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Sunday, December 28, 2008

ASD!!:the self defence of women..

ASD is an acronym for Anti-Slut Defense. The idea behind this is that a woman will resist anything that makes her feel easy.

This is a common misunderstanding of women.

I happen to know many women who don’t mind being sluts. Many who get off on being slutty.

A more helpful way of thinking about this concept is that a woman does not want to seem easy in people’s eyes. If actually being easy fulfills her desires and no one who’s opinion she values is the wiser she can usually live with her slutty self no problem.

ASD should really be called Anti-Desperate Defense. A woman just does not want to seem desperate to people, especially you and especially her friends. ie: throw herself at a man.

So how do you get her to unleash her inner-slut and let her feel free to be sexual with you?

You reveal your sexual interest first in a direct way (once you have created a personal vibe). “I think that the way you describe your poetry is sexy. You better stop that cause you’re turning me on.” ( on more about these type of statements i’ll be postin them soon here)

That sort of statement allows her to be flirty and sexual because she is not pursuing you in some desperate fashion but only reciprocating.

Now the interesting thing is that she may act sexual with you in a secluded corner of a seedy bar but as soon as she gets in front of her friends she can pull back into a guarded, platonic state.

That is because she knows her friends haven’t heard you verbalize your attraction first. If she was to get all up on you, her friends would be presuming she is actind desperate. But the real interesting thing is that if you then verbalize your sexual interest in front of her friends it can sometimes unlock her and allow her to flirt openly in front of them because now she knows they know she is only reciprocating. Funny how that works

And yea fact is..guys most girls who turn u down..well they aint bitches.. they are just protecting themselves… now y I say this is cause eventually thee would come a guy who she would be crazy with and say “kiss me baby kiss me” … Now y cant that guy be u?

Sunday, November 23, 2008

AIDS Day .....



AIDS day is coming up.. me as usual helping da community n bein g a part of it....am an offical in it.. but we still need more volounters... the more people the better... So if u guys are intrested juz let me know n be a part of the stuff which we are doin on AIDS day.. btw me am a volounter at YHC..(Youth Health Cafe)..everyone is welcome to come even now to help put.. we'r having a futsal tonument from 1st to 6th dec...n there'll be like facepainting,free AIDS testing,futsal tonument ofcause n loads of people there to clebrate the evnt n take part in a huge event soo dont miss it guys n gals... n yep.. like i said before anyone who wanna help out be part of this . let me know :)

and ofcause more dating stuff will be coming ur way people :P.. juz alil busy with stuff....

Friday, November 7, 2008

Rules for the Girlfriend



Here are some things that guys wished every girl knew. I did not write this and I wish i could remember where I found it. If you can think of more rules that your girlfriend should have put it down.

1. If you think you are fat, you probably are. Do not ask us. We refuse to answer.

2. Learn to work the toilet seat. If it’s up, put it down.

3. Do not cut your hair. Ever. Long hair is always more attractive than short hair. One of the big reasons guys fear getting married is that married women always cut their hair, and by then, you are stuck with her.

4. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect present yet again!

5. If you ask a question you don’t want an answer to; expect an answer you do not want to hear.

6. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.

7. Crying is blackmail.

8. Your ex-boyfriend is an idiot.

9. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work. Strong hints do not work. Obvious hints do not work. Just say it!

10. No, we do not know what day it is. We never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.

11. Most guys own three pairs of shoes-what makes you think we’d be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?

12. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.

13. Check your oil.

14. Do not fake it. We would rather be ineffective than deceived.

15. It is neither in your best interest nor ours to take the quiz together.

16. No, it does not matter which quiz.

17. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.

18. If you won’t dress like the Victoria’s Secret girls, don’t expect us to act like soap opera guys.

19. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.

20. Let us ogle. We are going to look anyway; it is genetic.

21. Don’t rub the lamp if you don’t want the genie to come out.

22. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done-not both.

23. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

24. Christopher Columbus did not need directions, and neither do we.

25. Women wearing Wonderbras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.

26. More women should wear Wonderbras and low-cut blouses.

27. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.

28. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like windows default settings. Peach is a fruit, not a color.

