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I never used to be able to deal well with rejection. Now that I think about it, the possibility of rejection used to control my actions. I’d be lying if I said that I still don’t have a fear of rejection to some degree, but I think it’s now within a manageable level.
Here’s what I do:
If I ever get rejected, which rarely is as bad as you picture it, reframe it.
You’ll notice naturals doing this. If a girl doesn’t respond well to you, ignore it and move on. I noticed my friend, who is extremely good with women, doing this the other night. He did his little dance move that he always does at this house party (hitaanakurun)and the girl didn’t respond. Instead of it effecting his state of mind, he moved on and ended up dancing with his now girlfriend.
It’s all about how you frame the situation. He could have easily said, “That girl didn’t like my dancing, and therefore me.” But he instead just wrote it off, didn’t dwell on it, and moved to the next girl for success.
Heard this before?
“I’ve got a boyfriend.”
This could be a form of rejection. Instead, why not reframe it?
“Are you happy with it?”
“Looking to upgrade?”
“Would he care if we started hanging out?”
“I’ll tell you what, how about we go out once, and if you have more fun with me, you can break the bad news to him.”
And a personal favorite:“I got a pet cat(or watever u can add here),u dont see ME BRAGGING about it!!!”
see how fun it can be right?? :p
I bet you don't even think about all the skills you are using when you drive your byke/car. "It's simple" you say. You hop on ur byke or car, and ride/drive to your destination.
Big deal, right?
But think back for a second:
Your first driving lesson.
The first time on the road/highway.
First time parallel parking.
Your driving test.
Every time you drive on the road, you are using multiple skills, simultaneously, to not only reach your destination, but also to avoid horrendous accidents. Your eyes check the mirror, the speedometer, the gauges, you make sure to stay in the correct lane, you are watching the other traffic, both in your direction and the opposing.
Well, let me tell you something- when an "average" looking guy goes up to an attractive woman who is a complete stranger, and he walks away with her phone number, or with her herself, you can be sure he's got a license...to drive, if you will.
He can ride right into the territory of a beautiful woman, without causing an accident, a crash, or a breakdown, and then travel into her mind, conveying who he is, so that she will want to join him as he drives away.
It looks like nothing, because his skills have been so integrated to the point of it being instinct- he doesn't even think about what he's doing, it just happens. The first thing that you must realize is that YOU are driving here, NOT HER. So she's not going to do your job.
If you are wearing stinking clothes, or out of fashion clothes, if you need a lesson in basic hygiene, if you don't ensure you have fresh breath, trust me, SHE IS NOT GOING TO TAKE CARE OF THIS FOR YOU.
This is like putting SLUDGE into your gas tank and expecting your byke/car to move. Nobody cares if your byke/car doesn't work. They're not going to fix it for you unless you bring your byke/car in and pay for it.
It's YOUR cyke/car, your responsibility.
YOU are on/in the driver's seat.
And when you approach a woman, no matter what happens, no matter what her reaction, it is up to YOU to take her mentally where you want to go. Let me tell you something, if you go up to a woman in a public place where she is NOT expecting it, you can't expect her to just say "HERE I AM, TAKE ME!".
If it was THAT pathetically easy, EVERY GUY would do it!
Let's face it- it's not typical social convention to do this. To just "go up to a woman". AND THAT IS A GOOD, GOOD THING. Because by NOT following social convention, it shows you have GUTS.
Women LIKE that.
It ALSO is more romantic for a woman to have a man SPONTANEOUSLY approach her than for her to have a formal introduction. It's far more impulsive and thrilling when a man sees a woman and just goes right up to her. So even though a woman may give you at first a slightly defensive reaction, like her eyes widening a bit, RELAX.
DON'T ABANDON SHIP.
STAY ON COURSE.
This is to be expected many times.
STAY COOL.
She is looking to YOU, the MAN, to show her that you are NOT PSYCHO, and ALSO that you are A SEXY, COOL, CONFIDENT MAN who does NOT give up at her natural defensive reaction. One of the things you can do to lessen her fear, is to approach her with a funny TEASE. It's hard to be scared and laughing at the same time. One of my favorite lines to ask a woman who is walking somewhere, "Hey where do you think you're going?" and no matter what she responds, tease her on it.
Remember, it's not the line, you can come up with thousands of your own lines, it's the attitude you convey. TEASING also prevents you from looking like a desperate man trying to kiss up to her. Your BODY LANGUAGE conveys much of your message as well- if you are SMILING the ENTIRE time you are talking to her, she will feel that she already has you hook line and sinker, and so there is nothing left for her to work for - you've ROBBED her of THE JOY of trying to IMPRESS YOU.
After all, she doesn't HAVE to try anymore, since you've indicated with your constant smiling that she ALREADY HAS you. Instead of giving a woman ALL THE POWER in the interaction, I recommend you HOLD ON to some of it yourself, and let a woman EARN the rest.
For example, who says you have to FACE A WOMAN COMPLETELY when you talk to her? Even though usually, you SHOULD look at her, and you should NOT have darting eyes, the principle of holding on to your power can even bend this rule if you understand how it works. But certainly, you DON'T HAVE TO ACTUALLY FACE HER WITH THE REST OF YOUR BODY.
Although here it was a perfectly natural thing to do, most guys would behave as if "Well, it's a pretty girl, I want to show her my respect and interest so of course I'm going to look at her- I don't want to lose her by not looking at her'".
Women WANT men, but they DON'T WANT what they ALREADY HAVE. When you give all your power away to women, they KNOW that they
already have you. This is why it is so crucial to be more cavalier with women, especially when you first meet them. Any nervous gestures, erratic or rapid body movements all show her that you think she is the greatest thing on earth and that you value yourself as being below her.
