women will actually look at you as if they can't believe what they're hearing.

If you're particularly sharp and funny, you might just have one or two of them say, "I like you... we have to hang out sometime" within the first few minutes of the conversation. By the way, you will NEVER hear that when you're playing the "Nice Wuss".

(SIDE NOTE: I once went out with some friends and while taking pictures of them, I overheard this girl talking to her friend. I took what she and her friend were talking about and I teased her about it... And within no more than 60 seconds the girl was saying, "Ohmygod, I like you! We need to hang out sometime..." - Really.)

Do your homework! And have FUN while you're at it...:P

Get her sences activated with scents 1

2009-01-18T00:07:00.000-08:00

first of all there will be a second part to this post...will be realeased soon(am trying hard not to give too much..cause it's like giving dynamyte to children u know lol)ok..well here it is...

One area that guys don't take advantage of enough is the power of smell with a woman. Scents and smells are very important to them, and it's been scientifically proven that women are much more sensitive than men to odors.

One of the most important reasons scents are good for engaging a woman's attraction for you is that your sense of smell is connected to the most basic part of your brain, the part that was formed long before your ability to reason and think. This was because our early ancestors had to be able to react quickly to scents on the wind that could indicate a threat, such as a predator.

Smells have a way of bringing back memories. Have you ever had the experience of smelling something and having a complete flashback to something you remember from your childhood? It happens all the time, and it's even more potent when you've associated a smell with something, like the smell of burning leaves in autumn, or the smell of homemade pizza. These smells evoke a state in us that pulls us back to the experiences we had with that smell.

I've walked into old houses before, ones that were humid and smelled of old bread and tea, and I had these flashes of walking into a ancient house(u know house made from those coral rocks n stuff) and the same odors there. It's a little freaky how real it feels at times.

The way you use this with a woman is to find out what scents she indulges in when she wants to relax, or get passionate. I find that getting her into a candle store, or a bath-and-bodyworks type store(island spirit?) is the best way. You get her to smell different things, and notice what she prefers. Vanilla is usually a good scent that you can almost bet she'll like.

Scents for women can usually be broken up into two categories: musks and floral. Musky scents are like heavy perfumes, like Obsession. Floral scents are the ones that are, obviously, more like flowers. If she wears any kind of perfume, you can tell which she prefers by smelling what she's wearing.

Take care with your choice of cologne. One tactic is to find out what cologne her dad used to wear and use that, but I find this strategy highly variable in terms of the response you'll get. Better to choose the cologne that she remarks on and likes. Make it a point to put on too little rather than too much. You want her trying to get closer to you, not running and gagging from the smell. Have her give you a critique. "Hey, I just got this new cologne, but I'm not sure if I like it. Tell me what you think." And she'll have to lean in close to you to get a whiff. If she likes it, she'll be back for more.Axe is one good one...atleast their ads are :P
(And don't go cheap on your cologne. It's worth it.)

Hot spots
The best spots to apply cologne are the areas of your body that produce the most body heat. Body heat "activates" the cologne, increasing the strength of the smell and making it last as long as possible... while colder areas of your body tend to dull the smell and make it disappear more rapidly. To achieve maximum results when wearing cologne, apply it to the following body parts : Wrists, neck, arm pits, and behind the ears. When using a cologne spray, do NOT spray behind your ears, spray it onto your hands and wipe it on... the last thing you want is to smell like you took a bath in your cologne. Another added bonus of putting cologne behind your ears is the fact that when you are somewhere with loud music/noice girls tend to talk into your ear so you can hear them... and when they do they will get a nice gentle whiff of your scent.

When you can get her sense of smell engaged, you are taking a shortcut to a part of her mind that responds in an almost primal way. She can't reason or rationalize with it. You can get her in a state of your own choosing by choosing the right scent.

ps: Vanilla lotion works like a charm.. :)

Something different....

2009-01-13T23:35:00.000-08:00

oK!! normally i dont do this ..

i mean putting lyrics on my blog..

anyways this one is dedicated to that special girl i am bound to meet one day..

dont know she she is where she is or anything...

an also to all the female readers of this blog.. thanx for the wonderful comments :) n u know we all should meet up sumtime for a coffee or sumthin dho...

the one n only
DarkCasanova :P

I never felt nothing in the world like this before
Now I'm missing you
and I'm wishing you would come back through my door
Why did you have to go
You could have let me know
So now I'm all alone

Girl you could have stayed but you wouldn't give me a chance
With you not around it's a little bit more than I can stand
And all my tears they, keep running down my face
Why did you turn away

Interlude:
So why does your pride make you run and hide
Are you that afraid of me
But I know it's a lie what you keep inside
This is not how you want it to be

Chorus:
So baby I will wait for you
Cause I don't know what else I can do
Don't tell me I ran out of time
If it takes the rest of my life

Baby I will wait for you
If you think I fine it just ain't true
I really need you in my life
No matter what I have to do
I'll wait for you

Been a long time since you called me (How could you forget about me)
You gotta be feeling crazy (Crazy)
How can you walk away (When)
Everything stays the same (The Same)
I just can't do it baby

What will it take to make you come back
Girl I told you what it is and it just ain't like that
Why can't you look at me
You're still in love with me
Don't leave me crying