29. Pumpkin is also a fruit.

30. If it itches, it will be scratched.

31. If it is OUR house, I do not understand why MY stuff gets thrown in the closet/attic/basement.

32. We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.

33. If we ask what is wrong and you say “nothing,” we will act like nothing’s wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.

34. If we hear from an old girlfriend, we will briefly fantasize about having sex with her. But do not worry; the fantasy includes you AND her, together.

35. when we ask stuff puleez give staight answers.... reallyy it wont hurt us..

36.what the hell is doily?

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

How to tell(know) she is intrested...

First of all IM BACK!!! yes..been busy with a lil sumthin called life...tell ya the whole story laties ok..here is a new one for u all...

OK, I have a quick trick question for you.

That's right, I said a quick TRICK question.

How can you tell if a woman is interested in you?

Answer quickly.

So what gives?

Why am I asking you a trick question?

Simple.

Because I'm trying to make you THINK.

I'm sure that u might have seen or read a couple of dating tips stuff that says stuff like:

"If she tilts her head to one side and strokesher neck, that's a sign of interest..."

"If she licks her lips in a longing fashion,that means she's interested in you..."

"If she laughs a lot, makes positive eye contact, and touches you often, then she likes you..."

DUH!

I remember when I first read all this stuff.

I thought to myself "Wow, cool! I must have been missing these hints because I didn't know to look for them. Now I'll know when a woman is interested in me...".

Well, there was ONE SMALL problem...

The problem is that women display these MAJOR INTEREST signals in about 1 of 1,000 interactions with men...

And there was one BIG problem...

That problem was that none of the damn dating tips I read said a single thing about how to MAKE women give you these signals.

In other words, what I realized is that average guys like me who don't get "approached" by women need to learn not only WHAT to look for, but, more importantly, how to actually CREATE ATTRACTION in women so they GAVE me these signals in the FIRST PLACE.

So let me share with you some dating tips on how to MAKE women feel ATTRACTION for you... and then I'll share some ideas on what to LOOK FOR to tell if a woman is interested.

And my ideas will be a WEEEEEE BIT different than the ones you read in your flirting books,magazines or even the know it all buddyy guy who talks the talk but cant walk the walk lol.

OK, so you're out at a bar with a few friends, and it's time to meet some interesting women.

You look around, and none of the hot young babes in there seem to be tilting their heads to one side, looking you in the eye, and licking their lips... so you decide to DO SOMETHING.

What do most guys do in this situation?

Either:

1) Nothing, because they're scared, or...

2) Something typical, like ask a girl to give the number, or if he can take her on a typical date or juz the plain old maldivian style of saying that she is cute or beutiful.

If you're guilty of doing these, raise your hand.

Then take your raised hand, and slap yourself silly. Not too hard. But silly.(dont sue me ok..i know this is the other maldives but jeez gimme a break hhehe)

Here's a thought for you...

If you put 100 guys in a party with one beautiful women sitting alone, and you say to all 100 of the guys "Hey guys, which one of you can walk over to that woman and do something to make that woman feel a SEXUAL ATTRACTION for you?"... I'd say thatif you're LUCKY, one of them will claim that he can do it.

In other words, for most guys, the idea of walking up to a girl they don't know and doing something that will TRIGGER an attraction is completely outside of their universe.

This is one of the reasons why guys do things like asking girls to be thier "friend',stalking them , etc.

Now, something you must understand when it comes to women and ATTRACTION is that women don't feel ATTRACTION for WUSSIES.(thats rite wussies?got a problem with that?ouch...)

ATTRACTION isn't a CHOICE.

It isn't logical (at least, on the surface).

But once you start to "get it", everything changes. Your entire perspective changes once you "get it", and your results change instantly as well.

So here's a dating tip for you to try:

MESS WITH WOMEN.

That's right "mess with" them.

Tease.

Bust on.

Be difficult.

Why?

Because it INSTANTLY communicates that:

1) You could care less what she thinks of you.

2) You're a fun person.

3) You're unpredictable.

4) You're a bit of a "wild card"

5) You GET IT.

Now, you might be shaking your head right now and saying "That's doesn't make any sense. Why would a woman feel attracted to me if I mess with her instead of being nice?".

That's a good question.

But for now, take the hand that you slapped yourself with earlier, and slap yourself again.

