Get over Ex-Girlfriend... PART 1

Make her jealous...

First of all, you need to learn when and how to take a break. You need a recuperation period after any romantic entanglement. I call this the recharge period, and it's vitally necessary for many reasons:

- Your self-esteem is in the crapper. That's why you feel the urgency to hurry up and get back out there and meet new girls. You're running a dialog in your head (below your conscious awareness) that makes you believe that since you lost this relationship, you might not get another woman again EVER. It's not true, man. You did it once; you can do it again.

- You really miss her, and that's all the more reason not to rush out into another relationship. You're right, if you had another girl, you wouldn't think of her. Sure, you tell yourself you'd like to just go out and get laid, but the reality is that you will probably end up dating whoever you DO wind up sleeping with and thus turning her into rebound girl. You'll realize you probably settled, and you'll start to feel smothered, and then you'll realize your mistake and wind up hurting some other poor girl.(which in my view is very bad!!!)

Stop the mistake before it's made. This need is created by your falsely lowered self-esteem telling you that you need a replacement girl. What you need is DISTRACTION, not a substitute.

- You can't be a whole man until you learn how to live and be happy without a woman in your life. Period.

Your recuperation starts here and now. Engage your self-discipline and do the following:

- Stop calling her. Yeah, I know you're probably falling victim to that compulsive voice in the back of your head that wants to know 'Is she seeing other people? Do we still have a chance?'

If you stay in contact with her you'll only wind up begging for her to reconsider, then tearful mementos at her doorstep, and further supplication on your part. You'll wind up like one of the guys on "Scrubs," trading your balls for sex. Every time you get the urge to call her, have a substitute activity that gives you an equal amount of pleasure, such as turning on the X-box (I call this X-therapy) or going out for a bike-ride. Turn your pain into your gain.

- Take a few weeks off from women - COMPLETELY. Don't give them a second thought. Don't pressure yourself into picking up or throwing out lines or anything. If you approach a girl now, you'll probably blow it because of all this anxiety you've created for yourself. Take a little while and get your game together.

When you ARE ready for a girl you need to approach her as if she were any other woman. If you build her up to be some kind of Greek Goddess, you'll just be intimidated and spooked on your attempts to talk with her, and you'll also be very unattractive.

Dont be a Desparado-wanna-get-GF

ps:Part 2 is next...

.....DarkCasanova.....