Baby why can't we just, just start all over again
Get it back to the way it was
If you give me a chance
I can love you right
But you're telling me it won't be enough

Chorus:
So baby I will wait for you
Cause I don't know what else I can do
Don't tell me I ran out of time
If it takes the rest of my life

Baby I will wait for you
If you think I fine it just ain't true
I really need you in my life
No matter what I have to do
I'll wait for you

Interlude:
So why does your pride make you run and hide
Are you that afraid of me
But I know it's a lie
What you're keeping inside
That is not how you want it to be

Baby I will wait for you
Baby I will wait for you
If it's the last thing I do

Chorus:
Baby I will wait for you
Cause I don't know what else I can do
Don't tell me I ran out of time
If it takes the rest of my life

Baby I will wait for you
If you think I fine it just ain't true
I really need you in my life
No matter what I have to do
I'll wait for you
I'll be waiting

hope u like it...cutz

n yea more dating n relationship stuffs coming ur way.....

Being a Rockstar ...ROCKS!!!!

2009-01-13T02:34:00.000-08:00

First of all, you are the shit.

You take care of you're appearance, just like any other rockstar.

You're not intimidated by others, they're intimidated by you.

You treat everyone around you as a fan. They're lucky if they get to meet you.

Girls are just part of your rockstar lifestyle. You don't let them get in the way of your achievements.(Unless she is de one :))

You're calm, confident, and aren't afraid to get what you want in life.

now now.. before all of u send those swheet lovly comments..this is all a mindset :)

Works ok for sum guys..it gives like an arrogent a$$h0le kinda feel like personality..

PS:Am not a rockstar but am a magicion :)..

Goodbye to a bad year n hi how u doin to a new year :P

2009-01-07T02:19:00.000-08:00

lats year sucked...well atleast for me yea.. it sucked..big time!!! juuz a few good times i can rember like the saff championship n mdp wining the presidential race...

i dont know....but hey life goes on

New year resolutions for me for 2009

*Do a magic show(yes people am a magiction)

*Became a better person(ofcause am nearly perfect but hey still a bit more for improvement)

*Have a steady relationship more than one month( yes!!! no kidding about this one..any girl reding this tell me pulz..y does girls nowadays juz want sex i mean comon cant we juz hug...im not juz a sausage with feet u know..i got feelins too...)

*cant think of one rite now...minds kinda blank but will add up as i think of stuff

ASD!!:the self defence of women..

2008-12-28T01:19:00.000-08:00

ASD is an acronym for Anti-Slut Defense. The idea behind this is that a woman will resist anything that makes her feel easy.

This is a common misunderstanding of women.

I happen to know many women who don’t mind being sluts. Many who get off on being slutty.

A more helpful way of thinking about this concept is that a woman does not want to seem easy in people’s eyes. If actually being easy fulfills her desires and no one who’s opinion she values is the wiser she can usually live with her slutty self no problem.

ASD should really be called Anti-Desperate Defense. A woman just does not want to seem desperate to people, especially you and especially her friends. ie: throw herself at a man.

So how do you get her to unleash her inner-slut and let her feel free to be sexual with you?

You reveal your sexual interest first in a direct way (once you have created a personal vibe). “I think that the way you describe your poetry is sexy. You better stop that cause you’re turning me on.” ( on more about these type of statements i’ll be postin them soon here)

That sort of statement allows her to be flirty and sexual because she is not pursuing you in some desperate fashion but only reciprocating.

Now the interesting thing is that she may act sexual with you in a secluded corner of a seedy bar but as soon as she gets in front of her friends she can pull back into a guarded, platonic state.

That is because she knows her friends haven’t heard you verbalize your attraction first. If she was to get all up on you, her friends would be presuming she is actind desperate. But the real interesting thing is that if you then verbalize your sexual interest in front of her friends it can sometimes unlock her and allow her to flirt openly in front of them because now she knows they know she is only reciprocating. Funny how that works

And yea fact is..guys most girls who turn u down..well they aint bitches.. they are just protecting themselves… now y I say this is cause eventually thee would come a guy who she would be crazy with and say “kiss me baby kiss me” … Now y cant that guy be u?

AIDS Day .....

2008-11-23T02:05:00.000-08:00

AIDS day is coming up.. me as usual helping da community n bein g a part of it....am an offical in it.. but we still need more volounters... the more people the better... So if u guys are intrested juz let me know n be a part of the stuff which we are doin on AIDS day.. btw me am a volounter at YHC..(Youth Health Cafe)..everyone is welcome to come even now to help put.. we'r having a futsal tonument from 1st to 6th dec...n there'll be like facepainting,free AIDS testing,futsal tonument ofcause n loads of people there to clebrate the evnt n take part in a huge event soo dont miss it guys n gals... n yep.. like i said before anyone who wanna help out be part of this . let me know :)

and ofcause more dating stuff will be coming ur way people :P.. juz alil busy with stuff....

Rules for the Girlfriend

2008-11-07T02:34:00.000-08:00

Here are some things that guys wished every girl knew. I did not write this and I wish i could remember where I found it. If you can think of more rules that your girlfriend should have put it down.