Good.

I want you to STOP following your "be nice and kiss ass" instincts when you first meet a woman, and instead practice MESSING WITH HER.

Make fun of something.

Go to hand her something, then pull it away at the last second.

Shake your head in despair and tell her that she's screwing up her chances with you.

Say something Cocky & Funny, then turn around and walk away before she can respond to your face.

Can ya feel me, dude?

Now the good stuff... HOW TO TELL IF SHE'S INTERESTED

Well this is what you were looking for, so here it is...

I'm going to give you a stupid-proof formula for knowing whether or not a woman is interested in you.

Here it is:

1) You engage her.

2) She engages you back.

Yes, that's it. Please stop the applause long enough that I can finish. You can clap later.

I know that this sounds a little "Duh-ish", but stay with me here.

If I walk into a restaurant, and the hostess asks me how many are in my party, and I answer with "Well, there are three of us. I guess there will be FOUR if YOU join us..." and she laughs at my joke, then IT'S ON!

If I'm standing in a party, and the woman next to me bumps into my arm, and I turn and say "Hey, watch it, OK? Keep some space here, I need at least a foot of room..." in a serious tone of voice... and she starts playing along by smiling and moving away from me then back again playfully, then IT'S ON!

If I'm talking to a woman that I met at the magazine rack, and I ask her "What's with that huge purse of yours? You got a cat in there or something?" and she starts laughing and making excuses, then IT'S ON!

In a nutshell, what I'm trying to say is:

1) Stop looking around for signals from women that they're "interested" in you.

2) Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.3) Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then assume that IT'S ON!

As long as you use how she's responding to what YOU do as your gauge, then you'll have a MUCH easier time spotting the "she wants me" clues...

...Because YOU ARE THE ONE CAUSING THEM.

Now...

...if u want more help u know where to find..it's rite here..

Stop beating your head against the wall, and start taking advantage of learning this stuff.

You'll be SO glad you did.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Here, eat this :) (For Guys!)


Feed her chocolate! You might not know it, but chocolate is a mild aphrodisiac. This means that chocolate triggers emotions in our mind related to love and attraction. For instance, if a woman is thinking about you while she is eating a hershey's bar, she will feel more attracted to you than she normally would. With this in mind, try to feed her chocolate while you are with her. The best way to accomplish this is: Stop to buy a cigarete(smoking kills!! n me dont smoke) or a coffee meta(now this is my style!! :P), come back out with a candy bar and say "I thought you might like this, but if you don't want it I'll eat it".

Chocolate contains substances called Phenylethylamine and Seratonin, both of which (put simply), are mood lifting agents found naturally in the human brain. They are released into the nervous system by the brain when we are happy and when we are experiencing feelings of love, passion or lust. This causes rapid mood change, a rise in blood pressure and increasing heart rate, inducing those feelings of well being, bordering on euphoria usually associated with being in love.

Eating chocolate also releases Phenylethylamine and Seratonin into the system producing those same euphoric effects, plus it can give a substantial energy boost thus increasing stamina (at the critical moment?), so it's probably these effects which gave rise to chocolates reputation as an aphrodisiac.

Recent research suggests that women are more susceptible to the effects of Phenylethylamine and Seratonin than men, although Casanova is said to have consumed chocolate before frolicking with his conquests, but there's no mention of him actually sharing it with them.

So there you have it, calling Chocolate an aphrodisiac is probably stretching it a bit, but eating chocolate does make you feel good and can actually induce or 'mimic' the feelings of being in love...

NOTE TO GALS: I LOVE U ALL(my fith grade teacher excluded..she was a b|@CTH..hehehe

Friday, October 10, 2008

The Life Builders Creed


Today is the most important day of my life.

Yesterday with its successes and victories,

struggles and failures is gone forever, the past is past.

Done. Finished.

I cannot relive it. I cannot go back and change it.

But I will learn from it and improve my today.

Today. This moment. NOW.

It is God’s gift to me and it is all I have.

Tomorrow with all its joys and sorrows, triumphs and troubles

Isn’t here yet.

Indeed, tomorrow may never come.

Therefore, I will not worry about tomorrow.

Today is what God has entrusted to me.

