The SOI Technique

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The power of this technique is not the words themselves, it's that you're making it explicitly clear from the moment you say it, that you find her attractive and are into her.

The whole purpose of "game" is to reach that point. Some guys do it through humor, some guys do it through sexuality. Some guys do it as the nice polite guy offering romantic gestures.

Whichever route is taken, the destination is to get to the point where it's clear that YOU DIG HER. Not in a supplicating way, but in a lustful, intimate, desirable way.

Failures and rejections happen when guys beat around the bush, over-game instead of mirroring her interest-levels, or don't have the confidence to finally reach THAT POINT where you make it UNMISTAKABLY CLEAR that the reason you're interacting with her is because YOU'RE INTO HER.

Somewhere in your interaction with the girl, you'll get to a point where the natural progression is to verbalize this to the girl. The name for this is something you already know... One of the most common, and under-rated social dynamic events: the SOI.

When you SOI a girl, don't do it as a way to seek rapport. Don't do it as a way to seek approval. Don't even do it as a way to make her attracted to you. Simply do it because YOU DIG HER, and you are communicating this openly and confidently. Once you lay it out there, you have immediately dictated the TONE of the dynamic between you and her.

You can SOI her in the opening phase. You can SOI her in the closing phase. You can do it anywhere in between. There's no rule to it. It works organically, based on the rhythm of the interaction. Whenever she really has you fired up for her, that's when you verbalize it.

She's not a fucking mind-reader(nor are guys). Don't drop hints either, this isn't a game of "Clue". It's natural for the girl to drop hints. It's not natural for males to behave that way. Express yourself. Show your passion. Demonstrate your strength of character by not hesitating to show your cards.

When you SOI a girl, don't expect any kind of response, because that will create anxiety or even disappointment. Don't expect any kind of "magic" to happen because of your words, either. In fact, don't expect anything.

Just say whatever you feel.

SOI her. And when you do it, don't tiptoe it in. Say it confidently, and matter-of-factly. Like pulling a shiny golden-egg out of your pocket and setting it down in front of her. You just put it out there and watch how she responds, knowing full-well how powerfully valuable it is.

Then just GO WITH THE FLOW of whatever happens next.

When you do this genuinely and without expectation, you pull the girl into a reality where she sees the possibility of passion and romance with you.

This immediately seperates you from all the other guys in her life. You suddenly place yourself into a completely new category.

Like putting rose-colored glasses on her, she'll immediately look at you in a new way.

How she responds can be one of a million ways. Whatever you do, don't RETRACT or try to COVER UP your SOI. Don't make excuses for how you feel. Don't hide how you feel. And especially don't qualify yourself to her afterwards. Don't try to "sell yourself" to her.

Your SOI's should be delivered in a "this is how I feel, take it or leave it" manner. You put the ball in HER court.

Then: you move on. Change the subject, if you like. Or tease her on her response, if it's funny or cute. Whatever you do, don't let the momentum sit there and die.

Treat it like a bump in the road, one that you INTENTIONALLY drive over. You bounce over it, then you KEEP DRIVING. You LET HER be the one to ask "..did you feel that?"

In other words, in most cases she'll respond with "..wait, what did you just say?"

Remember, don't over-game. This isn't about "what do I say if she says this? How do I respond if she does that?". Forget about that.

What's the whole point of the SOI? Do you remember?

It's to bring the dynamic to THAT POINT, where it's clear that you DIG HER, that you are ATTRACTED TO HER.

She KNOWS what you just said. She heard it. Her question is not there because she wants you to explain it to her. She's asking it because you took her by surprise. Now her mind is going through a huge shift where her whole perspective of you is instantly changing.

You've brought her to THAT POINT.

Once you've brought the interaction to that point, you shouldn't be worrying out how to continue gaming from this point.

You've put the ball in her court. Now all you have to do is behave as if this was the way it was supposed to happen all along. As if there were no other direction that things were going to go.

And continue as before. You can behave the same way as earlier, only now all your behavior and statements will be processed through a new, more positive, more attraction-fueled perspective in her mind.

Your confidence, combined with the non-chalant, carefree, fearless and expectation-less delivery of your SOI gives the opposite of a sense of finality.. It creates a sense of BEGINNING.

Like, the beginning of a steamy relationship. Or a night of passion and ecstasy.

You have to understand that girls really WANT to be brought to THAT POINT with a guy. Nothing is more thrilling for her.

Most guys never get to THAT POINT. They hint at it, or try to find that point through the friendzone.

Girls go on dates with guys specifically to find a guy who knows how to bring the dynamic between him, and her, to THAT POINT.

Make THAT POINT something that RADIATES FROM YOU when you interact with a girl. Everything about you, your body-language, your voice-tone, your eye-contact, your words.. Everything should vibrate in a harmonious tone that creates a bubble around you and the girl, where she is engulfed in the reality of THAT POINT.

Where she knows that with you, it's not about this, or that, or whatever. With you, it's all about YOU AND HER simmering at THAT POINT of mutual interest and attraction.

This is the purpose of game, to get there, and to play there. Everything else is just moving sideways.

Your Dating Guru
.....DarkCasanova....