1. If you think you are fat, you probably are. Do not ask us. We refuse to answer.

2. Learn to work the toilet seat. If it’s up, put it down.

3. Do not cut your hair. Ever. Long hair is always more attractive than short hair. One of the big reasons guys fear getting married is that married women always cut their hair, and by then, you are stuck with her.

4. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect present yet again!

5. If you ask a question you don’t want an answer to; expect an answer you do not want to hear.

6. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.

7. Crying is blackmail.

8. Your ex-boyfriend is an idiot.

9. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work. Strong hints do not work. Obvious hints do not work. Just say it!

10. No, we do not know what day it is. We never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.

11. Most guys own three pairs of shoes-what makes you think we’d be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?

12. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.

13. Check your oil.

14. Do not fake it. We would rather be ineffective than deceived.

15. It is neither in your best interest nor ours to take the quiz together.

16. No, it does not matter which quiz.

17. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.

18. If you won’t dress like the Victoria’s Secret girls, don’t expect us to act like soap opera guys.

19. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.

20. Let us ogle. We are going to look anyway; it is genetic.

21. Don’t rub the lamp if you don’t want the genie to come out.

22. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done-not both.

23. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

24. Christopher Columbus did not need directions, and neither do we.

25. Women wearing Wonderbras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.

26. More women should wear Wonderbras and low-cut blouses.

27. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.

28. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like windows default settings. Peach is a fruit, not a color.

29. Pumpkin is also a fruit.

30. If it itches, it will be scratched.

31. If it is OUR house, I do not understand why MY stuff gets thrown in the closet/attic/basement.

32. We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.

33. If we ask what is wrong and you say “nothing,” we will act like nothing’s wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.

34. If we hear from an old girlfriend, we will briefly fantasize about having sex with her. But do not worry; the fantasy includes you AND her, together.

35. when we ask stuff puleez give staight answers.... reallyy it wont hurt us..

36.what the hell is doily?

How to tell(know) she is intrested...

2008-11-04T02:24:00.000-08:00

First of all IM BACK!!! yes..been busy with a lil sumthin called life...tell ya the whole story laties ok..here is a new one for u all...

OK, I have a quick trick question for you.

That's right, I said a quick TRICK question.

How can you tell if a woman is interested in you?

Answer quickly.

So what gives?

Why am I asking you a trick question?

Simple.

Because I'm trying to make you THINK.

I'm sure that u might have seen or read a couple of dating tips stuff that says stuff like:

"If she tilts her head to one side and strokesher neck, that's a sign of interest..."

"If she licks her lips in a longing fashion,that means she's interested in you..."

"If she laughs a lot, makes positive eye contact, and touches you often, then she likes you..."

DUH!

I remember when I first read all this stuff.

I thought to myself "Wow, cool! I must have been missing these hints because I didn't know to look for them. Now I'll know when a woman is interested in me...".

Well, there was ONE SMALL problem...

The problem is that women display these MAJOR INTEREST signals in about 1 of 1,000 interactions with men...

And there was one BIG problem...

That problem was that none of the damn dating tips I read said a single thing about how to MAKE women give you these signals.

In other words, what I realized is that average guys like me who don't get "approached" by women need to learn not only WHAT to look for, but, more importantly, how to actually CREATE ATTRACTION in women so they GAVE me these signals in the FIRST PLACE.

So let me share with you some dating tips on how to MAKE women feel ATTRACTION for you... and then I'll share some ideas on what to LOOK FOR to tell if a woman is interested.

And my ideas will be a WEEEEEE BIT different than the ones you read in your flirting books,magazines or even the know it all buddyy guy who talks the talk but cant walk the walk lol.

OK, so you're out at a bar with a few friends, and it's time to meet some interesting women.

You look around, and none of the hot young babes in there seem to be tilting their heads to one side, looking you in the eye, and licking their lips... so you decide to DO SOMETHING.

What do most guys do in this situation?

Either:

1) Nothing, because they're scared, or...

2) Something typical, like ask a girl to give the number, or if he can take her on a typical date or juz the plain old maldivian style of saying that she is cute or beutiful.

If you're guilty of doing these, raise your hand.

Then take your raised hand, and slap yourself silly. Not too hard. But silly.(dont sue me ok..i know this is the other maldives but jeez gimme a break hhehe)

Here's a thought for you...

If you put 100 guys in a party with one beautiful women sitting alone, and you say to all 100 of the guys "Hey guys, which one of you can walk over to that woman and do something to make that woman feel a SEXUAL ATTRACTION for you?"... I'd say thatif you're LUCKY, one of them will claim that he can do it.

In other words, for most guys, the idea of walking up to a girl they don't know and doing something that will TRIGGER an attraction is completely outside of their universe.

This is one of the reasons why guys do things like asking girls to be thier "friend',stalking them , etc.

Now, something you must understand when it comes to women and ATTRACTION is that women don't feel ATTRACTION for WUSSIES.(thats rite wussies?got a problem with that?ouch...)

ATTRACTION isn't a CHOICE.

It isn't logical (at least, on the surface).

But once you start to "get it", everything changes. Your entire perspective changes once you "get it", and your results change instantly as well.

So here's a dating tip for you to try:

MESS WITH WOMEN.

That's right "mess with" them.

Tease.

Bust on.

Be difficult.

Why?