It is all that I have. I will do my best in it.

I will demonstrate the best of me in it.-

My character, giftedness, and abilities-

To my family and friends.

I will identify those things that are most important

to do today,

And those things I will do until they are done.
And when this day is done

I will look back with satisfaction at that
Which I have accomplished.

Then and only then, will I plan my tomorrow,
Looking to improve upon today.

Then I shall go to sleep in peace…

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Tagged by shooting star!!!

1. what’s your latest addiction? – Trying new stuff,learning new magic tricks,n ridin cykes
2. What are you listening to? – bullet with your name-scars of life
3. How late did you stay up last night and why? – 3am doing magic tricks and on calls wiht various people
4. Who were you with last Friday night? –Gave a big treat to myself :)
5. Do you think you will be in a relationship 3 months from now?- I have no idea...but am looking forward for one
6. When is the next time you’ll see your close friends?-tommorow night
7. What were you doing this morning at 7am? – waking up dude to my mom shouting to go to vote(dumb politics)
8. What radio station do you listen to the most? – not much of a raido guy but i like capital radio
9. What was the reason you last cried? – Dont wanna talk about it....
10. Have you ever talked to someone when they were high? - yep many times.. high as in drugs,sexually,anger,on an aeroplane,etc etc
11. What’s the fifth text in your inbox say? –"what do u think we will be doin there all alone"
12.Where was the last coffee shop u go to? dont have a spesific place...me go everywhere
13. What’s ur outfit right now? – t shirt long sleeves dark with stripes,silver chain on my neck 2 rings, brown shorts...
16. What were you doing at 11pm last night? – driving like a maniac on a cyke
17. Who was the last person you talked to last night before bed? – To myself(no im not mad or sumthin) telling myself to go for it...
18. Will you be driving in a year? – am driving even now ..only prob is me not too tame on the roads...
19. Is there anything that you are craving right now? – yea...lust,coffee metas and a coke..
20. When did your last hug take place? – yesterday.. and arabic hug wiht a close buddy of mine lol
22. Have you ever started a sentence with “No offense, but…”? – yes many times..like sumtimes No offence but i think we should juz be friends(note to guys:Dont try this with an angry gf)
23. Do you drink tea? – Sometimes..it kinda clams me and makes me relax...
24. Have you ever been arrested? – Not yet...
25. Have you rode in someone else’s car today? – nop..cykes yes
26. Have you made a mistake this past week? –yep ..probably even here llike a few spelling mistakes :p
27. Who was the last person you texted? - a guy who was stalking a friend of mine..
28. Are you happy with your life right now? – Me gratefull for it.. and looking to make it better ..
29. In the past 72 hours have you been under the influence of sleep? yea.... when i was sleeping...
30. What’s the connection between you and the last person you texted? – the friend who he was stalking

an thats all for tonite folks....

Friday, October 3, 2008

Finding the perfect gal...

people say..try try and try again.... i did that...juz to find that one special gal... last girl i was with.... it was a very serious relationship... too bad it dint work out... and after all the stuff i went thoguh.. i fin it hard now to trust girls...but still that no giving up on love thoguht is still there in my head.. juz need that right gal to come along and melt this stone and broken heart of mine...

many ask me whats the kind i like... my answer would be... funnyy,great personality,good looks is common soo wat else u got? ,and ofcause she who loves me...

as for love and relationships what i belive is that things dont turn out ok cause it enables us to get that exeperiance and learn how to apreciate the other person once u after u meet that one special person....

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

24 hours left...

24 hours left... another year... thinking about goin to baibalaaaaaaaa but... too many people...

OCt 2nd...sumpeople asked how to contact me personallyy for my b day... well here is my number 7529456..

me on the wanted list of many dreaded kuni bis.... ohh shitu....... then again kuni bis is fun....

wanna wish my self one big happy b day.....

Saturday, September 27, 2008

My B Day is cumming up!!!!

YAY!!! B DAY is coming up ooo... lets seee.. aww first of all my list of thingys i want!!!

errmm lets seee....