Usually, after a bit of a tease, she will be more relaxed, if not, continue to be calm and cool, and DO NOT TURN INTO AN APOLOGETIC SCARED CHILD.
Instead, tease her again with some humor. You don't HAVE to tease her, you could just make small talk- if you use the RIGHT VOICE TONE, the RIGHT BODY LANGUAGE, the RIGHT FACIAL EXPRESSIONS. I could say the word "Hi" in at least 50 different ways, to convey anything from total insecurity, to total confidence, to a combination of a mischievous sly smile with a tone of naughtiness.
Do you see how this can work?
Once you have a woman warmed up, to the fact that you are NOT a psycho, and that YOU ARE a masculine, cool guy, I recommend that you have a bit of small talk to help make a connection between the two of you- i.e. what she's getting in the mall, or where she's coming from, or where did she get that interesting hat, or button, etc, etc, etc. If the conversation is really going great, you can arrange an INSTANT DATE right then and there- tell her you both should discuss some more over a coffee.
After your little instant date, at the bare minimum give her a hug and if she holds on, give her a kiss. AGAIN, your voice tone, your body language, all must convey that you are totally relaxed and calm and IN CONTROL....WOMEN NEED TO BE LED BY A MAN, they are REPULSED by the idea of THEM leading YOU.
You don’t have to go for the "Instant Date", you could instead just tell her to give you her email, (or number- I believe email is practical and easier for everyone to reach each other these days at their convenience- plus she doesn't have to worry if you are psycho).
And no matter what, don't worry about the consequences of your approach- if she digs you, great, if she doesn't, big deal, there are thousands of other women waiting and wanting for a cool guy like you to approach them. And as your skills get better, you'll notice that the real question becomes who do YOU select to go out with.Wont that be good for a change?? :P
OK I GAVE U A GOOD ENOUGH WARNING.....READ AT UR OWN RISK!!
Okay I was dating this girl. Long story short she invited me over to her place to show me the new "tv" that she had just purchased (it was a 50 inch plasma). She put on her all time favorite, "Heart Breakers." Anyways the movie was soooooo boring (no offense to the ppl who like it) I was just soo bored out of my mind.
I decided to mess around with her.(now now dont judge me ok...) I started kissing her neck/ears/pretty much everywhere. It got to the point where she was just so excited that she started writhing and breathing heavily. Then I had the brilliant idea of just getting up and leaving. That's right, I got up and left (or tried to anyways).
She looked at me really confused and was like
Her: wtf?! wtf do you mean you have to go?
Me: I just remembered, I have to go a friend's place..haha sorry, maybe another time..
Her: ..... *frown on her face*
As I was walking about, she grabbed me by the arms and literally tackled me down.
Her: Fuck that, your stupid friend can wait, you're not going anywhere!
Holly crap, it could have totally been considered rape if it was the other way around. hahaha she was good though, so I let it go..
and couple of hours latter..as i walked out of that house with my shirt buttoned up in the wrong holes (lol only knew after I got home..no wonder people were starting at me in a funny way)..
Has anyone had something similar happen to them? :P
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Is kissing good?
It helps prevent tooth decay (better than brushing your teeth?) Dr. Peter Gorden, Dental Advisor at the British Dental Association, explains. “After eating, your mouth is full of sugar solution and acidic saliva, which cause plaque build up. Kissing is nature’s own cleaning process”, he adds. “It stimulates saliva flow and brings plaque levels down to normal.” I asked my dentist and after he blushed, he agreed.
It relieves tension. A passionate kiss is a great relaxation technique, says stress consultant, Michelle Kay Mcnabb. ” When your mouth is in a kissing position, you are almost smiling and as our emotions and body language are so closely linked, it’s almost impossible to smile and feel tense at the same time,” she explains. “Also, your breathing becomes deeper and your eyes close when you kiss; that’s what you do when you relax. It’s a perfect way to shut out the world.”
It helps you lose weight.– just how long can you do that? You need use 3000 calories to lose one pound, i.e., 30,000 minutes, 500 hours… “A long kiss makes the metabolism burn up sugar faster than usual,” says Claire Potter. “The calories burned depend on the intensity, but you can rely on 10 calories for every 10 minutes.”
It slows the aging process. (That’s important! ) “Kissing helps to tone your cheek and jaw muscles, so they’re less likely to sag,” says Cosmo’s Fitness Consultant, Claire Potter.
It increases fitness levels. (Okay, now there is really no reason why you can’t start some exercise now). “Your heart is pumping, your pulse is racing…”If kissing is exciting, you release adrenaline into the bloodstream and your heart pumps more blood around your body,” says Dr. Susan Hotchkies. “It’s a great cardiovascular workout.”
It’s a good indication of what’s to come. (Make sure he or she is not married, please ). Kissing a new guy gives you the perfect opportunity to check out his pheromones - the chemical messengers that signal sexual attraction. ” The first kiss is always a good way to work out if there’s any chemistry between you, “says Paul Brown, a sexual and marital therapist. ” In humans, it’s thought that smells plays a vital part in subconscious attraction, and if your pheromones aren’t ‘in tune’, you’re unlikely to hit off!
It boosts self-esteem. (Just make sure you have a good dental insurance and be careful with braces on your teeth!) There’s nothing better than a passionate kiss for a major dose of feel good factor. “In theory, when you’re kissing, you’re happy. And when you’re happy, you feel good about yourself,” says psychotherapist Paul Zeal.
Now don’t just go around kissing anybody!