Because it INSTANTLY communicates that:

1) You could care less what she thinks of you.

2) You're a fun person.

3) You're unpredictable.

4) You're a bit of a "wild card"

5) You GET IT.

Now, you might be shaking your head right now and saying "That's doesn't make any sense. Why would a woman feel attracted to me if I mess with her instead of being nice?".

That's a good question.

But for now, take the hand that you slapped yourself with earlier, and slap yourself again.

Good.

I want you to STOP following your "be nice and kiss ass" instincts when you first meet a woman, and instead practice MESSING WITH HER.

Make fun of something.

Go to hand her something, then pull it away at the last second.

Shake your head in despair and tell her that she's screwing up her chances with you.

Say something Cocky & Funny, then turn around and walk away before she can respond to your face.

Can ya feel me, dude?

Now the good stuff... HOW TO TELL IF SHE'S INTERESTED

Well this is what you were looking for, so here it is...

I'm going to give you a stupid-proof formula for knowing whether or not a woman is interested in you.

Here it is:

1) You engage her.

2) She engages you back.

Yes, that's it. Please stop the applause long enough that I can finish. You can clap later.

I know that this sounds a little "Duh-ish", but stay with me here.

If I walk into a restaurant, and the hostess asks me how many are in my party, and I answer with "Well, there are three of us. I guess there will be FOUR if YOU join us..." and she laughs at my joke, then IT'S ON!

If I'm standing in a party, and the woman next to me bumps into my arm, and I turn and say "Hey, watch it, OK? Keep some space here, I need at least a foot of room..." in a serious tone of voice... and she starts playing along by smiling and moving away from me then back again playfully, then IT'S ON!

If I'm talking to a woman that I met at the magazine rack, and I ask her "What's with that huge purse of yours? You got a cat in there or something?" and she starts laughing and making excuses, then IT'S ON!

In a nutshell, what I'm trying to say is:

1) Stop looking around for signals from women that they're "interested" in you.

2) Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.3) Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then assume that IT'S ON!

As long as you use how she's responding to what YOU do as your gauge, then you'll have a MUCH easier time spotting the "she wants me" clues...

...Because YOU ARE THE ONE CAUSING THEM.

Now...

...if u want more help u know where to find..it's rite here..

Stop beating your head against the wall, and start taking advantage of learning this stuff.

You'll be SO glad you did.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Here, eat this :) (For Guys!)

2008-10-11T11:37:00.000-07:00

Feed her chocolate! You might not know it, but chocolate is a mild aphrodisiac. This means that chocolate triggers emotions in our mind related to love and attraction. For instance, if a woman is thinking about you while she is eating a hershey's bar, she will feel more attracted to you than she normally would. With this in mind, try to feed her chocolate while you are with her. The best way to accomplish this is: Stop to buy a cigarete(smoking kills!! n me dont smoke) or a coffee meta(now this is my style!! :P), come back out with a candy bar and say "I thought you might like this, but if you don't want it I'll eat it".

Chocolate contains substances called Phenylethylamine and Seratonin, both of which (put simply), are mood lifting agents found naturally in the human brain. They are released into the nervous system by the brain when we are happy and when we are experiencing feelings of love, passion or lust. This causes rapid mood change, a rise in blood pressure and increasing heart rate, inducing those feelings of well being, bordering on euphoria usually associated with being in love.

Eating chocolate also releases Phenylethylamine and Seratonin into the system producing those same euphoric effects, plus it can give a substantial energy boost thus increasing stamina (at the critical moment?), so it's probably these effects which gave rise to chocolates reputation as an aphrodisiac.

Recent research suggests that women are more susceptible to the effects of Phenylethylamine and Seratonin than men, although Casanova is said to have consumed chocolate before frolicking with his conquests, but there's no mention of him actually sharing it with them.

So there you have it, calling Chocolate an aphrodisiac is probably stretching it a bit, but eating chocolate does make you feel good and can actually induce or 'mimic' the feelings of being in love...

NOTE TO GALS: I LOVE U ALL(my fith grade teacher excluded..she was a b|@CTH..hehehe

The Life Builders Creed

2008-10-10T21:06:00.000-07:00

Today is the most important day of my life.

Yesterday with its successes and victories,

struggles and failures is gone forever, the past is past.

Done. Finished.

I cannot relive it. I cannot go back and change it.

But I will learn from it and improve my today.

Today. This moment. NOW.

It is God’s gift to me and it is all I have.

Tomorrow with all its joys and sorrows, triumphs and troubles

Isn’t here yet.

Indeed, tomorrow may never come.

Therefore, I will not worry about tomorrow.

Today is what God has entrusted to me.

It is all that I have. I will do my best in it.

I will demonstrate the best of me in it.-

My character, giftedness, and abilities-

To my family and friends.

I will identify those things that are most important

to do today,

And those things I will do until they are done.
And when this day is done

I will look back with satisfaction at that
Which I have accomplished.

Then and only then, will I plan my tomorrow,
Looking to improve upon today.

Then I shall go to sleep in peace…

Tagged by shooting star!!!