1.Pink shirt(guy with pink stands out ehnu dho ;) )
2.Zippo lighter..(always wanted one..)
3.Many eggs on my head...( it's fun ehnu)
4.Getting 20 kisses ehem ehem...(it worked last time ** me with da innocentu face ;))
5.having one great day(this ones for God Almighty ..i been good this year...this month atleast)

thats all i cna think at da momment.... btw anybody knows where to get those bubble tubes?? and scary masks??

ps:Not as free as i used to be but i'll try too keep writing here as much as i can and thanx for the lovly comments people... :D

Friday, September 19, 2008

~ Breakup Survival Guide ~

Ouch!

You broke up with a girl or she just broke up with you. Either way, it’s over and you’re hurting. Whether it’s been a day or a month or even a year, every time you think of that girl or something reminds you of her, a large pit forms in your stomach and tears well in your eyes. The absolute worst feeling in the world. You’d rather be sick with the flu, kicked in the nuts, or punched in the face; in fact you’d rather feel anything but what you feel when you think about her.

Leave the Past Where It Belongs

Who knows why you two broke up and who cares. All that matters is that it is over. Yes, you felt good with her and yes, you had all those special cute things that were unique to that relationship and yes, I know you want those times back. We all have wanted it. Regardless, the relationship happened in the past and it must stay there. Time spent dwelling on what you lost is time that could be better spent improving the present and the future.

Keep It in the Past

I know it is easier said than done. Even still, you must make the jump. Delete your ex’s phone number, remove her from facebook, from myspace, and from instant messaging. Throw away all mementos. Anything that might remind you of her or you might use as a crutch to remember her, it must go! You want it now and you think you need it, but all it will do is cause more harm and become an addiction. If you’ve been there before, you know I’m right and if you haven’t, then listen to me or you’ll soon learn the hard way.

Nothing is worse than rereading old letters, constantly checking for an internet profile update, or the urge to call the ex when you become needy. Fight it and make the jump. You will do it sooner or later and sooner saves you the pain.

Cut All Ties and Find New Ones

After every relationship the guy hopes to turn a breakup into a FWB or to somehow rekindle the fire and start fresh. If those hopes were realistic, the two of you wouldn’t have broken up in the first place, buddy. Don’t try and stay friends with her. In fact, I would recommend never talking to her again. It simply brings back old memories, old feelings, and more pain. Don’t even go for one more fuck or one more kiss or one more anything. It is over and it is time to move on. Any time you would have spent maintaining a friendship could be better spent meeting new people or in the gym or bettering yourself. Even if you feel insecure, or needy, or like you will never find happiness again, just know that it will happen if you go out and look for it fresh. Once you take the long scary jump across the abyss, a beautiful oasis is awaiting you and you’ll never look back.

Perspective and Time

Everyday gets easier when you totally remove your ex from your life. Stay positive and keep your eyes open to the beauty in life and the positive things you take for granted. At everyone’s darkest moment, there is beauty to be found around them. At everyone’s darkest moment, someone out there dreams of living your life. It hurts now, but looking back you will know you made the right decision to move on and find greater happiness than you would have ever known. Leave your comfort zone and you will be rewarded.

Never forget that we all have been there and felt your hurt…many times. It is never painless, but it doesn’t have to be a prolonged scarring process.

MIRC ..better than mig33

Before mig33 was born mIRC was the best well known softweare used for many people to chat at one chat room.Mig33 was a big hit. It was a software which enabled people to chat from AOL,Yahoo,Hotmail,Gmail etc..almost all the common IM programmes people use, and also it enabled people to talk in chatrooms. as mig was introduced people started shifting to mig.Now We rarely see people on mIRC, Most of the people agree that its the main reason which people started to quit IRC and join mig.Well in mirc people were’nt able to chat from thrie email ids,and they aren’t able to make contact lists which will enable them to get more friends.but mig33 has all these features. We could say that “mig is the solutionized version of mIRC”. :P cant we?

Eventhough there are still some people who use mIRC at their office, still the future of mig is brighter tham mIRC’s.becase now people are beein able to chat through mig33 using thair pc’s by softwares such as sJboy, Mig pro and all such java emulators plus now we can use mig33 to chat from the pc from their main website.

In my view, not only mig33 made the continues decrease in the number of people who used mIRC,As foruming became popular, lots of people got their intrests stopped in it…lots of people made freeforums and learned it while some joined the existing forums and helped them carve thair way through success.

above article i found somewhere on de net.. and i think in my own opiniun MIRC is wayyy better than mig33...much faster and more intrestin people to meet...:P

for those who wanna download it here is da download page link below

Friday, September 12, 2008

The 10 Commandments

1. Thou shalt not be ungroomed. Hair, sideburns, beard, goatee, stache, whatever. Got hair on your body, keep it under control. Don't get lazy and let the fur grow caveman-style. Cavemen don't get hotties.

2. Thou shalt not wear clothes that don't fit. There's a reason clothes come in many sizes, guys. It's so you can buy the ones that actually fit you. Women notice an M wearing XL, and they ain't going home with him.

3. Thou shalt not wear crappy shoes. Shoes tell women everything they need to know about you. Smelly sneakers, sandals with socks, and gore-tex hiking boots do not get into the hottie's sheets.

4. Thou shalt not pull pants up to your nipples. Your gradpa needs to keep his pants that high. You, my friend, have a waist. Find it and use it.

5. Thou shalt not dress in the dark. Before you leave the house, look in a frickin' mirror. If you see a dork standing there, make him go change into something presentable.

6. Thou shalt not wear clothes that were cool when "Living La Vida Loca" was a hit. Just because your "Thriller" jacket got you looks in '85, that's no reason to rock it now. (Point for the older guys out there :P)

7. Thou shalt not bathe in cologne. We know you love your Old Spice, but less is more, cowboy.

8. Thou shalt not wear glasses that make you look like a chemistry teacher. Even if you are a chemistry teacher, you can get frames that actually look good on you. They do make them, you know. Just ask.

9. Thou shalt not follow trends blindly. See everyone in the bar wearing striped shirts? Do something different. Get the gear that goes with you. You have to stand out, not blend in.

10. Thou shalt not wear fleece. You are a man, not a sheep. So stop wearing big billowing soft stuff that makes you look like you should be chased by a border collie. If it's cold, get a real coat.

Stop sinning today! The girls want to be with you, but they need you to look your best. If you've been breaking ANY of the Commandments, you need help, brother. Salvation is here today, and Dressed for Success is your salvation. Find your style and get more smiles TODAY.

Have fun :)

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Dumb idots still live the earth...

ahh as i sit here

once a cow u are always a cow.. or soo it seems... hmmm without idiots..the world would be full of..intelligent people...and that makes the word intelligent... dosent seem much at all.. soo let us acknowledge them idiots cause without them we wont be intelligent ehh hehehe but reality is..no offence to black people or so watsever..am no racist but... we all are black ...when the lights go out... :)

Sunday, August 31, 2008

HI and Happy Ramazan..

Hey guys and gals.. as u can see am new here... blogged a couple of stuff... still think there is room for improvement ...and ohh yea happyy Ramazan people...

btw anyone wanna adopt me juz let me know puleez...

guess the days of no eating and the nights of late coffe season have come again.....

and Be good.....:D

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Nice guys vs jerks

The debate of "nice guys vs. jerks" has been raging for quite a long time. The nature of being a "nice guy", however, is commonly misunderstood. It is believed that being polite, considerate, friendly, tender, romantic, etc. is what being a "nice guy" is all about and thus those qualities should be avoided, as it is the "jerk", the rude, the inconsiderate, the impolite, the rough guy who always gets the girl while the "nice guy" is waiting outside in the pouring rain with flowers in his hand.

It doesn't mean that women prefer rude over polite, inconsiderate over considerate, etc. It all becomes clear when we look at a very important issue often overlooked when trying to define what makes the "jerks" beat the "nice guys" when it comes to getting the girls. It is sexuality - the "jerks" are not afraid to show that they are sexual beings, while the "nice guys" hide their sexuality as a part of their agenda of being friendly, polite, and courteous towards women.

"It dawned on me as it has, that the androgyny is key. Women fall for bastards because they don't turn off the sexuality.. "nice" guys think women will be terrified of their sexuality, so they turn it off and all they get is women responding to their androgyny [sending all nice guys to LJBF-land]"(LJBF= lets juz be friends)

Monday, August 25, 2008

Having Money Affects Attraction

There is a belief among some men that you need money to "compete for women". There's no doubt to anyone that men who are very wealthy have an extra edge with women: Why is that? And how come some of them don't get ut? And how big of a deal is having money, really, in being attracting and getting with the kind of women you want?