2008-10-08T11:19:00.000-07:00

1. what’s your latest addiction? – Trying new stuff,learning new magic tricks,n ridin cykes
2. What are you listening to? – bullet with your name-scars of life
3. How late did you stay up last night and why? – 3am doing magic tricks and on calls wiht various people
4. Who were you with last Friday night? –Gave a big treat to myself :)
5. Do you think you will be in a relationship 3 months from now?- I have no idea...but am looking forward for one
6. When is the next time you’ll see your close friends?-tommorow night
7. What were you doing this morning at 7am? – waking up dude to my mom shouting to go to vote(dumb politics)
8. What radio station do you listen to the most? – not much of a raido guy but i like capital radio
9. What was the reason you last cried? – Dont wanna talk about it....
10. Have you ever talked to someone when they were high? - yep many times.. high as in drugs,sexually,anger,on an aeroplane,etc etc
11. What’s the fifth text in your inbox say? –"what do u think we will be doin there all alone"
12.Where was the last coffee shop u go to? dont have a spesific place...me go everywhere
13. What’s ur outfit right now? – t shirt long sleeves dark with stripes,silver chain on my neck 2 rings, brown shorts...
16. What were you doing at 11pm last night? – driving like a maniac on a cyke
17. Who was the last person you talked to last night before bed? – To myself(no im not mad or sumthin) telling myself to go for it...
18. Will you be driving in a year? – am driving even now ..only prob is me not too tame on the roads...
19. Is there anything that you are craving right now? – yea...lust,coffee metas and a coke..
20. When did your last hug take place? – yesterday.. and arabic hug wiht a close buddy of mine lol
22. Have you ever started a sentence with “No offense, but…”? – yes many times..like sumtimes No offence but i think we should juz be friends(note to guys:Dont try this with an angry gf)
23. Do you drink tea? – Sometimes..it kinda clams me and makes me relax...
24. Have you ever been arrested? – Not yet...
25. Have you rode in someone else’s car today? – nop..cykes yes
26. Have you made a mistake this past week? –yep ..probably even here llike a few spelling mistakes :p
27. Who was the last person you texted? - a guy who was stalking a friend of mine..
28. Are you happy with your life right now? – Me gratefull for it.. and looking to make it better ..
29. In the past 72 hours have you been under the influence of sleep? yea.... when i was sleeping...
30. What’s the connection between you and the last person you texted? – the friend who he was stalking

an thats all for tonite folks....

Finding the perfect gal...

2008-10-03T12:48:00.000-07:00

people say..try try and try again.... i did that...juz to find that one special gal... last girl i was with.... it was a very serious relationship... too bad it dint work out... and after all the stuff i went thoguh.. i fin it hard now to trust girls...but still that no giving up on love thoguht is still there in my head.. juz need that right gal to come along and melt this stone and broken heart of mine...

many ask me whats the kind i like... my answer would be... funnyy,great personality,good looks is common soo wat else u got? ,and ofcause she who loves me...

as for love and relationships what i belive is that things dont turn out ok cause it enables us to get that exeperiance and learn how to apreciate the other person once u after u meet that one special person....

24 hours left...

2008-09-30T11:55:00.000-07:00

24 hours left... another year... thinking about goin to baibalaaaaaaaa but... too many people...

OCt 2nd...sumpeople asked how to contact me personallyy for my b day... well here is my number 7529456..

me on the wanted list of many dreaded kuni bis.... ohh shitu....... then again kuni bis is fun....

wanna wish my self one big happy b day.....

My B Day is cumming up!!!!

2008-09-27T09:40:00.000-07:00

YAY!!! B DAY is coming up ooo... lets seee.. aww first of all my list of thingys i want!!!

errmm lets seee....

1.Pink shirt(guy with pink stands out ehnu dho ;) )
2.Zippo lighter..(always wanted one..)
3.Many eggs on my head...( it's fun ehnu)
4.Getting 20 kisses ehem ehem...(it worked last time ** me with da innocentu face ;))
5.having one great day(this ones for God Almighty ..i been good this year...this month atleast)

thats all i cna think at da momment.... btw anybody knows where to get those bubble tubes?? and scary masks??

ps:Not as free as i used to be but i'll try too keep writing here as much as i can and thanx for the lovly comments people... :D

~ Breakup Survival Guide ~

2008-09-19T11:45:00.001-07:00

Ouch!

You broke up with a girl or she just broke up with you. Either way, it’s over and you’re hurting. Whether it’s been a day or a month or even a year, every time you think of that girl or something reminds you of her, a large pit forms in your stomach and tears well in your eyes. The absolute worst feeling in the world. You’d rather be sick with the flu, kicked in the nuts, or punched in the face; in fact you’d rather feel anything but what you feel when you think about her.

Leave the Past Where It Belongs

Who knows why you two broke up and who cares. All that matters is that it is over. Yes, you felt good with her and yes, you had all those special cute things that were unique to that relationship and yes, I know you want those times back. We all have wanted it. Regardless, the relationship happened in the past and it must stay there. Time spent dwelling on what you lost is time that could be better spent improving the present and the future.

Keep It in the Past

I know it is easier said than done. Even still, you must make the jump. Delete your ex’s phone number, remove her from facebook, from myspace, and from instant messaging. Throw away all mementos. Anything that might remind you of her or you might use as a crutch to remember her, it must go! You want it now and you think you need it, but all it will do is cause more harm and become an addiction. If you’ve been there before, you know I’m right and if you haven’t, then listen to me or you’ll soon learn the hard way.