This is for and targetted towards men of all levels of wealth. Lets look at it from every perspective, so you can know what to do to get more success, regardless of if you're in Forbes 10 richest men or still living with your parents.Here is the break down:

Attraction can be broken down, precisely, into three elements: Value, Attainability, and Compliance. VAC for short. The question is: Does being more wealthy make men more attractive to women? The answer is: yes. So the question becomes: What part of VAC does wealth affect?

Most people would point to value. There is some truth in that. Being more wealthy is good for value, but not for the reasons you might think. After instructing professionally for over two years, I'm blessed to have friends from all social strata all over the world. Here's the crazy thing: Of the wealthiest of my friends, the most socially successful spend NONE of it on women. Or very little.

So, could it be that women like a man who is dressed well and has a nice place? To be sure, yes, they do. A little. But what's much, much larger than that is that wealth communicates you're a successful person. In the Western world, there are opportunities for people to succeed. The fact is, if you are confident, and intelligent, bold, and hard-working, you can become wealthy. The opportunities are there.

And by becoming wealthy, you signify you do have those traits - which are very valuable to women, much moreso than your watch.

Wealth does something else to value - It affects mindsets. I saw this clearly when I was in Sri Lanka, it's damn easy there with money ratio like 10:0 . Treated like celebrities, and with my currency trading 8:1 against the Srilankan rupee, we were eating at the nicest restaurants and staying at the nicest places. If you've never lived in really, really high society for a while, you might not know just how fawned on you are.

I'm talking high-high-high. Top 1%. I was blessed to see that world.

By being treated so well, and having people there for your every beck and call, you learn to develop a few important things: A sense of abundance - This translates to not worrying about any one particular woman, because you know there's lots more. A sense of entitlement: Never worrying if you're good enough or if you've impressed her enough, so you don't try to "win her over", instead you just go for it. A lack of patience - Being bold and decisive are very attractive traits, and basically necessary if you're using cold approaches. A lack of patience, believe it or not, goes a long way towards getting success.

So, due to circumstance, men who are in the top 1% carry themselves differently and behave a bit more differently, specifically - in a more valuable way to women.

Now, here's the bomb to be dropped on you: It still isn't about value.

Attainability is the idea that women have a chance to get you. For women of privledge and of high self-esteem, they see themselves with a high caliber of man. They don't see themselves struggling.

Women close their eyes, and think to themselves, "Is this the kind of man I see myself with?" Many very beautiful women see themselves with a man of means, especially for the long-term. You need to know this, and accept it: Many beautiful women see themselves, in the long-term, with a wealthy man. She might see you as very valuable even if you're not wealthy, but she might not see you as "her type".

This can be overcome.And no the solution is not rounding up 13 guys and robbing up a bank..

Value, Attainability, and Compliance generate Attraction. This is called VAC. VAC is beautiful in its non-linearity. While there's some common indicators of value, like non-verbals and conversational skills, where our deepest value comes from is different in all of us. Being passionate about something in your life is good for value, regardless of what it is.

Which brings us to attainability: First, there are lots of women who are very nice, very cool, solid girls who could care less about wealth, and if you make them laugh, you'll be in good shape.

But what about the ones that do care? Let me give you some quick tips.

FOR THE WEALTHY MEN, REGARDLESS OF AGE:

The most common mistakes among wealthy men who aren't successful with women is that they try to flaunt or show off their wealth.

The second most common mistake is spending too much money on women without demanding lots of compliance in return.

Trying to impress a woman will murder attraction. What you should do is get your affairs into order, and spend money on YOURSELF, not on women. Understate your success - use "verbalizations of lower value", be modest, and understate your success. This will make you appear even more confident and successful.

Do not flaunt it, and if a woman starts to see you as out of her league, use heavy doses of verbal attainability, like qualification: One of the best you can use is "down to earth" -

"I meet a lot of girls with their heads in the clouds, but you don't have time for that. You're so down to earth and relaxed, I feel really comfortable around you."