Nothing is worse than rereading old letters, constantly checking for an internet profile update, or the urge to call the ex when you become needy. Fight it and make the jump. You will do it sooner or later and sooner saves you the pain.

Cut All Ties and Find New Ones

After every relationship the guy hopes to turn a breakup into a FWB or to somehow rekindle the fire and start fresh. If those hopes were realistic, the two of you wouldn’t have broken up in the first place, buddy. Don’t try and stay friends with her. In fact, I would recommend never talking to her again. It simply brings back old memories, old feelings, and more pain. Don’t even go for one more fuck or one more kiss or one more anything. It is over and it is time to move on. Any time you would have spent maintaining a friendship could be better spent meeting new people or in the gym or bettering yourself. Even if you feel insecure, or needy, or like you will never find happiness again, just know that it will happen if you go out and look for it fresh. Once you take the long scary jump across the abyss, a beautiful oasis is awaiting you and you’ll never look back.

Perspective and Time

Everyday gets easier when you totally remove your ex from your life. Stay positive and keep your eyes open to the beauty in life and the positive things you take for granted. At everyone’s darkest moment, there is beauty to be found around them. At everyone’s darkest moment, someone out there dreams of living your life. It hurts now, but looking back you will know you made the right decision to move on and find greater happiness than you would have ever known. Leave your comfort zone and you will be rewarded.

Never forget that we all have been there and felt your hurt…many times. It is never painless, but it doesn’t have to be a prolonged scarring process.

MIRC ..better than mig33

2008-09-19T11:45:00.000-07:00

Before mig33 was born mIRC was the best well known softweare used for many people to chat at one chat room.Mig33 was a big hit. It was a software which enabled people to chat from AOL,Yahoo,Hotmail,Gmail etc..almost all the common IM programmes people use, and also it enabled people to talk in chatrooms. as mig was introduced people started shifting to mig.Now We rarely see people on mIRC, Most of the people agree that its the main reason which people started to quit IRC and join mig.Well in mirc people were’nt able to chat from thrie email ids,and they aren’t able to make contact lists which will enable them to get more friends.but mig33 has all these features. We could say that “mig is the solutionized version of mIRC”. :P cant we?

Eventhough there are still some people who use mIRC at their office, still the future of mig is brighter tham mIRC’s.becase now people are beein able to chat through mig33 using thair pc’s by softwares such as sJboy, Mig pro and all such java emulators plus now we can use mig33 to chat from the pc from their main website.

In my view, not only mig33 made the continues decrease in the number of people who used mIRC,As foruming became popular, lots of people got their intrests stopped in it…lots of people made freeforums and learned it while some joined the existing forums and helped them carve thair way through success.

above article i found somewhere on de net.. and i think in my own opiniun MIRC is wayyy better than mig33...much faster and more intrestin people to meet...:P

for those who wanna download it here is da download page link below

The 10 Commandments

2008-09-12T21:48:00.000-07:00

1. Thou shalt not be ungroomed. Hair, sideburns, beard, goatee, stache, whatever. Got hair on your body, keep it under control. Don't get lazy and let the fur grow caveman-style. Cavemen don't get hotties.

2. Thou shalt not wear clothes that don't fit. There's a reason clothes come in many sizes, guys. It's so you can buy the ones that actually fit you. Women notice an M wearing XL, and they ain't going home with him.

3. Thou shalt not wear crappy shoes. Shoes tell women everything they need to know about you. Smelly sneakers, sandals with socks, and gore-tex hiking boots do not get into the hottie's sheets.

4. Thou shalt not pull pants up to your nipples. Your gradpa needs to keep his pants that high. You, my friend, have a waist. Find it and use it.

5. Thou shalt not dress in the dark. Before you leave the house, look in a frickin' mirror. If you see a dork standing there, make him go change into something presentable.

6. Thou shalt not wear clothes that were cool when "Living La Vida Loca" was a hit. Just because your "Thriller" jacket got you looks in '85, that's no reason to rock it now. (Point for the older guys out there :P)

7. Thou shalt not bathe in cologne. We know you love your Old Spice, but less is more, cowboy.

8. Thou shalt not wear glasses that make you look like a chemistry teacher. Even if you are a chemistry teacher, you can get frames that actually look good on you. They do make them, you know. Just ask.

9. Thou shalt not follow trends blindly. See everyone in the bar wearing striped shirts? Do something different. Get the gear that goes with you. You have to stand out, not blend in.

10. Thou shalt not wear fleece. You are a man, not a sheep. So stop wearing big billowing soft stuff that makes you look like you should be chased by a border collie. If it's cold, get a real coat.

Stop sinning today! The girls want to be with you, but they need you to look your best. If you've been breaking ANY of the Commandments, you need help, brother. Salvation is here today, and Dressed for Success is your salvation. Find your style and get more smiles TODAY.

Have fun :)

Dumb idots still live the earth...

2008-09-03T06:43:00.000-07:00

ahh as i sit here

once a cow u are always a cow.. or soo it seems... hmmm without idiots..the world would be full of..intelligent people...and that makes the word intelligent... dosent seem much at all.. soo let us acknowledge them idiots cause without them we wont be intelligent ehh hehehe but reality is..no offence to black people or so watsever..am no racist but... we all are black ...when the lights go out... :)

HI and Happy Ramazan..