If you're high value, and they know they have a shot at you, it's up to you to work them so that they can feel like they deserve you.

SUCCESSFUL BUT NOT WEALTHY, ALL AGES:

Many men are successful - they get what they want out of life, but aren't necessarily wealthy. Musicians. Artists. People who do community work. These men may be quite respected, but they don't have ridiculous amounts of money. Newsflash: You're still very potentially attractive to women!

Again, wealth is an indicator of good traits about you. Success in other fields is too. And quite likely, if you've achieved some success or acclaim in a field, you get treated really well in that area too: Take your mentality from wherever you get success - the one of abundance and privledge - and apply it to everywhere you go.

After that, you need to be attainable: Show her that underneath the art, or speaking, or whatever your chosen path is - show her that underneath that, you're like her too, with similar hopes and dreams, and successes and failures. People who are really successful in some respected, enlightened element of our culture can be intimidating, so show her that a girl like her can get a guy like you.

IF YOU'RE OLDER, AND NOT SUCCESSFUL:

The nice thing about being men is that our value gets higher as we age - as long we achieve commensurate with our age. Look at men who have consistently achieved more and more success as they get older, who never stop, retire, or let themselves stagnate. Men who keep achieving more become more attractive as they get older. We only cease to gain value from aging when we stop achieving more. Take a look at Hugh Hefner, as a great example, of a man who never stopped achieving more, and has in fact become more and more attractive over the years.

If you're older than 40, and you haven't achieved anything in terms of art or culture, in your professional life, in your leisure time, in your family, or anything else, then it's time for a gut-check. Social skills go a long way towards getting better with women. I've seen quite a few students below height 5'5 get plenty of success, as have guys of all levels of physical attractiveness, and all ethnicities and nationalities.

But the fact is - if you haven't achieved anything in 40+ years on this planet that you're proud of, then it's time to overhaul that and start anew. Women aren't attracted to men who have achieved accomplishments because of the accomplishments themselves. There's thousands of things that can be done in this world that people will respect and admire, and here's a true statement: It's not because of the accomplishment itself. It's because the kind of man who gets things done, who strives and works hard, and is decisive and bold and confident - this is the kind of man that accomplishes things, and if you're not accomplishing things, then you're signifying you probably don't have those traits.

Here's the good thing, though: Many men overlook a lot of great things they have going for them. If you've raised children who are now happy and successful, that is an accomplishment, for instance. But if you haven't achieved anything yet, then my first suggestion to you is to start getting involved. Pick up a new hobby, or start working hard in a new profession. Doing this concurrently with learning social skills goes a long way towards showing you are, again, bold, decisive, intelligent, creative, confident, etc.

IF YOU'RE YOUNG, AND HAVE YET TO LEAVE YOUR MARK ON THE WORLD:

A lot of younger guys can clearly see how they're going to be successful and leave their brand on the world - but they haven't yet. Many times a guy under age 30 wonders if he's achieved enough, if he's doing enough, if he can be attractive to women when other guys have done more, have more already.

Here's the great thing for you: If you're under age 30, you're in a position where you can talk about what you're going to achieve - even that you haven't started on yet - and it will give you the value of being confident, bold, decisive, et al, and it will let girls be able to picture themselves with you long-term.

If any guys under 18 years old snuck onto this list or see this article reposted somewhere, you are truly blessed: You can make as many unsubstantiated claims as you want about how you're going to take over the entire world. Remember that going "too far" with them can actually hurt attainability ;) But talk about how you want to have a pool, and a beautiful garden, and a glass sun-room inside your home, and how you want to travel the entire world...

Go for it. As you start to get older, some - just a little - of your value gets tied into whether you've started to achieve professionally or creatively. Before that, painting vivid pictures that show you're a dreamer can capture all the value. Of course, you'll need to back it up by being decisive, confident, and the rest WITH HER - women can't be faked out per se. But if you act confident, and talk confidently - you've got all the value of being confident.

Oh, and everybody - Get lots of compliance. Compliance is good.

An Intresting rap



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cuttin a hole in your ass
i spill blood on your walls
and play tennis with your balls
if the phone rings
dont answer the phone call
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fuck u like a ghoat
peel your skin off
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peace!!

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