2008-08-31T09:04:00.000-07:00

Hey guys and gals.. as u can see am new here... blogged a couple of stuff... still think there is room for improvement ...and ohh yea happyy Ramazan people...

btw anyone wanna adopt me juz let me know puleez...

guess the days of no eating and the nights of late coffe season have come again.....

and Be good.....:D

Nice guys vs jerks

2008-08-27T00:37:00.000-07:00

The debate of "nice guys vs. jerks" has been raging for quite a long time. The nature of being a "nice guy", however, is commonly misunderstood. It is believed that being polite, considerate, friendly, tender, romantic, etc. is what being a "nice guy" is all about and thus those qualities should be avoided, as it is the "jerk", the rude, the inconsiderate, the impolite, the rough guy who always gets the girl while the "nice guy" is waiting outside in the pouring rain with flowers in his hand.

It doesn't mean that women prefer rude over polite, inconsiderate over considerate, etc. It all becomes clear when we look at a very important issue often overlooked when trying to define what makes the "jerks" beat the "nice guys" when it comes to getting the girls. It is sexuality - the "jerks" are not afraid to show that they are sexual beings, while the "nice guys" hide their sexuality as a part of their agenda of being friendly, polite, and courteous towards women.

"It dawned on me as it has, that the androgyny is key. Women fall for bastards because they don't turn off the sexuality.. "nice" guys think women will be terrified of their sexuality, so they turn it off and all they get is women responding to their androgyny [sending all nice guys to LJBF-land]"(LJBF= lets juz be friends)

Having Money Affects Attraction

2008-08-25T22:24:00.000-07:00

There is a belief among some men that you need money to "compete for women". There's no doubt to anyone that men who are very wealthy have an extra edge with women: Why is that? And how come some of them don't get ut? And how big of a deal is having money, really, in being attracting and getting with the kind of women you want?

This is for and targetted towards men of all levels of wealth. Lets look at it from every perspective, so you can know what to do to get more success, regardless of if you're in Forbes 10 richest men or still living with your parents.Here is the break down:

Attraction can be broken down, precisely, into three elements: Value, Attainability, and Compliance. VAC for short. The question is: Does being more wealthy make men more attractive to women? The answer is: yes. So the question becomes: What part of VAC does wealth affect?

Most people would point to value. There is some truth in that. Being more wealthy is good for value, but not for the reasons you might think. After instructing professionally for over two years, I'm blessed to have friends from all social strata all over the world. Here's the crazy thing: Of the wealthiest of my friends, the most socially successful spend NONE of it on women. Or very little.

So, could it be that women like a man who is dressed well and has a nice place? To be sure, yes, they do. A little. But what's much, much larger than that is that wealth communicates you're a successful person. In the Western world, there are opportunities for people to succeed. The fact is, if you are confident, and intelligent, bold, and hard-working, you can become wealthy. The opportunities are there.

And by becoming wealthy, you signify you do have those traits - which are very valuable to women, much moreso than your watch.

Wealth does something else to value - It affects mindsets. I saw this clearly when I was in Sri Lanka, it's damn easy there with money ratio like 10:0 . Treated like celebrities, and with my currency trading 8:1 against the Srilankan rupee, we were eating at the nicest restaurants and staying at the nicest places. If you've never lived in really, really high society for a while, you might not know just how fawned on you are.

I'm talking high-high-high. Top 1%. I was blessed to see that world.

By being treated so well, and having people there for your every beck and call, you learn to develop a few important things: A sense of abundance - This translates to not worrying about any one particular woman, because you know there's lots more. A sense of entitlement: Never worrying if you're good enough or if you've impressed her enough, so you don't try to "win her over", instead you just go for it. A lack of patience - Being bold and decisive are very attractive traits, and basically necessary if you're using cold approaches. A lack of patience, believe it or not, goes a long way towards getting success.

So, due to circumstance, men who are in the top 1% carry themselves differently and behave a bit more differently, specifically - in a more valuable way to women.

Now, here's the bomb to be dropped on you: It still isn't about value.

Attainability is the idea that women have a chance to get you. For women of privledge and of high self-esteem, they see themselves with a high caliber of man. They don't see themselves struggling.

Women close their eyes, and think to themselves, "Is this the kind of man I see myself with?" Many very beautiful women see themselves with a man of means, especially for the long-term. You need to know this, and accept it: Many beautiful women see themselves, in the long-term, with a wealthy man. She might see you as very valuable even if you're not wealthy, but she might not see you as "her type".

This can be overcome.And no the solution is not rounding up 13 guys and robbing up a bank..

Value, Attainability, and Compliance generate Attraction. This is called VAC. VAC is beautiful in its non-linearity. While there's some common indicators of value, like non-verbals and conversational skills, where our deepest value comes from is different in all of us. Being passionate about something in your life is good for value, regardless of what it is.

Which brings us to attainability: First, there are lots of women who are very nice, very cool, solid girls who could care less about wealth, and if you make them laugh, you'll be in good shape.

But what about the ones that do care? Let me give you some quick tips.

FOR THE WEALTHY MEN, REGARDLESS OF AGE:

The most common mistakes among wealthy men who aren't successful with women is that they try to flaunt or show off their wealth.

The second most common mistake is spending too much money on women without demanding lots of compliance in return.

Trying to impress a woman will murder attraction. What you should do is get your affairs into order, and spend money on YOURSELF, not on women. Understate your success - use "verbalizations of lower value", be modest, and understate your success. This will make you appear even more confident and successful.

Do not flaunt it, and if a woman starts to see you as out of her league, use heavy doses of verbal attainability, like qualification: One of the best you can use is "down to earth" -

"I meet a lot of girls with their heads in the clouds, but you don't have time for that. You're so down to earth and relaxed, I feel really comfortable around you."

If you're high value, and they know they have a shot at you, it's up to you to work them so that they can feel like they deserve you.

SUCCESSFUL BUT NOT WEALTHY, ALL AGES:

Many men are successful - they get what they want out of life, but aren't necessarily wealthy. Musicians. Artists. People who do community work. These men may be quite respected, but they don't have ridiculous amounts of money. Newsflash: You're still very potentially attractive to women!

Again, wealth is an indicator of good traits about you. Success in other fields is too. And quite likely, if you've achieved some success or acclaim in a field, you get treated really well in that area too: Take your mentality from wherever you get success - the one of abundance and privledge - and apply it to everywhere you go.

After that, you need to be attainable: Show her that underneath the art, or speaking, or whatever your chosen path is - show her that underneath that, you're like her too, with similar hopes and dreams, and successes and failures. People who are really successful in some respected, enlightened element of our culture can be intimidating, so show her that a girl like her can get a guy like you.

IF YOU'RE OLDER, AND NOT SUCCESSFUL:

The nice thing about being men is that our value gets higher as we age - as long we achieve commensurate with our age. Look at men who have consistently achieved more and more success as they get older, who never stop, retire, or let themselves stagnate. Men who keep achieving more become more attractive as they get older. We only cease to gain value from aging when we stop achieving more. Take a look at Hugh Hefner, as a great example, of a man who never stopped achieving more, and has in fact become more and more attractive over the years.

If you're older than 40, and you haven't achieved anything in terms of art or culture, in your professional life, in your leisure time, in your family, or anything else, then it's time for a gut-check. Social skills go a long way towards getting better with women. I've seen quite a few students below height 5'5 get plenty of success, as have guys of all levels of physical attractiveness, and all ethnicities and nationalities.

But the fact is - if you haven't achieved anything in 40+ years on this planet that you're proud of, then it's time to overhaul that and start anew. Women aren't attracted to men who have achieved accomplishments because of the accomplishments themselves. There's thousands of things that can be done in this world that people will respect and admire, and here's a true statement: It's not because of the accomplishment itself. It's because the kind of man who gets things done, who strives and works hard, and is decisive and bold and confident - this is the kind of man that accomplishes things, and if you're not accomplishing things, then you're signifying you probably don't have those traits.

Here's the good thing, though: Many men overlook a lot of great things they have going for them. If you've raised children who are now happy and successful, that is an accomplishment, for instance. But if you haven't achieved anything yet, then my first suggestion to you is to start getting involved. Pick up a new hobby, or start working hard in a new profession. Doing this concurrently with learning social skills goes a long way towards showing you are, again, bold, decisive, intelligent, creative, confident, etc.

IF YOU'RE YOUNG, AND HAVE YET TO LEAVE YOUR MARK ON THE WORLD:

A lot of younger guys can clearly see how they're going to be successful and leave their brand on the world - but they haven't yet. Many times a guy under age 30 wonders if he's achieved enough, if he's doing enough, if he can be attractive to women when other guys have done more, have more already.

Here's the great thing for you: If you're under age 30, you're in a position where you can talk about what you're going to achieve - even that you haven't started on yet - and it will give you the value of being confident, bold, decisive, et al, and it will let girls be able to picture themselves with you long-term.

If any guys under 18 years old snuck onto this list or see this article reposted somewhere, you are truly blessed: You can make as many unsubstantiated claims as you want about how you're going to take over the entire world. Remember that going "too far" with them can actually hurt attainability ;) But talk about how you want to have a pool, and a beautiful garden, and a glass sun-room inside your home, and how you want to travel the entire world...

Go for it. As you start to get older, some - just a little - of your value gets tied into whether you've started to achieve professionally or creatively. Before that, painting vivid pictures that show you're a dreamer can capture all the value. Of course, you'll need to back it up by being decisive, confident, and the rest WITH HER - women can't be faked out per se. But if you act confident, and talk confidently - you've got all the value of being confident.

Oh, and everybody - Get lots of compliance. Compliance is good.

An Intresting rap

2008-08-25T22:02:00.000-07:00

im gonna slash and gash
cuttin a hole in your ass
i spill blood on your walls
and play tennis with your balls
if the phone rings
dont answer the phone call
im gonna slit ur thorat
fuck u like a ghoat
peel your skin off
and make u a coat
peace!!

Ok! before u click that x with your mouse listen i have not gone nuts,nor am a i akiller lol this is actually a piece from the comedy orror movie scary movie 1…hehe funny stuff